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Anonymous wrote:Im fascinated by big families! I only have one child, and I dont have instagram, but if I did im sure I would watch this content! Its just such an odd concept to me to have more than say 5 kids. How do they feed them? Where do they live? What type of activities do they do? Are the kids happy? I have so many questions. I dont know any of these families in real life, so I can understand that their might be a market to view from afar (and judge).

My friend has three and has to go to the grocery store every other day to feed them.

Or, just buy more during the trip you go.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there’s something healthy about kids not getting all of their parents’ attention all the time. And what’s so wrong with older kids being expected to help cook? These are basic life skills and kids should take pride in contributing to the household.

My sister and I joke that we practically raised our baby brother when we were teenagers. Endless diaper changes, made baby food, took him on walks, did school runs. It didn’t replace an adult parent and the real responsibilities of being a parent of course. But it was one of the greatest honors of my life.

You are sick

You’re a bitter loser. PP sounds great.

The answer is to LOG OFF.

Anonymous wrote:In a time of social disconnection, large families seem more healthy not less.

I have 3. I know I can’t control everything and it’s key to my happiness as a parent. The intensive parenting espoused here is often toxic.

I know multiple big families. They are not happier. They have different problems- special needs kids, special kid’s needs being ignored because no one has time or energy for this, older siblings stuck babysitting younger ones, sibling rivalry for resources and time with parents, jealousy and constant lack of money that transcends all aspects of life.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why my Instagram feed keeps sharing these insane posts of the mom with each of her 10 children walking by her one-by-one, as if there's some huge accomplishment? Usually they end with the announcement that surprise, there's another one on the way! Or weirdly announcing how old the mom was when she gave birth to each child?

Obviously there's some sort of audience for this, but I do not understand it. At all.

I think it's interesting as a mom of 2. Think about it, the cooking, cleaning and how they all would just play with each other.....seems fascinating.

Anonymous wrote:Im fascinated by big families! I only have one child, and I dont have instagram, but if I did im sure I would watch this content! Its just such an odd concept to me to have more than say 5 kids. How do they feed them? Where do they live? What type of activities do they do? Are the kids happy? I have so many questions. I dont know any of these families in real life, so I can understand that their might be a market to view from afar (and judge).

My friend has three and has to go to the grocery store every other day to feed them.

Have you seen the family with maybe 8 kids and they all live in a camper van? Talk about crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:It is mental illness. No sane person will have that many kids.

I agree. It’s essentially an addiction. Instead of collecting purses they collect babies.

I mean, if you’re going to have an addiction, babies are a happy one! 🤣

But seriously, the amount of self-sacrifice it takes to sustain a pregnancy, not to say anything of actually raising the child (which they are not ignorant of), makes me suspicious of the claim that mothers of huge families are choosing to have children because of an undefined mental illness.

There is a family on YouTube that comes up on my algorithm for some reason and is pretty fascinating to watch. She has a new baby every other year (at this point 8 or 9 kids?), home schools, makes bread from sourdough batch, everything that you would typically think of when we imagine ‘homestead’.

The most interesting part is that she wasn’t raised like that and comes from a ‘conventional’ family with 2 others siblings, went to school all the way to college, not particularly religious upbringing etc. It’s fascinating to think of the mindset change that happened to start her adult life.

Anonymous wrote:It is mental illness. No sane person will have that many kids.

I agree. It’s essentially an addiction. Instead of collecting purses they collect babies.

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Anonymous wrote:I click on them because I’m curious how they
afford them.

They sell essential oils.

They can afford them when they become influencers, which is partly why I try to avoid the content. I know a family IRL that has become an influencer by making videos of their kids. It is fascinating but also really unfair to the kids who are being manipulated to generate social media content.

DP - the only person I know of who sold essential oils is a mother of 1.

It is mental illness. No sane person will have that many kids.

Being a financially successful influencer is hugely time-consuming. Which is why I think it’s hypocritical and dishonest to shill yourself as Suzy Homemaker/Mom, when in reality that mom is spending all her time creating content.

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Anonymous wrote:I click on them because I’m curious how they
afford them.

They sell essential oils.

They can afford them when they become influencers, which is partly why I try to avoid the content. I know a family IRL that has become an influencer by making videos of their kids. It is fascinating but also really unfair to the kids who are being manipulated to generate social media content.

In a time of social disconnection, large families seem more healthy not less.

I have 3. I know I can’t control everything and it’s key to my happiness as a parent. The intensive parenting espoused here is often toxic.