Anonymous
04/25/2024 09:27
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP
Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!
Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.
omg. B is the victim, A is the rescuer and I (op) am the persecutor. Thanks, pp.
or maybe I'm the victim and A is the persecutor? Bottom line: this is dysfunctional.
Anonymous
04/25/2024 09:26
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
Anonymous wrote:OP
Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!
Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.
omg. B is the victim, A is the rescuer and I (op) am the persecutor. Thanks, pp.
Anonymous
04/25/2024 09:22
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s called. I can’t navigate everybody’s personalities and I’m just planning an event and you guys decide if you want to attend based on who’s there.
It's OK if she informs op that B is going too when asking. Not ok, knowing their history, to tell her after she agreed
According to OP her "history" with B is that B told her she was out of shape once. This is not exactly what I'd call "history." I'm guessing that OP, A, & B are all main characters.
You missed the part where B was rude and curt with op every time they saw each other.
Anonymous
04/25/2024 08:06
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
OP
Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!
Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.
Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!
Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.
Anonymous
04/25/2024 08:02
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
Why not invite A to your house? B won’t be able to invite herself to that.
Or let them both fade. Their relationship may erupt and you could end up friends with A in the future without B around.
The long game wins sometimes.
Or let them both fade. Their relationship may erupt and you could end up friends with A in the future without B around.
The long game wins sometimes.
Anonymous
04/25/2024 07:57
Subject: Re:What would you call this? Friend question.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s called. I can’t navigate everybody’s personalities and I’m just planning an event and you guys decide if you want to attend based on who’s there.
It's OK if she informs op that B is going too when asking. Not ok, knowing their history, to tell her after she agreed
According to OP her "history" with B is that B told her she was out of shape once. This is not exactly what I'd call "history." I'm guessing that OP, A, & B are all main characters.