Anonymous
04/24/2024 09:19
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:This comes up periodically on DCUM. I think I posted this article before but I think it's very telling regarding the sexual and dating norms on imbalanced campuses:
https://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/07/fashion/07campus.html?unlocked_article_code=1.m00.WWzs.UdNJWt3a1tRz&smid=url-share
Some quotes:
Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said.
Needless to say, this puts guys in a position to play the field, and tends to mean that even the ones willing to make a commitment come with storied romantic histories. Rachel Sasser, a senior history major at the table, said that before she and her boyfriend started dating, he had “hooked up with a least five of my friends in my sorority — that I know of.”
“A lot of my friends will meet someone and go home for the night and just hope for the best the next morning,” Ms. Lynch said. “They’ll text them and say: ‘I had a great time. Want to hang out next week?’ And they don’t respond.”
Even worse, “Girls feel pressured to do more than they’re comfortable with, to lock it down,” Ms. Lynch said.
As for a man's cheating, "that's a thing that girls let slide, because you have to," said Emily Kennard, a junior at North Carolina. "If you don't let it slide, you don't have a boyfriend." (Ms. Kennard, however, said that she does not personally tolerate cheating).
That's hilarious. Jayne is dating out of her league and complaining that she can't keep up.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 09:17
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Women have each and some don't want anyone, so more women is fine. A large part of world history is achieving social stability by thinning out the male population. It's great for college, not so great for where the non college men go.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 00:28
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:men who went to college before were middle class, now men who go to college think they are "it", much harder for women to find quality men
its really unfair, no matter what happens guy end up with the advantage--before in jobs and maybe even now, but definitely now in dating
Wait, wtf? Guys clearly do not have an advantage in applying to college (that’s why they’re in the minority) which automatically means a disadvantage in applying to quality jobs but you’re moaning that men have all the advantages? 🙄
They're in the minority because fewer are applying. They're opting to not go to college. They're generally getting in at higher rates.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 00:22
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:men who went to college before were middle class, now men who go to college think they are "it", much harder for women to find quality men
its really unfair, no matter what happens guy end up with the advantage--before in jobs and maybe even now, but definitely now in dating
Wait, wtf? Guys clearly do not have an advantage in applying to college (that’s why they’re in the minority) which automatically means a disadvantage in applying to quality jobs but you’re moaning that men have all the advantages? 🙄
Anonymous
04/24/2024 00:20
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD is at UVA which is not severely unbalanced but it is and it is very hard to find guys who are interested in dating. Meanwhile my DS had no trouble finding girls to date there.
My DD is at UVA too. Her two older brothers also attend/attended. Their experiences are fairly similar to the PP above. I will say, while my DD is asked out on dates frequently, mainly for fraternity events, these dates are almost always one and done. If she likes the guy and asks him out on a second date, his answer is usually no thanks. She is in a STEM field so she's likely around more guys than many of the female students.
If she’s not getting second dates from STEM nerds then she’s the problem not the guys.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 00:17
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:This also makes me want to send my straight son to a 50/50 school. He is a terrific guy and I want him to enjoy balanced romantic relationships. It’s where the magic happens when you connect with someone and really explore that with trust. It’s also just important to treat people decently.
I don’t think it is just the women losing out with current 60/40 trend.
How about let him decide what’s the best environment for him? 🙄
Anonymous
04/23/2024 22:48
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
This also makes me want to send my straight son to a 50/50 school. He is a terrific guy and I want him to enjoy balanced romantic relationships. It’s where the magic happens when you connect with someone and really explore that with trust. It’s also just important to treat people decently.
I don’t think it is just the women losing out with current 60/40 trend.
I don’t think it is just the women losing out with current 60/40 trend.
Anonymous
04/23/2024 22:26
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately K-12 is taught by majority female and boys struggle more. Because of this, they burn out and aren’t interested in college. The problem needs to be fixed at that level. Make it more enjoyable for boys, not just sit all day and take notes.
But boys sat in classrooms all day “in the old days” and yet went to college at higher rates. Something else is going on.
Anonymous
04/23/2024 22:20
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
I wonder about the plight of boys at Wabash
Anonymous
04/23/2024 21:46
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
I went to a college mainly male and it was really hard to hook up as a guy. That is a huge drawback. Parties that are 75 percent male are weird
Anonymous
04/23/2024 21:30
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:I was chewed out on another post about the skewed numbers of female college grads and male migrants...an ivy educated women told me Im crazy on here...
She also didn't like the fact that women will never have it all , they have to choose what their priorities are, pregnancy is a toll and so is child rearing, as far as I know men cant yet carry babies yet, and no matter how evolved the male partner is he is just more likely to let things slide with kids than mothers...I have daughters and told them they will have to prioritize in life, soon it will be as hard to get a normal male partner(as a female) as it is to get into Brown
Anonymous
04/23/2024 21:25
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
I was chewed out on another post about the skewed numbers of female college grads and male migrants...an ivy educated women told me Im crazy on here...
Anonymous
04/23/2024 20:24
Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
This comes up periodically on DCUM. I think I posted this article before but I think it's very telling regarding the sexual and dating norms on imbalanced campuses:
https://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/07/fashion/07campus.html?unlocked_article_code=1.m00.WWzs.UdNJWt3a1tRz&smid=url-share
Some quotes:
Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said.
Needless to say, this puts guys in a position to play the field, and tends to mean that even the ones willing to make a commitment come with storied romantic histories. Rachel Sasser, a senior history major at the table, said that before she and her boyfriend started dating, he had “hooked up with a least five of my friends in my sorority — that I know of.”
“A lot of my friends will meet someone and go home for the night and just hope for the best the next morning,” Ms. Lynch said. “They’ll text them and say: ‘I had a great time. Want to hang out next week?’ And they don’t respond.”
Even worse, “Girls feel pressured to do more than they’re comfortable with, to lock it down,” Ms. Lynch said.
As for a man's cheating, "that's a thing that girls let slide, because you have to," said Emily Kennard, a junior at North Carolina. "If you don't let it slide, you don't have a boyfriend." (Ms. Kennard, however, said that she does not personally tolerate cheating).
https://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/07/fashion/07campus.html?unlocked_article_code=1.m00.WWzs.UdNJWt3a1tRz&smid=url-share
Some quotes:
Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said.
Needless to say, this puts guys in a position to play the field, and tends to mean that even the ones willing to make a commitment come with storied romantic histories. Rachel Sasser, a senior history major at the table, said that before she and her boyfriend started dating, he had “hooked up with a least five of my friends in my sorority — that I know of.”
“A lot of my friends will meet someone and go home for the night and just hope for the best the next morning,” Ms. Lynch said. “They’ll text them and say: ‘I had a great time. Want to hang out next week?’ And they don’t respond.”
Even worse, “Girls feel pressured to do more than they’re comfortable with, to lock it down,” Ms. Lynch said.
As for a man's cheating, "that's a thing that girls let slide, because you have to," said Emily Kennard, a junior at North Carolina. "If you don't let it slide, you don't have a boyfriend." (Ms. Kennard, however, said that she does not personally tolerate cheating).
Anonymous
04/23/2024 19:35
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Here's what you need to know:
https://www.baconsrebellion.com/wp/lopsided-gender-ratios-and-the-epidemic-of-rape/
LOL at citing a 2015 opinion piece quoting one author's theory as evidentiary proof.
Anonymous
04/23/2024 19:20
Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Here's what you need to know:
https://www.baconsrebellion.com/wp/lopsided-gender-ratios-and-the-epidemic-of-rape/
https://www.baconsrebellion.com/wp/lopsided-gender-ratios-and-the-epidemic-of-rape/