Anonymous
Post 09/05/2024 18:50     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
Anonymous wrote:OP’s post was from last April so I’m sure she has figured it out by now.


I would love to know the details behind this, and how it all worked out.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 22:32     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
OP’s post was from last April so I’m sure she has figured it out by now.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 22:23     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
Anonymous wrote:
OP,

If this is criminal in nature, you call the police.

If it's less than that, and it happened on school grounds, you file a bullying complaint with the school. Please understand that schools protect their own, and they often seek to hide information from police. So for criminal matters, always bypass the school, and always call the police.

If it happened outside school grounds or before or after school and it's not criminal, but you still want to alert the children's parents... then you have to investigate on your own. Google the kids' names and phone numbers, maybe you'll get a hit on an address in the area, with the names of the homeowners. Something like that.




Me again. It's usually best NOT to contact the parents of the perpetrators. That's what any lawyer will tell you. Parents risk being in full-blown denial. Why should they believe you? What evidence do you have?

Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 22:09     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
This doesn’t make a lot of sense.
Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 21:16     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents

OP,

If this is criminal in nature, you call the police.

If it's less than that, and it happened on school grounds, you file a bullying complaint with the school. Please understand that schools protect their own, and they often seek to hide information from police. So for criminal matters, always bypass the school, and always call the police.

If it happened outside school grounds or before or after school and it's not criminal, but you still want to alert the children's parents... then you have to investigate on your own. Google the kids' names and phone numbers, maybe you'll get a hit on an address in the area, with the names of the homeowners. Something like that.


Anonymous
Post 08/29/2024 21:10     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
Every PTA does directories differently, if they do at all.
-former APS ES PTA prez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"You don't want to involve the school yet you've spoken to the principal? Seems like you HAVE involved the school."

I have not told the school what happened. Believe me, it adds up. The principle understood as it involves behavior outside school. I also spoke with my attorney to ensure I am approaching this appropriately.


OP, I don't have any answers for you, but I can't believe some of these responses. If you have an involved an attorney, it must be serious. Good luck to you. I am not a Dorothy Hamm parent, but I think all APS schools use the same online PTA directory, searchable by first name as well as last. You can probably narrow your daughter's friends down that way.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2024 18:36     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
Google kid name and or just last name AND arlington, va most people show up. Either linked in, property records, etc…
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2024 12:05     Subject: Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents
Anonymous wrote:NP. You people are insane. There is so much crazy stuff going on these days, from dangerous social media “challenges” to online predators to teenage crime and theft to early and very unsafe sexual behavior, I’d 100% want to at least hear what any parent had to say.


This. If the principal called me with your information, I would absolutely call you. Can't say I would not hand up and block your number at some point if you sounded crazy, but I would hear you out at least for a bit. Also, I can totally understand why OP is being vague. OP can you at least give us a category of behavior. People might be more willing to give advice if your plea was at all relatable.