Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:45
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
My 7th grader goes to bed around 9:15 but reads until 10:00/10:30 (says she can’t fall asleep earlier). Then she’s up at 6:00 (yay fcps). So approximately 8 hr but could use more…
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:36
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.
You can force him to go to bed at 9:30pm. Kids need time for their minds and bodies to relax.
My parents never enforced bed time, and I had sleep issues until my late late 30s.
You probably have sleep issues becuase you have mental health issues, this is the main cause of sleep problems. Maybe manage your anxiety better.
Sorry, I have 4 kids, 1 in medical school, one in undergrad and one a senior and my 14yr old. You cannot "force" anyone to go to sleep at 930. You need to land the helicopter at some point and teach your kids to self regulate. Not letting them have agency is exactly what leads to massive mental health issues.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:34
Subject: Re:how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:The parents with athletes who are letting them get less sleep are foolish. Studies show the more sleep a kid gets, the bigger and better their potential is in success at their sport. You are stifling their physical and mental growth capacity by shortchanging their sleep during these critical years.
We protect our teens' sleep at all costs: no late dinners, parties, games/practices, certainly no socializing/being on the phone late. If your kid truly prioritizes the sport they love, they should have the sense (or parents who educate them) about how critical sleep is (among other things like nutrition).
This sounds satirical but in case it’s not, can you please define “late” and how long you plan to protect your children’s sleep?
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:26
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.
I would say, I'm getting you an old school alarm clock and you need to start waking yourself in the morning. If you can't do it, I'll try shutting electronics off at 9:30 to help you wind down earlier the night before.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:24
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
I wish mine went to bed at 9, but that never happens. They have a lot of homework. It never seems to get finished early in the afternoon/evening, even when they have the time available. Most night about 10:30-1130 is when they go. Up at 6:30.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:22
Subject: Re:how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
My 8th grader goes to bed at 10:30-10:45 and wakes at 8:15. His school has a 9:00 a.m. start time (HB Woodlawn in APS). I drive him because it is on my way and I don't have to be at the office at any set time.
That 9:00 a.m. start time is such a blessing. My oldest had to catch his middle school bus at 7:05 when in 6th grade and it was hell. I honestly don't think anyone in our family would be able to do a bedtime earlier than 10:15 or so, no matter how early the wakeup. We are all "night people," and we have a lot going on in the evenings.
That 9:00 a.m. start time is such a blessing. My oldest had to catch his middle school bus at 7:05 when in 6th grade and it was hell. I honestly don't think anyone in our family would be able to do a bedtime earlier than 10:15 or so, no matter how early the wakeup. We are all "night people," and we have a lot going on in the evenings.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:21
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
14-year-old. Bedtime is aspirationally 9:30, but really lights aren’t out until 10. Wake up at 6:30, out the door at 7:30.
I know it’s not enough sleep but don’t seem to be able to move it back - not with homework, instrument practice, and free time, which I absolutely do want him to have.
It’s tough.
I know it’s not enough sleep but don’t seem to be able to move it back - not with homework, instrument practice, and free time, which I absolutely do want him to have.
It’s tough.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:21
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader is allowed to stay up later than 9:00 pm. I think 9:00 is really early for a middle schooler.
This. Honestly, the idea of a "bedtime" for a teenager is odd to me. Mine has to get up a bit before 6am and gets to sleep when he can after activities and homework and, yes, sometimes just wasting time if he has caught up on sleep over the weekend.
It is. I tell my 14 yo good night when I go to bed and then assume he goes to sleep at some point. If not, oh well, he’ll be tired the next day. He’s usually asleep between 9:30 and 10 from what he tells me but he really doesn’t have a “bedtime”.
how can you feel good about this? bc he's 14 he no longer needs parenting? ugh, this is what's wrong with this generation -- shitty parents.
Huh. NP. So my 14 year old kid gets up at 630am to be out the door by about 720am. He walks to school. Our practice is the phone goes away at 9pm (both turns off and needs to be charging downstairs) and he's expected to be in his room doing something quietly. Sometimes that's sleeping. Sometimes he's not tired and he reads a book. Sometime he re-organizes his closet or just messes around in his room. Whatever just be quiet.
I don't think a 14 year old needs a strict lights out bed time like a little kid needs and in fact, I think that's weird. Do you want someone turning out the light and making you lay there if you're not tired yet? At what age does the kid get any agency?
14 yr olds are not mature enough to understand the ramifications of not having enough sleep.
By 16 or 17, they should have a better understanding, especially if they are planning to go to college away from home. They need to start taking responsibility about their sleep. But, 14 is still too young.
- parent of 19 at college and a 15 yr old.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:20
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.
Move the electronics bedtime earlier.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:19
Subject: Re:how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:The parents with athletes who are letting them get less sleep are foolish. Studies show the more sleep a kid gets, the bigger and better their potential is in success at their sport. You are stifling their physical and mental growth capacity by shortchanging their sleep during these critical years.
We protect our teens' sleep at all costs: no late dinners, parties, games/practices, certainly no socializing/being on the phone late. If your kid truly prioritizes the sport they love, they should have the sense (or parents who educate them) about how critical sleep is (among other things like nutrition).
+1 sleep is when their bodies grow and minds refresh.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:18
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.
You can force him to go to bed at 9:30pm. Kids need time for their minds and bodies to relax.
My parents never enforced bed time, and I had sleep issues until my late late 30s.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:16
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
My kid is in HS, and they tell me that some of the kids are not going to sleep until past 1am. They are sleep deprived. My kids have told me that most are half asleep during the first two periods.
My 15 yr old has asked me if they could go to bed at 11pm. I said no. We compromised, so 10pm on weekdays.
Get the phones out of their rooms, parents! This is the problem.
My 15 yr old has asked me if they could go to bed at 11pm. I said no. We compromised, so 10pm on weekdays.
Get the phones out of their rooms, parents! This is the problem.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:14
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
13y DD begins to wind down at 9pm and is usually asleep by 10pm. Alarm goes off at 645am. HM load and sports commitments are a lot right now... I don't see it changing anytime soon either
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:13
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.
Anonymous
04/17/2024 12:13
Subject: how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?
Ours sleeps 9pm-7am. When bedtime slips to 9:30 pm, we notice the difference.