Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 23:02     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
SN child. We are at breaking point.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 22:53     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
That his cpap broke six months ago.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 22:48     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Anonymous wrote:Division of labor

DH’s complete lack of interest in sex and unwillingness to look into it or change

DH avoidance of anything stressful in life

DW mental health struggles

Money




I would say avoidance/perfectionism too. My husband will definitely just tell me we can talk about something later and then later never comes. Or he’s stressed about spending money and we can’t identify a perfect option so rather than compromise he wants to just wait indefinitely for something to be different. I end up making decisions without him more than either of us like but sometimes you have to do SOMETHING.

I wonder what he would say. Probably our kids or mismatch in libido. Or maybe that I don’t think he does enough of the day to day stuff.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 22:04     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Anonymous wrote:Lack of communication or ability to communicate. Also, inability to have empathy.


This one which can manifest many ways, times and places including in the bedroom
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:59     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
His parents and no understanding of what boundaries even are
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:46     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Being in sandwich generation between high needs child with chronic health conditions and eldercare issues
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:41     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Only fans addiction
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:36     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Spouse’s weight gain. And his complete disinterest in ever talking about our relationship.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:36     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lack of communication or ability to communicate. Also, inability to have empathy.


This.


This was us for many years. Gottman helped us enormously.


Did you go to therapy or is this something you can DIY with a book? Thanks for the suggestion.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 21:34     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Frequently starts unnecessary projects or embarks on side hustles without considering the true cost to herself, anyone else, or the household. Leaves previous projects unfinished when they are no longer the new shiny thing.


Any chance that there is mania?

Sounds more like ADHD to me. Takes one to know one.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 18:00     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Anonymous wrote:Frequently starts unnecessary projects or embarks on side hustles without considering the true cost to herself, anyone else, or the household. Leaves previous projects unfinished when they are no longer the new shiny thing.


Is this the garden projects wife?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 17:58     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Some kind of undiagnosed special need.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 17:54     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
My DD with severe nonverbal autism. I thank God that he gave me her twin brother and DH to help me in our journey.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 17:49     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
cadaverous lay
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2024 17:41     Subject: Biggest strain in your marriage / relationship
Differences in child rearing. Dad always wanted to say yes/be the fun parent, all discipline was left to me. Made me always be the bad guy