Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 12:01     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
We were both 20 when we met. He walked past me one day at school. I searched campus for hin every day until I spotted him a month later in the cafeteria. I introduced myself to him, we became friends and started dating a month later. We got married 8 years later and have been happily married for 25 years. He recently revealed to me that he spotted me about a month before I spotted him. He liked me, but was too shy to approach me.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:59     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


🤮
Too old for you.


NP and if she had been 17 or even 22 with the same age gap, I’d agree! But not at the phase of life where they met! At that age, the spread is just about perfect because both are full adults with fully-firmed judgment centers in their brains! Plus—she is of ideal child-bearing age and he is old enough where he is probably eager to have kids/family (assuming this isn’t his second marriage….which….let’s face it—it probably is unless he’s a weirdo! 🤪)
But I don’t fine a 13-year age gap that strange at all when both parties are over 30


Nope, still a wide age gap. And by your argument, you conveniently left out when he gets old and she isn’t.


That’s not a “convenient” leave-out.
It’s just not a concern that Inhave for them because she’s a grown woman who is capable of taking ownership of her own decisions and I assume that she can do the math and realize that she will be 60 when he’s 73….or 75 when he’s 88…they’ll figure it out!
And honestly their kids are lucky that they probably won’t have the unpleasant reality of trying to navigate caring for two aging parents with dementia at the same time….
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:58     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:Met at church at age 14.
Started dating last year if high school, after we knew we realized we were going to the same university.
Got married the month after college graduation. 1996


You would only date in high school because you were going to same college? Huh?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:55     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Met at church at age 14.
Started dating last year if high school, after we knew we realized we were going to the same university.
Got married the month after college graduation. 1996
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:55     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


Yes but they weren't dating when he was a senior and she was in kindergarten, were they?


Did pp say that? Or you are so obtuse that you missed the point?


I won't respond by calling you names but I don't think a 12-year age difference when you are in your 30s and 40s is a big deal. My husband and I are the same age and the biggest age gap I've ever had was 4 years so I have no stake in this game but I don't see why you're making such a big deal about it. You clearly have an issue but the PP says they're happy so your opinion is irrelevant.

It’s 13 years but like how you tried to downplay it.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:54     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


Yes but they weren't dating when he was a senior and she was in kindergarten, were they?


Did pp say that? Or you are so obtuse that you missed the point?


I won't respond by calling you names but I don't think a 12-year age difference when you are in your 30s and 40s is a big deal. My husband and I are the same age and the biggest age gap I've ever had was 4 years so I have no stake in this game but I don't see why you're making such a big deal about it. You clearly have an issue but the PP says they're happy so your opinion is irrelevant.


You’re making a big deal by commenting while accusing someone else of making a big deal. Your opinion is just as irrelevant.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:53     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


🤮
Too old for you.


NP and if she had been 17 or even 22 with the same age gap, I’d agree! But not at the phase of life where they met! At that age, the spread is just about perfect because both are full adults with fully-firmed judgment centers in their brains! Plus—she is of ideal child-bearing age and he is old enough where he is probably eager to have kids/family (assuming this isn’t his second marriage….which….let’s face it—it probably is unless he’s a weirdo! 🤪)
But I don’t fine a 13-year age gap that strange at all when both parties are over 30


Nope, still a wide age gap. And by your argument, you conveniently left out when he gets old and she isn’t.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:53     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


Yes but they weren't dating when he was a senior and she was in kindergarten, were they?


Did pp say that? Or you are so obtuse that you missed the point?


I won't respond by calling you names but I don't think a 12-year age difference when you are in your 30s and 40s is a big deal. My husband and I are the same age and the biggest age gap I've ever had was 4 years so I have no stake in this game but I don't see why you're making such a big deal about it. You clearly have an issue but the PP says they're happy so your opinion is irrelevant.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:50     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


🤮
Too old for you.


NP and if she had been 17 or even 22 with the same age gap, I’d agree! But not at the phase of life where they met! At that age, the spread is just about perfect because both are full adults with fully-firmed judgment centers in their brains! Plus—she is of ideal child-bearing age and he is old enough where he is probably eager to have kids/family (assuming this isn’t his second marriage….which….let’s face it—it probably is unless he’s a weirdo! 🤪)
But I don’t fine a 13-year age gap that strange at all when both parties are over 30
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:50     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


Yes but they weren't dating when he was a senior and she was in kindergarten, were they?


Did pp say that? Or you are so obtuse that you missed the point?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:49     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


Was he married to someone else when you met? Because I know that story...


Dp. That one made me pause when I read it. Red flags alarm went up for multiple reasons.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:48     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


Yes but they weren't dating when he was a senior and she was in kindergarten, were they?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:47     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


Was he married to someone else when you met? Because I know that story...
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:46     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was 24 he was 29. We met on OkCupid about 14 years ago! We married 3ish years after meeting and have been very happy together!


Nice to hear. I hear so many OLD horror stories on here. Glad to know it’s possible for ppl to meet this way.


Pp here. I feel like I hear a lot more horror stories now from my coworkers in their 20s than I ever experienced or my friends experienced back when we were on it.


I met DH on match in 2007. Moved In together at 1 yr. Married in 2010.


I met my husband on Match in 2009!

I was at the end of my 30-day subscription and hadn't found anyone I really liked yet (had been on plenty of dates but just never felt a spark with anyone) so I was debating giving it a break and maybe trying again later. He had just joined and paid for his subscription and I was the only one he ever went out with.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 11:46     Subject: How did you meet your spouse/partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.


He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.


How is that even remotely relevant? She wasn't dating him when she was in K. An age difference in your 20s or younger is significantly different than an age difference when you are a full-fledged functioning adult. Get over it.


It’s not age appropriate. Get over it.