Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

ARE YOU DERANGED?!?!

You're having unprotected sex with a dude you just met who already has a baby with another woman?!?

You're having unprotected sex with a guy you have known only two months but he "would be happy with" you having his baby?!?

This guy is dangerous, reckless, and irresponsible. Of course you should not trust him. And you are way too trusting and way too reckless? How do you know he is not HIV+? How could you possibly have unprotected sex with him?

No one likes condoms. No one. But guys still would rather have sex with a condom than not have sex at all. Why do you value your life and health so little?!?

Ewwww.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He also said he doesn't know if he wants to be with someone who would go through his stuff like that and not trust him. He said it's making him question my morals. My ex cheated on me and I told him from the start that I have trust issues. This isn't the first thing I haven't trusted. He's getting tired of it.

Gaslighting. He’s gaslighting you to make you feel like the bad person and question your sanity.

+1

He sounds manipulative.

I agree. Between this and the raw sex I would be OUT THE DOOR!!!!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Ok, this is gross. Did you get tested for STIs before raw dogging with him? You two are playing dangerous games.

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder how someone gets to be like OP. Poor parenting? Absent parenting? Self esteem issues? Bullied as a kid?

We as a society have groomed young women to be available for sex at any time and in any way a man wants it. We expect them to start having sex as teenagers. We tell them it’s normal to be choked during sex or on the receiving end of anal. We tell them to expect to have sex outside of committed relationships. We’ve taken away their ability to say no or to have boundaries around their bodies. Young women like op are the natural consequence of the messages we give them.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Why did you have to take Plan B? Because he didn't tell you his "preferences" before having s#x with you, or as BC until your regular BC kicked in? Either way gtfo with that noise. WHY are you sleeping with this tool?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

OP, why are you being so careless with YOURSELF?

The pregnancy test isn't the red flag, since he's been with other women before, and has a child already. What's a red flag is his reaction and comment about your morals. This has nothing to do with your morals. Snooping is rude, but it's not immoral.

But the biggest red flag is YOU. Why would you agree to unprotected relations with a man who has had multiple partners before? Get an STD panel.

I think you need to break up with him and reflect a little bit on your safety rules regarding relationships before dating again.

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FFS, likely. OP, end the relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Going through his stuff while he's there, not a good idea. You haven't been with him long enough to actually trust him. Trust happens over time. Him expecting you to trust him is unrealistic. Red flags.

Just break up, OP. It's not going to work out. Go to therapy but also find someone more willing to reassure.

He’s gaslighting you! You also need to get checked makes sure he didn’t pass along anything that’s permanent such as HIV since he doesn’t use condoms

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Honestly, given your trust issues and history of being cheated on, you should not be having sex -especially unprotected sex! with anyone. This guy doesn't respect you and is very selfish. You don't respect yourself. You are allowed to insist on condoms. This is your health, it is worth safe guarding. I would rather use condoms than rely on plan b...from what I've heard, the effects are not pleasant.

Breeding fetish

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Anonymous wrote:Girlfriend's leave stuff behind. Panties, sex toys, birth control, dumb self-help books...

"Abandon hope all ye who enter here" signs

It's not easy to leave a tattoo behind.

I always wonder how someone gets to be like OP. Poor parenting? Absent parenting? Self esteem issues? Bullied as a kid?