Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 08:05     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be so, so sad, if my kids didn't have kids. I've told both of them I would look after their babies!

Big hugs, OP. My cousin had her first at 37, after years of saying she didn't want children! She's not married, but she has a long-term boyfriend.

Here's hoping.


I am a PP. I actually hope my kids are not dumb enough to have kids and put themselves in a bad situation of having to do two full-time jobs. (Plus, I don't want to be a grandparent.)

Several of my friends had first kids 40-44. 37 is not old (I had one then...one-time slip in years).


With your genes, the world certainly hopes your kids will not have kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 08:03     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.




OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc


While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.


OP is a man. Geez, the level of reading comprehension gets worse here every day.



Well that makes it worse because not only is OP a busybody he's a misogynist.


Still doesn’t excuse your lack of reading comprehension.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 07:58     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.




OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc


While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.


OP is a man. Geez, the level of reading comprehension gets worse here every day.



Well that makes it worse because not only is OP a busybody he's a misogynist.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 07:56     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:Most old fashioned loving parents worry their unmarried kids would end up lonely and unhappy. Why is it so hard to believe that there are loving and faring parents out there? Not everyone is looking out for themselves, if anything, unmarried and childfree kids have more time and money for elderly parents so kids not marrying is actually beneficial for parents. OP sounds like a concerned parent.



There are loving parents, but this doesn't come from a place of love.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 07:54     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.




OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc


While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.



It may not be all about grandkids, but it is all about her no matter how you try to spin it.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 07:03     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
My sister is about to turn 50 and she is loving her childless life! She dates here and there but mostly just lives life to the fullest - from traveling to dancing to being in a band to basically doing whatever she wants. I have 3 kids - whom I love - but don't think for a minute that my sister is not as happy - or happier - than me!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 06:59     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Maybe the single one is gay and just doesn’t want to out herself to you.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 06:54     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this; she and her sister are both single and childless in their 40s, despite both being beautiful, brilliant, accomplished, kind and lovely people.

The reason is that their father was a domineering critical overbearing ahole whom their mother tried and failed to leave. Usually when both children don’t marry there is a reason related to the family of origin; so instead of worrying about them, search inside yourself, your marriage and your parenting for why they feel more comfortable alone.


My younger sister and I both married at 37ish - I had one child at 39, but was on the fence until about 35 - not because I don’t like children (I actually really like kids and babies), but because I knew it would completely change my world. My sister is child free - but also likes kids.

Out parents marriage was not one I would want to be in - my father was highly critical and needed everything and everyone in the house to revolve around him. He also fostered sibling rivalry between my older brother and me.

And he repeatedly expressed the same sentiment you are expressing now.

My mom kept pointing out we were doing incredibly well, we’re perfectly capable of not only taking care of ourselves, but thriving while doing so.

I adore my child, don’t regret her for a hot second. But I also realized I married a man far too much like my father - as different as he is on paper, and I’m contemplating divorce.

My sister is married to a “scrub” - he’s basically living off of her, and doesn’t seem to be to “helpful” around the house. But she’s happy.

So be careful of what you wish for.

Also, the women I know like your daughters are happy, live interesting lives, and are more secure than the vast majority of women with kids I know.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 06:53     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
They’re both washed up. Next…
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 06:37     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Maybe they are afraid of being a mother because they have a judgmental, unsupportive, small-minded one.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 06:32     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.




OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc


While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.


OP is a man. Geez, the level of reading comprehension gets worse here every day.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 04:38     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Most old fashioned loving parents worry their unmarried kids would end up lonely and unhappy. Why is it so hard to believe that there are loving and faring parents out there? Not everyone is looking out for themselves, if anything, unmarried and childfree kids have more time and money for elderly parents so kids not marrying is actually beneficial for parents. OP sounds like a concerned parent.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 01:28     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.




OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc


While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 01:23     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:It's sad, society and feminism has sold them a lie, biological regret will overtake them



Uh oh! I fell for it OP is the sockpuppeting antifeminist brunch granny troll.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2024 01:23     Subject: Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?
Anonymous wrote:We have two amazing daughters we are proud of. They're smart, pretty, ambitious and every other thing a parent would hope for. They were always disciplined and responsible so they never gave us any headaches or reason for us to worry, however, my wife and I are both a bit concerned about their family situation as it is today.

The youngest daughter is 36, she's a lawyer. She's been together with her partner for 6 years and living with him for 2 or so. She mentioned she was not interested in getting married and will probably skip the kids too. We let her know that if the cost of a wedding was the problem we could pay part of it. She politely declined and changed subject. The other daughter is 38 and is an accountant. She's been dating here and there, but I don't remember the last time she brought a partner home. I don't think she's had a serious boyfriend in the last 5 years. I understand that not everyone follows the same path in life, but I'm afraid that not being married or having any children will catch up with them at some point. I see this in my sister who's in her late 60s. She had a successful career as an accountant, but she never married or had kids and I believe she's she's very lonely and missed on some important milestones in life. I'm afraid that my daughters will look back on their lives and regret some of their choices. Is there a sensitive way for us to approach this? Has any of you changed your minds about this in the last moment?



You don't know you just assume. Your sister probably doesn't talk to you because you're a PITA.

Your daughters are grown. They know what they want. You'll know if they'll change their mind, and if you don't MYOB you might end up lonely because they'll stop talking to you.