OP, I would look through all the tops and dresses on Reformation. They are tasteful, form-fitting but not slutty.

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This would be sexy if you have a great body, which it sounds like you do

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=404556002&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=11&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

And this is cute.

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=431154012&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=15&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&cvar=25411&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

Both cute and sexy. Opinions of a middle aged woman.

None of these are sexy at ALL. The last one might be a little cute.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

PP, my sun dresses aren’t this short but I like the basic look. I’ll wear it to a casual party or to a nice lunch during the summer. I’m pretty trim, tall and fit so I can make it work.

I'm the one who asked the question because of the length of the dress. Where do you find sundresses that are a bit longer?

Gotta say, I had one boyfriend say this to me in my early 30s. I think I was feeling particularly vulnerable as this was the first relationship after my divorce that was riddled with infidelity. So, I tried it and subsequently felt so demeaned that I tossed the clothes and the guy.

Went back to the way I prefer to dress and do my hair & nails, and a couple of years later met the man of my dreams who -- 20 years later -- still loves me the way I am.

OP, I'd dump this guy if I were you.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

PP, my sun dresses aren’t this short but I like the basic look. I’ll wear it to a casual party or to a nice lunch during the summer. I’m pretty trim, tall and fit so I can make it work.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

Dinner, lunch, brunch, vineyard

I literally wear dresses all summer with sandles.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Listen we all have friends help us find fun clothes. Let’s just help here!

This would be a red flag for me, sorry. It's one thing for a man to prefer his wife/gf get dressed and look put together each day. Entirely different to specifically request "sexy". Strange

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

About 5 years ago my husband said “you have a great figure, you should dress like you have one.” He didn’t mean sexier and I interpreted it to mean cute casual such as sundresses, tees and short skirts, short cocktail dress, plus things that were just more form fitting. It didn’t push me out of my comfort zone but I really liked the result. I also bought a couple of very nice nightgowns which he seems to appreciate.

I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

Hmmm. I don’t think you should totally change how you dress, but if you make tweaks you are comfortable with that could be ok. What if you just got more fitted versions of what you already wear? Like fitted tees in flattering colors? I’m a mom now so I don’t do it often but a fitted tee with a scoop neck and jeans is …noticed shall we say? Maybe just upgrade your shoes too. Like cute madewell new balances instead of beat up sneakers.

But there’s a balance and I don’t like the idea of you going out and shopping for something you aren’t comfortable wearing for him. Going from the clothes you have described to a low cut slip dress like some people are suggesting seems really uncomfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:I love feeling sexy but I'd be so skeptical of a guy suggesting his girlfriend dress differently. If he wanted to date someone who dresses sexy why did he pick you? Just keep up your sense of self, okay OP?

I'm this PP and I re-read some comments and I like the idea of having him take you shopping. It could be fun and if he's paying for it it is more of a gift to you than asking you for a favor.

Dp To me, having my boyfriend take me shopping to please him would creep me out. I don't care if he paid or not! He knew what she wore before and apparently started dating. Why should she change?

THIS!

I would be angry if someone asked me dress “sexier”. And feel cheap if my creeper boyfriend “took me shopping”. Haven’t we evolved past Pretty Woman?

Agree. Gross

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=854782012&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=3&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&cvar=25411&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

This would be sexy if you have a great body, which it sounds like you do

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=404556002&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=11&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

And this is cute.

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=431154012&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=15&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&cvar=25411&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

Both cute and sexy

Opinions of a middle aged woman.