Anonymous wrote:All you all are ridiculous. College kids stay with friends all the time, even internationally, without knowing their exact home address, and land lines are an artifact. Just demand that she give you emergency contact phone information there other than her friend, under the theory that both of them could be victimized simultaneously. And establish some kind of check in schedule, which the failure to observe would trigger you calling the emergency contact number.

She is 20 years old, old enough to be sent to war, for chrissakes. Should the USMC call mommy and tell her the address of the jump zone?

"All you all"

You need to know where they are staying. I get that DD doesn't want to be weird about it, but her friend's parents will totally understand even her friend doesn't.

My friend and I Eurorailed for 6 weeks in Europe. Pay phones. She’ll be ok and what an experience!

Have you been screened for anxiety and codependency?

Jesus, lady let your adult child do their thing.

You’re exhausting, OP. What does the fact that your daughter and this friend attending a “highly selective” college and doing well there have to do with this situation? Something tells me you would make your way into your kid’s high school just to decorate her locker. Get a life.

Anonymous wrote:This is the third season of The White Lotus…right?

Hahahah!

This is the third season of The White Lotus…right?

Maybe she doesn't trust you to not post about it on social media?

When I was 19 my college friends and I drove cross country. Three girls alone. I don't recall my parents asking for itineraries or contact info. I don't think any of our parents spoke to each other.

Nowadays of course, the idea of girls doing that strikes fear in the heart of any parent. I think of my high school age kids doing that and I am shocked my parents were so cavalier.

I think you are being paranoid BUT,
it couldn't hurt to ask DD, "would you mind if you could please ask the J family for the name of the hotel so I know where you are in case of emergency. I'd also like your flight info too". I mean, even at my office we have this info when any of our staff travel.

So relax but low pressure ask and then accept the answer as she is an adult.

Maybe it is because my kids are boys, but I wouldn't think twice about it and I would tell my ds to have fun and don't be stupid.

She's 20!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m good friends with someone from an actually high profile family (high up in US politics). They go on vacation to normal rich person places (upscale boutique resorts, the 4 seasons, etc.). I sorta think this is either pure fiction or it’s a game of telephone.

One thing I’ve noticed with my rich friend family is that they actually don’t travel internationally much. Like, in the last few years not a single international trip (but tons of fancy domestic ones!!).

I actually think that [b]truly high up political families tend to stay in the US more than I imagined. It makes sense though from a security perspective. It can’t be a coincidence. I also think maybe they are intentionally demonstrating that they keep their vacation dollars in the US or something?[/b]

You know one family that has not traveled internationally in the past several years and make huge extrapolations.

Pp here. Yes I’m not fancy, I only know one high ranking elected official’s family

Anonymous wrote:I’m good friends with someone from an actually high profile family (high up in US politics). They go on vacation to normal rich person places (upscale boutique resorts, the 4 seasons, etc.). I sorta think this is either pure fiction or it’s a game of telephone.

One thing I’ve noticed with my rich friend family is that they actually don’t travel internationally much. Like, in the last few years not a single international trip (but tons of fancy domestic ones!!).

I actually think that [b]truly high up political families tend to stay in the US more than I imagined. It makes sense though from a security perspective. It can’t be a coincidence. I also think maybe they are intentionally demonstrating that they keep their vacation dollars in the US or something?[/b]

You know one family that has not traveled internationally in the past several years and make huge extrapolations.

I’m good friends with someone from an actually high profile family (high up in US politics). They go on vacation to normal rich person places (upscale boutique resorts, the 4 seasons, etc.). I sorta think this is either pure fiction or it’s a game of telephone.

One thing I’ve noticed with my rich friend family is that they actually don’t travel internationally much. Like, in the last few years not a single international trip (but tons of fancy domestic ones!!).

I actually think that truly high up political families tend to stay in the US more than I imagined. It makes sense though from a security perspective. It can’t be a coincidence. I also think maybe they are intentionally demonstrating that they keep their vacation dollars in the US or something?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your mistake was giving so much unnecessary context. The question here should be:

"Would you want to know where your 20yo DD is and how to reach her if she was traveling internationally?"

The consensus answer to this would almost certainly be "yes." You can ask your daughter to let you know more details, in case there is an emergency and you need to reach her and don't want to rely on her cell service. She is free to say no.

I think OP low key wanted to brag about her DD having this experience. Which no shame, I’m jealous and I wanna go too!

Hopefully OP doesn’t relay the experience in this was way IRL to people she knows, because it is tacky af.