Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

The fact you would write this and somehow imply you are the worse off sibling is kind of horrifying to me. You feel so bad about being fat that you make it sound worse than… severe anxiety and alcoholism??? I mean, WTF.

+1000. I was just coming on here to say the exact same thing. OP, this is honestly despicable.

We have no fat siblings but our bloodwork is abysmal. Ticking time bombs.

I’ve lost weight in the past due to crazy anxiety spirals. I prefer being heavier and stable.

I'm the fat only

And my BMI is barely 20... but females in my family are stick thin, so my mother thinks I'm positively deformed. I had to cut her off briefly when she started on my toddler daughter, calling her fat. Now she knows better than to do that!

Calories in calories out. Unless you're weighing portions and tracking what you're eating, you can't claim that your thinner sibling eats more than you.

I have a normal BMI and my brother is obese but insists that he doesn't eat much. In reality he snacks and drinks high calorie beverages around the clock and eats huge portions at mealtimes. The first step to getting healthy is being honest with yourself.

Yes. Both my older sister and younger brother are thinner than me cause they got my mom's genes while I got my dad's. My sister especially has the ideal body in our country, thin waist and very wide hips while I have thin legs, EXTREME hip dips like the space between my hips and stomach looks like the number 3 and a very big tummy. People tell me I look pregnant and are shocked at my tummy everytime I wear a crop top or anything that shows my stomach. When I was younger, my mom used to bodyshame me with her friends and it's caused me a lot of trauma. My dad and her now gaslight me about what happened in my childhood or that she's changed. And when I went through puberty I didn't get the small perky boobs my sister got instead I got big ones that social distance and are droopy. I have huge pepperonis too. I didn't really notice this but my mom did and told me to wear bras when I go out and she's right. I can't leave the house without a bra now. And the funny thing is, I used to be fatter than this I just lost weight accidentally. My mom praised me a lot during this era and bought me crop tops saying "I'm pretty now I should wear crop tops" but I was still bodyshamed in them by other people, I think I gained a lot of the weight back. I need to lose weight I feel so uncomfortable in my body and I just eat whatever.

Is Op supposedly comparing her weight to when her sibling had a supposedly OD on alcohol and zero real nutrition or calories for awhile whilst having a breakdown?

What a joke.

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

The only way of knowing this is to both keep an accurate fairly eating and activity log.

Also, look into the anti anxiety meds if they have appetite or weight side effects. Or if they do a ton of pacing, which burns calories.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I’m th skinny sibling with the fat mother, so the fat fat sibling is the favorite and I get the nasty comments. It’s all dysfunctional family dynamics.

Me too!

I got just ‘wait until puberty/kids/the second kid/your 30s and you’ll get fat’. I’m nearly 50 and not fat - and only in the past few years have the comments subsided a bit. They just want to say it’s genetics. My mother is morbidly obese, but has really good genes so not too many health problems for a mid-70s woman who’s been obese for 40+ years.

So genetics keep her healthy but had nothing to do with her weight?

There's of course no chance that weight and health aren't directly connected.