Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 16:20     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
If you have excellent communication, clearly stated boundaries with personal accountability, and the structure in your relationship to make this work I think it’s fantastic.

I love my husband dearly. He cannot fulfill everything I need. I do have platonic friendships that fill in some of these gaps, but would love an arrangement like this (with his blessing).
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 16:00     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:That is not modern monogamy. That is an affair. Grow up.


Affair implies deception. There is none here.


An affair is a relationship outside of marriage. That is what you have. That is not monogamy.


It is “modern monogamy” as defined by the people who came up with the term.


NP - These are the same people who have redefined "literally" to mean "figuratively" - the exact opposite.

I don't care what people do, or how they maintain their relationships. More power to them. And I don't know that I would consider this an affair. But the OP is having sex with someone outside her marriage. That is not monogamy, whether her husband knows about it or not.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 15:55     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
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DCUM, who professes to be liberal and progressive, limits those views to lip service virtue-signaling regarding under-represented minorities and gender variance.

But dare to befriend a man who is not your husband, even with your husband's full knowledge and consent, romantic or not, platonic or not, and immediately something is deeply wrong with you. They will brand you with their most severe iron: cheater! There is nothing worse in the mind of a be-pearled, preternaturally insecure, DCUM empty-headed biddy. You could shoot someone in the middle of 5th avenue and garner more sympathy.

The rest of us just go on with our lives.


Should we tell him that DCUM is more than one person, not his special online frenemy?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 15:43     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy

DCUM, who professes to be liberal and progressive, limits those views to lip service virtue-signaling regarding under-represented minorities and gender variance.

But dare to befriend a man who is not your husband, even with your husband's full knowledge and consent, romantic or not, platonic or not, and immediately something is deeply wrong with you. They will brand you with their most severe iron: cheater! There is nothing worse in the mind of a be-pearled, preternaturally insecure, DCUM empty-headed biddy. You could shoot someone in the middle of 5th avenue and garner more sympathy.

The rest of us just go on with our lives.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 15:19     Subject: Re:Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my DH for 25 years.


How is this an example of modern monogamy?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 15:10     Subject: Re:Examples of modern monogamy
I’ve been with my DH for 25 years.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:50     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:To defend OP, it doesn't seem much different from having a good friend, just happens to be of the opposite sex. If emotional support means having someone who listens to you and provides thoughtful responses and good conversation, that is not cheating or an affair.



This is my question back to OP- how is this different than having a good guy friend?


The difference is that we’re not platonic.


What does non platonic mean in your context?


Romantic love


So you guys say “I love you?” Does his wife know?


Yep


Hit return too soon. My DH knows I love BF. I don’t know if any of BF’s partners have ever known - he’s been through a bunch through the years.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:43     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To defend OP, it doesn't seem much different from having a good friend, just happens to be of the opposite sex. If emotional support means having someone who listens to you and provides thoughtful responses and good conversation, that is not cheating or an affair.



This is my question back to OP- how is this different than having a good guy friend?


The difference is that we’re not platonic.


What does non platonic mean in your context?


Romantic love


So you guys say “I love you?” Does his wife know?


Yep
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:36     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Dictionary
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mo·nog·a·my
/məˈnäɡəmē/
noun
the practice or state of being married to one person at a time.
"Judaism has journeyed from polygamy to strict monogamy"
the practice or state of having a sexual relationship with only one partner.
"younger men were more likely to stray, saying monogamy was outdated"
ZOOLOGY
the habit of having only one mate at a time.
"monogamy is rare in most animal groups, but is common among birds"
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:31     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To defend OP, it doesn't seem much different from having a good friend, just happens to be of the opposite sex. If emotional support means having someone who listens to you and provides thoughtful responses and good conversation, that is not cheating or an affair.



This is my question back to OP- how is this different than having a good guy friend?


The difference is that we’re not platonic.


What does non platonic mean in your context?


Romantic love


So you guys say “I love you?” Does his wife know?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:25     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To defend OP, it doesn't seem much different from having a good friend, just happens to be of the opposite sex. If emotional support means having someone who listens to you and provides thoughtful responses and good conversation, that is not cheating or an affair.



This is my question back to OP- how is this different than having a good guy friend?


The difference is that we’re not platonic.


What does non platonic mean in your context?


Romantic love
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:24     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you find a guy who is willing to participate in an emotional relationship? Does he have a GF/spouse?


Failure to launch InCel posting from his mama's basement. You can watch the MTV series about catfishing.


Nope, OP said upthread that it was a HS friend who had a crush on her back then too. Which sounds way more plausible than her trawling some weird anonymous website and developing that kind of bond with someone who doesn’t have that kind of relationship experience.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:15     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:How did you find a guy who is willing to participate in an emotional relationship? Does he have a GF/spouse?


Failure to launch InCel posting from his mama's basement. You can watch the MTV series about catfishing.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:14     Subject: Re:Examples of modern monogamy
Quite some BS. Lmaof. Mental gymnastics.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2024 14:14     Subject: Examples of modern monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To defend OP, it doesn't seem much different from having a good friend, just happens to be of the opposite sex. If emotional support means having someone who listens to you and provides thoughtful responses and good conversation, that is not cheating or an affair.



This is my question back to OP- how is this different than having a good guy friend?


The difference is that we’re not platonic.


What does non platonic mean in your context?