Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, how do YOU take care of them both?
You do...right?
Haha! Hysterical. Just what I was thinking. How have mothers for centuries taken care of more than one child??
We have friends with two kids who are never alone with both their children at once. It's always mom + dad, or parent + nanny, or parent + grandparent. Apparently some people really can't manage more than one child at a time.
I am 100% this person. In fact, I wonder if you are taking about me 😂
It’s not that I can’t. It’s just, why would I when I have the option of support?
Why have kids if you cannot be alone with them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, how do YOU take care of them both?
You do...right?
Haha! Hysterical. Just what I was thinking. How have mothers for centuries taken care of more than one child??
We have friends with two kids who are never alone with both their children at once. It's always mom + dad, or parent + nanny, or parent + grandparent. Apparently some people really can't manage more than one child at a time.
I am 100% this person. In fact, I wonder if you are taking about me 😂
It’s not that I can’t. It’s just, why would I when I have the option of support?
That sounds exhausting to coordinate your life to always have another adult around.
I have 3 kids ages 2-8 and manage them all on my own just fine. I can’t imagine needing my husband or mom around just to take them to an activity.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, how do YOU take care of them both?
You do...right?
Haha! Hysterical. Just what I was thinking. How have mothers for centuries taken care of more than one child??
We have friends with two kids who are never alone with both their children at once. It's always mom + dad, or parent + nanny, or parent + grandparent. Apparently some people really can't manage more than one child at a time.
I am 100% this person. In fact, I wonder if you are taking about me 😂
It’s not that I can’t. It’s just, why would I when I have the option of support?
Because you enjoy spending time with your kids? How can some of you hold down these executive level jobs but can’t figure out how to spend time with your kids without help?
Anonymous wrote:I know this will sound like a dumb question but please be kind. How can a nanny provide good care to both a baby (4 months) and an older child (age 2)?
I’m going back to work soon and don’t understand how our nanny can care for both kids without putting one in a bad situation at times.
Examples:
-If they’re at the playground, she can’t prevent DD from falling off equipment while sitting next to DS’s stroller. DS dislikes baby carriers, but even if she did wear him, she wouldn’t have full mobility. DD had a bad fall recently (on my watch), so I’m feeling anxious about this.
-DS’s wake windows are short, so he often needs to be put down for a nap at inconvenient times, like during DD’s meals or while she’s making messy art in the basement. DD is a slow eater and underweight. If DS gets tired during DD’s meal, it seems like nanny’s options are 1) leave DD alone while she takes DS upstairs for a nap; or 2) bring DD upstairs mid-meal and try to convince her to play quietly alone while nanny rocks baby to sleep. Option 1 clearly puts DD at risk of choking. My concern with option 2 is that DD won’t finish meals after they’ve been interrupted, and she’s already so thin. Putting DS in a swing for a mid-meal nap isn’t an option.
What am I missing? How do people do this safely?
Anonymous wrote:My kids are 18 months apart and I took care of them solo, like 75% of the time as a SAHM. Do you think your nanny is somehow the first caregiver in the world who is navigating this task? Like, all kids who are close in age and cared for by a single adult are in mortal danger all the time?? The lack of perspective and tone deafness in OP's post is high.
Maybe you 1. Shouldn't have had kids so close together or 2. Hire a second nanny or 3. Take care of your own damn children.
Anonymous wrote:I know this will sound like a dumb question but please be kind. How can a nanny provide good care to both a baby (4 months) and an older child (age 2)?
I’m going back to work soon and don’t understand how our nanny can care for both kids without putting one in a bad situation at times.
Examples:
-If they’re at the playground, she can’t prevent DD from falling off equipment while sitting next to DS’s stroller. DS dislikes baby carriers, but even if she did wear him, she wouldn’t have full mobility. DD had a bad fall recently (on my watch), so I’m feeling anxious about this.
-DS’s wake windows are short, so he often needs to be put down for a nap at inconvenient times, like during DD’s meals or while she’s making messy art in the basement. DD is a slow eater and underweight. If DS gets tired during DD’s meal, it seems like nanny’s options are 1) leave DD alone while she takes DS upstairs for a nap; or 2) bring DD upstairs mid-meal and try to convince her to play quietly alone while nanny rocks baby to sleep. Option 1 clearly puts DD at risk of choking. My concern with option 2 is that DD won’t finish meals after they’ve been interrupted, and she’s already so thin. Putting DS in a swing for a mid-meal nap isn’t an option.
What am I missing? How do people do this safely?
Anonymous wrote:My kids are 18 months apart and I took care of them solo, like 75% of the time as a SAHM. Do you think your nanny is somehow the first caregiver in the world who is navigating this task? Like, all kids who are close in age and cared for by a single adult are in mortal danger all the time?? The lack of perspective and tone deafness in OP's post is high.
Maybe you 1. Shouldn't have had kids so close together or 2. Hire a second nanny or 3. Take care of your own damn children.
Anonymous wrote:pp, it does not sound so good to me, the baby in your scenario seems to be either strapped in the car seat, or carried in the carrier, or sitting in the stroller most of their day. Of course, if it is the matter of survival as a nanny it is OK, but definitely not the best thing for the baby. Babies have to be on the floor most of their awake time, and be able to move freely. Also, are you saying your 2 yr olds napped in the morning AND afternoon?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, how do YOU take care of them both?
You do...right?
Haha! Hysterical. Just what I was thinking. How have mothers for centuries taken care of more than one child??
We have friends with two kids who are never alone with both their children at once. It's always mom + dad, or parent + nanny, or parent + grandparent. Apparently some people really can't manage more than one child at a time.
I am 100% this person. In fact, I wonder if you are taking about me 😂
It’s not that I can’t. It’s just, why would I when I have the option of support?
Anonymous wrote:Op, your ob can prescribe meds for your anxiety