Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.

Predictable? or maybe it's true.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I drink very little and don’t watch porn. However, ED set in when I was in my early 50s. An endocrinologist diagnosed the issue (declining levels of testosterone), prescribed treatment and the ED problem was solved.

In many but not all cases, ED is a solvable issue.

Did your dr prescribe TRT?

Yes.

Anonymous wrote:I drink very little and don’t watch porn. However, ED set in when I was in my early 50s. An endocrinologist diagnosed the issue (declining levels of testosterone), prescribed treatment and the ED problem was solved.

In many but not all cases, ED is a solvable issue.

Did your dr prescribe TRT?

Anonymous wrote:Bf has ED. I know he’s attracted to me and calls me sexy all the time. I think his is either porn related or some lingering attachment/love for his ex wife.

If his right forearm is like Popeye’s, he might be taking things into his own hand. That desensitizes things.

With a new guy who I really care about but he struggles with performance. Sometimes can’t keep it up or sometimes lasts way too long. He has never mentioned it to me but he def takes pills. It’s a sensitive topic for people and really hard to talk about. With us being in our 40s I’m just happy to get sex a couple times a week.

I drink very little and don’t watch porn. However, ED set in when I was in my early 50s. An endocrinologist diagnosed the issue (declining levels of testosterone), prescribed treatment and the ED problem was solved.

In many but not all cases, ED is a solvable issue.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy in his 40s with ED. I knew it was not me because he had an rx for viagra before he met me. I think for him it was mostly drinking. He never got drunk but had a few drinks every evening. He was otherwise in good shape so I think that was it.

Sex with him on viagra was fantastic.

I was waiting for someone to mention drinking. If you're having ED issues in your 40s, you're either drinking too much or completely out-of-shape.

Even stress can be managed and still get it up, but drinking is a big one.

Bf has ED. I know he’s attracted to me and calls me sexy all the time. I think his is either porn related or some lingering attachment/love for his ex wife.

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it, but I have more problems with my current GF (late 50s) than any of my prior GFs (late 30s, 40s, and 50s). I thought that maybe my time for ED had arrived at the same time my current relationship started. After all, if you're going to get ED, there's going to be a year where you start out with things working pretty well and you end up with problems. Unortunately, that's not really what happened. A phone call from an ex GF who's in her 40s made it obvious that my ED is woman specific. The ex GF and I weren't having phone sex or anything like that. We just had a regular conversation and I got wood. It happens almost every time I talk to her on the phone.

Dude, break up with your GF. She deserves better.

I hate to say it, but I have more problems with my current GF (late 50s) than any of my prior GFs (late 30s, 40s, and 50s). I thought that maybe my time for ED had arrived at the same time my current relationship started. After all, if you're going to get ED, there's going to be a year where you start out with things working pretty well and you end up with problems. Unortunately, that's not really what happened. A phone call from an ex GF who's in her 40s made it obvious that my ED is woman specific. The ex GF and I weren't having phone sex or anything like that. We just had a regular conversation and I got wood. It happens almost every time I talk to her on the phone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

I bet she’s vomiting inside when she’s with you.

I bet you tell everyone you are a kind, compassionate woman.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.

Exactly. It never ceases to amaze me how many women make it to middle age thinking that men are mindless erection vending machines. It's ironic that this view owes a lot to the porn that women despise.

Look: of course the woman's attractiveness and enthusiasm/skill matter. My wife and I have been together for 10+ years, and I still get it up for her because she's hot and because she's fun in bed. If I had been with the same boring frump for over a decade, would I be having erection issues at this point? It's quite possible.

And "hot" isn't about genetic good looks, either. It means staying in shape and wearing clothes that flatter your body type. I get it, we're all busy, but if you *never* put on a cute outfit for your husband, how much room do you really have to complain if he can't get it up? Sometimes (many times, I bet) the way to fix ED is for the woman to take some ownership.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

You are married?

OP here. No, not married. And not overlapping relationships. I was seeing him over the summer and now he has a new girlfriend.

Anonymous wrote:I think often a more sexy partner would make ED less of an issue and a less sexy partner would make it more of an issue, but that's only part of the story. Very individual.

Opposite for a lot of people.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

You are married?