Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 18:34     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:Menu idea: Some kind of chicken with Cream of Chicken soup on top, baked potato and broccoli. Save your $$ for when you go out with your spouse.


Have you thought that maybe FiL is ordering a lot because the food at OP’s house isn’t good? This will make that worse. But he should still pay…
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 18:25     Subject: Two entrees?
I would absolutely stop taking him to nice restaurants (it’s seems you go out to eat with him a lot - which I don’t understand if it drives you and your DH crazy). He is rude and that would annoy the heck out of me, too.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 12:18     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. You are probably have a hhi of $250k or more. Another $30 entree is below the noise level.

That said, his behavior is extraordinary. Who demands that someone else pays for their meal? How exactly does that conversation go?

If I loved him I would let it go. If he irritated me I would insist on going to cheaper restaurants or eating in.


Anonymous wrote:It's gross behavior on his part but I can't imagine getting that worked up over having to pay an additional $20-40 for a second entree a few times a year. Like, are you that desperate for the less than $100?

I don't think going to a cheaper place will make a difference to you. You're annoyed and will be regardless of how expensive his order it.


It's rude to make assumptions about OP's HHI and even ruder to declare what her family can or should spend it on.

OP, your FIL is breathtakingly entitled and rude. I would eat in every night during his visit.


You manage to call three people rude in your short intervention.It’s ironic, because it’s rude to call other people rude when they respond appropriately to a request for advice.


Nothing ironic about it. OP doesn't like how the FIL behaves in ordering two entrees on OP's family's dime. The responses dismissed her on the assumption that the cost is no big deal, an assumption the responders are not entitled to make.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 11:00     Subject: Re:Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:It's gross behavior on his part but I can't imagine getting that worked up over having to pay an additional $20-40 for a second entree a few times a year. Like, are you that desperate for the less than $100?

I don't think going to a cheaper place will make a difference to you. You're annoyed and will be regardless of how expensive his order it.


OP isn’t “worked up” because she has to pay for it; it bothers her because it is outrageously rude behavior.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 10:41     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. You are probably have a hhi of $250k or more. Another $30 entree is below the noise level.

That said, his behavior is extraordinary. Who demands that someone else pays for their meal? How exactly does that conversation go?

If I loved him I would let it go. If he irritated me I would insist on going to cheaper restaurants or eating in.


Anonymous wrote:It's gross behavior on his part but I can't imagine getting that worked up over having to pay an additional $20-40 for a second entree a few times a year. Like, are you that desperate for the less than $100?

I don't think going to a cheaper place will make a difference to you. You're annoyed and will be regardless of how expensive his order it.


It's rude to make assumptions about OP's HHI and even ruder to declare what her family can or should spend it on.

OP, your FIL is breathtakingly entitled and rude. I would eat in every night during his visit.


You manage to call three people rude in your short intervention.It’s ironic, because it’s rude to call other people rude when they respond appropriately to a request for advice.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 09:54     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:I’m just amazed by the amount of food, frankly. Maybe my unhealthy relationship with my body image is showing, but that seems like an excessive quantity of food.


I have a pretty healthy relationship with my body image, and I think two entrees is a crazy amount of food. That’s just weird, no matter who is paying.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 09:46     Subject: Two entrees?
Host him at your house for a simple spaghetti dinner or family-style takeout.

I have a sister like this. When she's paying for herself it's the cheapest entree and endless rounds of free bread; when we treat she wants a cocktail, apps, expensive entree, wine, dessert, coffee. So no more restaurants. I host her family at home for pizza and movie night, or burgers and dogs on the grill.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 09:39     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. You are probably have a hhi of $250k or more. Another $30 entree is below the noise level.

That said, his behavior is extraordinary. Who demands that someone else pays for their meal? How exactly does that conversation go?

If I loved him I would let it go. If he irritated me I would insist on going to cheaper restaurants or eating in.


Anonymous wrote:It's gross behavior on his part but I can't imagine getting that worked up over having to pay an additional $20-40 for a second entree a few times a year. Like, are you that desperate for the less than $100?

I don't think going to a cheaper place will make a difference to you. You're annoyed and will be regardless of how expensive his order it.


It's rude to make assumptions about OP's HHI and even ruder to declare what her family can or should spend it on.

OP, your FIL is breathtakingly entitled and rude. I would eat in every night during his visit.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 09:35     Subject: Two entrees?
I wouldn't go out to eat with him. Or I'd ask the waiter for two checks, one for my family, one for him.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 08:54     Subject: Re:Two entrees?
It's gross behavior on his part but I can't imagine getting that worked up over having to pay an additional $20-40 for a second entree a few times a year. Like, are you that desperate for the less than $100?

I don't think going to a cheaper place will make a difference to you. You're annoyed and will be regardless of how expensive his order it.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 08:13     Subject: Two entrees?
Take him to Cheesecake Factory. Does Maggiano’s still serve those huge portions?
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 08:06     Subject: Two entrees?
I’m just amazed by the amount of food, frankly. Maybe my unhealthy relationship with my body image is showing, but that seems like an excessive quantity of food.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 07:29     Subject: Two entrees?
If it’s a nice restaurant, call it a Family Reunion and negotiate a pre-set menu. Chosen-by-you appetizer(s) for the table, each diner gets one choice of three entrees, a choice of dessert (or in the case of Oceanaire, it’s family style desserts at the table). I always do pre-set menus for holiday parties because too many employees took absurd advantage when we didn’t.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 01:06     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. You are probably have a hhi of $250k or more. Another $30 entree is below the noise level.

That said, his behavior is extraordinary. Who demands that someone else pays for their meal? How exactly does that conversation go?

If I loved him I would let it go. If he irritated me I would insist on going to cheaper restaurants or eating in.


It is a big deal to some of us. We rarely pay more than 20 per person, usually less.

Op go to an all you can eat place.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2024 00:44     Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If he eats everything I’d let him order what he wants. If he doesn’t eat everything I’d give him lip about his eyes being bigger than his stomach.

My wealthy FIL took us out to eat for DD’s graduation years ago. The graduation girl ordered a steak, which was either the most expensive or nearly most expensive thing on the menu. But not way over other other entrees, which we all got. This was not a fancy steakhouse. Anyway, we still hear about how she ordered the most expensive thing on the menu almost every time we talk to him. He chastised her saying she should never do that on a date or she’ll get dumped. DD will never live it down, and it’s our family joke now.

So if he orders the most expensive things on the menu, you should bring it up forever.


He eats every bite. He also has ordered the most expensive thing on the menu.


Lol then honestly, I can't hate on that.