So what does dh say op?

Microbiomes. Another person’s microbiome can certainly create issues in an unsuspecting spouse. Some of these things aren’t just STIs.

Although BV is not yet considered a sexually transmitted infection, it is more common in people who have multiple sex partners, in people whose sex partner also has BV, and in people who do not use condoms. BV can be spread through sharing of sex toys, oral-genital contact, and fingers.

And sex sometimes leads to BV if your partner's natural genital chemistry changes the balance in your vagina and causes bacteria to grow. This can happen if he has a new different partner.

We’re there any red flags now that you remember?

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Anonymous wrote:I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.

I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics.

Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP.

BV is not an STD

Also a UTI is not an STD

No, but both can happen when someone introduces a new partner’s germs. Gross.

It can also happen if he doesn't shower after working out and uses a dirty towel

The std test might show up on medical insurance records. He might already know that you know.

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Anonymous wrote:I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.

I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics.

Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP.

BV is not an STD

Also a UTI is not an STD

No, but both can happen when someone introduces a new partner’s germs. Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Trich definitely is from his recent activity. Don't confront him yet, just stop sleeping and consult with an attorney.

Yes. Get your own counsel from someone you select before moving forward. He deosn't need to know you know, until he needs to know it. By then, your ducks already should be in a row.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly raising a child in this area is so expensive and time consuming and the amount of men available that you'd want around you with a 5 year old are so small. Some woman was just killed meeting up with someone on OLD this week. I would just stay married and not sleep with him anymore. Raise your daughter and just have a platonic relationship. There doesn't seem to be a reason to divorce other than this idea that you could remarry and it's just not worth it with a kid that young. When they are driving age maybe.

This is horrible advice. She should not stay with him.

Can she afford not to for another 15 years of her child's life? How about daughter issues with not having a dad around or the teen years when it's just mom and her? She doesn't need to stay with him as a complete married couple with sex, but losing a husband and dad and having no control over raising your daughter half the time or the money in raising and living is no joke.

You have obviously never been betrayed like this. Stop giving advice where you don’t have experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think you could just do the old sleep in separate bedrooms and get along and not allow anyone else in your house? Maybe work on the financials in case he leaves you in the meantime?

To give you some perspective OP, I ended up divorcing because my ex was bringing in people left and right and abusing finances as well and I've had to move to a 2 bedroom apartment to keep our finances in check. Growing up my friend's dad lived in the basement so that they could keep their daughter in the same school system. That's how it was done a generation ago.

Are you divorcing?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think you could just do the old sleep in separate bedrooms and get along and not allow anyone else in your house? Maybe work on the financials in case he leaves you in the meantime?

To give you some perspective OP, I ended up divorcing because my ex was bringing in people left and right and abusing finances as well and I've had to move to a 2 bedroom apartment to keep our finances in check. Growing up my friend's dad lived in the basement so that they could keep their daughter in the same school system. That's how it was done a generation ago.

What do you mean bringing in? Into the house? !

I’m sorry, OP. Ignore the DCUM people giving bad advice about staying with him for your child. If he wants to be an involved parent, he can be an involved divorced parent. You deserve better.

I would probably sit on the information for a day or two, then tell him about it and that in no uncertain terms, the marriage is over. I don't know the legalities of asking him to move, but I would suggest it to him and consult with a divorce attorney ASAP. Also, if you don't already have a therapist, I would encourage you to get one.

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Anonymous wrote:I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.

I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics.

Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP.

BV is not an STD

Also a UTI is not an STD

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.

I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics.

Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP.

BV is not an STD

Tractor seats are also a medium of transmission of STIs.

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Is it possible to spread through public toilets or pools?

lol, when I was a teenager, my friend got pubic crabs from her boyfriend. He told her he got them at the beach. lol, she believed him until us girls educated her.

You can get crabs from a couch.