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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie, though the men side of the mood board look more like suits rather than traditional tuxes (though I'm not 100 percent sure of the difference between suit and tux). The wording specifies floor length and glamor.

"Black tie = tuxedo, which is generally a black suit with satin lapels and stripes on the pants/bow tie/cummerbund (there can be variations in colors for elements of this, but it is a specific style of "suit"). This is a pet peeve. We received an invitation from a couple who specified "black tie," and then at the last minute sent word around informally that they didn't mean tuxedos. Which, what??? They just meant suits. Then say "business attire" or "suit and tie." Especially in DC, where many men do have tuxedos and are used to wearing them to "black tie" events. I'm guessing what they really want is for women to wear fancy long dresses that they would normally wear to a black tie event, but not make the men go out and rent tuxes. Maybe that's why people are sending these "vision boards" -- because young people don't know what these terms mean anymore?

I spit my drink out when I read this one. Glad I got married 27 years ago when there wasn’t all of this foolishness.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Sure, but if they knew their etiquette they would be wearing floor length

LOL

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Sure, but if they knew their etiquette they would be wearing floor length

Rent a cocktail “midi” dress from Rent the Runway, at your height many will be floor length or nearly so.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Then they are in cocktail attire not black tie attire.

Gasp...quelle horreur

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.

Then they are in cocktail attire not black tie attire.

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Anonymous wrote:oh no did you already rsvp? Maybe you can plan to get covid.

This is the way.

Covid is in order for this one!

I want to see the Vision Board that includes drunken Uncle Donny who gets handsy at weddings and his loud-mouthed wife Mimi.

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https://thekit.ca/weddings/wedding-trends/wedding-guest-dressing-mood-board/

Apparently it’s helpful. Haha

And by helpful they mean controlling. Would love to see the board.

It really amazes me how self-centered and rude some people can be. I'm really curious how many people will fall in line and dress according to the mandate, and how many will just show up wearing whatever they feel like.

I think this is an ironic result of the trend that started maybe twenty years ago of having more natural, unposed wedding pictures that included more of the guests (rather than just the posed wedding picture parties). I guess at some point people started thinking that these "unposed" "natural" photos needed more asthetic coherence and the only way to get that is to dress your guests like props in a movie. If brides are going to do this, I feel like they should just ask you for your measurements, and have a dress ready for you when you get to the wedding site. If we are really just props, please at least provide us the costumes to fulfill that role.

A formal high quality cocktail dress will be better than cheaping out on a floor length dress (I totally would). Amazon has some that are less than 50$ and look decent. I’d get one of those if you end up going gown.

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Anonymous wrote:Just went to a wedding like this. We had two assigned colors- gray and light blue. But it was also black tie, so I don’t get that one. I mean a gray tux? Dh has one tux and it’s black.

I can’t stand brides like this. Do whatever you want with the wedding but stay away from guest attire. You only get to control your bridesmaid colors. Maybe your mom or mother in laws dress colors.

So did your DH wear black? Did people wear the right colors or revolt? We’re there cocktail dresses?

Yes he wore a black tux and I wore a blue formal dress. I had it or else I wouldn’t have bought one. I actually don’t remember paying attention to what anyone wore! Everyone looked beautiful and was dressed in cocktail attire at least. I saw lots of black tuxes and suits

Anonymous wrote:Just went to a wedding like this. We had two assigned colors- gray and light blue. But it was also black tie, so I don’t get that one. I mean a gray tux? Dh has one tux and it’s black.

I can’t stand brides like this. Do whatever you want with the wedding but stay away from guest attire. You only get to control your bridesmaid colors. Maybe your mom or mother in laws dress colors.

x100000

Beyond rude. The whole wedding as a sideshow truly has come to a head. Dictating what guests wear? I mean, who are you hanging out with or related to, that you have to tell them "no jeans"?? Is this a wedding or something else, that you have to tell your guests what colors or type of dress?? Why are photos of what the guests wear even important to you in the slightest - you are supposed to be getting married - not trying to control what everyone on the guest list wears.

Other PP who stated that the time of day, and the time of year dictates how your guests dress. That is it. Period.

These kinds of brides are more inappropriate than anything anyone could possibly be wearing. Wow. Just wow.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not buy a new dress unless I was in the bridal party or it was black tie.

It is black tie if the women are supposed to be in floor
Length dresses but the bride didn’t trust people to know what to wear so she had to show them.

I have been to several black tie weddings and half of the women were wearing cocktail length dresses. Even at galas, not everyone is wearing a floor length dress.