Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 17:59     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry, OP, and am praying for you

Praying for what? She’s not sick or on her deathbed.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 17:57     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Oh boo-hoo. Cry me a river. It happens all the time. You’ll meet someone a thousand times better and the other guy won’t even be a blip on your radar.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:46     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Thank GOD you didn’t have kids with this guy.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:43     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
I’m so sorry. At least he let you know before and you won’t have to live with some total jerk who is probably cheating on you for years.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:42     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
I"m so sorry. I ended an engagement and it was so painful. The best thing that ever happened to me, but still miserable at the time.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:41     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The ring is not a gift. In most states, it is not hers unless they got married. It is contingent on the contract being fulfilled. She should return it.


Not on her life. It is hers to sell, and she should do it sooner than later. This was not a mutual decision to break up. He's left her hanging with $$ of lost deposits. He would not even dare try to get it back, because he's stupid enough to try, she has a bigger case against him. Lastly, even if he went to court to get it, no one would side with him. No one, and Md law is on OP's side, regardless.

Here it is for Md. OP- it's yours to sell:
"Maryland courts view engagement rings as conditional gifts, contingent on the marriage taking place. If the marriage doesn't happen, the condition isn't met, and the ring reverts to the recipient. Tradition also dictates that the recipient keeps the ring if the engagement is broken off."

Now go after him for lost deposits, OP.
Sorry that you are in pain, but really, this is best. He saved your life.



Our general counsel at work was talking about situations like this when we were talking about somsone’s breakup. He said to never propose with a ring on Valentine’s Day or another holiday because it can complicate whether the ring must be returned. A proposal on a gifting holiday may make the ring arguably a gift (which you keep) rather than contingent on the marriage (which you’d return if no marriage). So if he proposed on V Day it could be a gift that she keeps.

This was in TX and maybe this varies by state - I’m not a lawyer.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 09:45     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
I'm sorry, OP. You dodged a bullet, but I'm sure it doesn't feel like that now.

Sell the ring to recoup some deposits. You will recover and move on.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 09:41     Subject: Re:Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Anonymous wrote:I hope your girlfriends are doing something fun with you today.

I’d fly to Vegas.


I hate Vegas but yes, I'd fly to Vegas. Or destination spa or even a nice one clse to home. Get rubbed! (I mean that in. aclean way)
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 09:36     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
You are so fortunate. It sucks and you have to mourn but you are very lucky. Good luck wiht your future!
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 09:15     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You should not be out any money - if you put down any money or owe any money, make him pay for it. And keep the ring.

Sending you hugs.

As someone said on a different thread: "Oh, look, the trash took itself out!"

He's trash, pure trash.


It is not trash to exit an engagement to someone you realize you do not want to marry. But he should pay her back.



NP here. It's not the exit that makes him trash it's the manner in which he did it. My ex also broke our engagement, but he didn't go out of his way to cause additional pain.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 08:58     Subject: Re:Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Better he reveal his true colors before the wedding than after.

I'm sorry, OP. Some people really ain't sh*t.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 08:47     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
[quote=Anonymous]Listened to a podcast by Oprah and Jamie Kern Lima about her book called Worthy. She has a great poem in there. The line that stuck with me is that her “creator hid her value from [insert person] because that person wasn’t assigned to her destiny.”

OP I know you feel unworthy and rejected but your ex was not assigned to your destiny. You will go on to do bigger and better things with bigger and better people. Good luck.

[/quote]

Don't need the magic woo. The guy was a sh!thead and eventually he dropped the mask. OP, go make your own destiny.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 08:46     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
I'm sorry that heel was holding out back and wasting your time. But I'm glad you're free.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 08:44     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
Sending you hugs. I’m so sorry. He’s a jerk but you will look back and it will be a happy day. Went through all the motions of planning a wedding and had no balls. You probably dodged a bullet. A guy who couldn’t communicate and finally told you 10 day before. You will be okay.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 07:10     Subject: Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
So sorry, OP.