Anonymous wrote:Please be yourself. You want to be comfortable. Obviously if there’s a dress code, follow it. Beyond that, don’t overthink it. If you are going to have a future with your boyfriend, this will be the first of many visits and I can’t imagine the stress of trying to fit in and hiding who you truly are long-term. The first time I met my college son’s girlfriend, she looked lovely dressed in what I’ve come to recognize as her own unique style. I love that she doesn’t follow the crowd. I would advise my daughter to run the other way if her boyfriend’s parents passed judgement on her for how she dressed.

Come on, though. It sounds like OP doesn't really have a personal style, outside of clean cut.

She's not trying to express herself here. She's trying to look nice in a place where she's never been before, meeting her boyfriend's parents for the first time. You cannot blame her for trying to figure out what she should wear in a situation like this!

"Be yourself" is great overall advice - but "look appropriate for the time and place" and "make a good first impression" would also be reasonable advice! She's not asking for help finding an outfit that will make her look like a radically different person - she's asking for help finding an outfit she can look nice and appropriate in for this one occasion.

Please be yourself. You want to be comfortable. Obviously if there’s a dress code, follow it. Beyond that, don’t overthink it. If you are going to have a future with your boyfriend, this will be the first of many visits and I can’t imagine the stress of trying to fit in and hiding who you truly are long-term. The first time I met my college son’s girlfriend, she looked lovely dressed in what I’ve come to recognize as her own unique style. I love that she doesn’t follow the crowd. I would advise my daughter to run the other way if her boyfriend’s parents passed judgement on her for how she dressed.

Other Stories dress is cute but isn’t that out or season for March?

Skip the dress. Wear a pair of pants with a zip fly (i.e., trousers), a nice blouse and a cardigan with flats that aren’t worn out looking. That sounds closer to what you normally wear.

Clean hair, not fussy, no-makeup makeup look.

Wear what you might wear to a job interview which means a little more formal than usual but not something you would never wear. Necklace and earrings that you like and wear.

Small to medium size purse or no purse.

https://www.dvf.com/products/new-jeanne-two-silk-jersey-wrap-dress-in-chain-link-medium-2022

Something like this is appropriate anywhere imo and you could wear tights and boots.

Wear a sweater dress (ideally knee length but you can do a bit shorter, definitely not shorter than “dress code” which means the hem must be as long or longer than your fingertips when your arms are straight at your sides). Tights (black or other dark color depending on the dress color) and boots. Knee high black leather flat or low heel or nice ankle boots.

Don’t stress. As long as you’re dressed neatly and seem comfortable with what you’re wearing you’ll be fine.

This. But I looked at the deets on the other stories dress and it is less than 33 inches in length! That’s too short for this occasion IMHO, and almost certainly wouldn’t follow the finger tip rule above. I think the dress needs to be at least 35-36 inches, especially given that you’re not short.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

Yes! As long as the boots don't make it too sexy. Love that dress.

^ I mean I think either of those dresses could work so long as they aren't too short/sexy with the boots. I love the & Other Stories dress, think the Zara one would also be fine.

Great, thank you so much!

Welcome - hope you have a great time

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

Yes! As long as the boots don't make it too sexy. Love that dress.

^ I mean I think either of those dresses could work so long as they aren't too short/sexy with the boots. I love the & Other Stories dress, think the Zara one would also be fine.

Great, thank you so much!

Wear a sweater dress (ideally knee length but you can do a bit shorter, definitely not shorter than “dress code” which means the hem must be as long or longer than your fingertips when your arms are straight at your sides). Tights (black or other dark color depending on the dress color) and boots. Knee high black leather flat or low heel or nice ankle boots.

Don’t stress. As long as you’re dressed neatly and seem comfortable with what you’re wearing you’ll be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?

It's just my mother, and we consider Olive Garden fancy and I'd wear whatever I was wearing that day - joggers and a hoodie/tshirt or jeans. We're more diner people, but we don't actually go to dinner. We went out with a group of friends the day I graduated from HS - I think that was the last time we went to dinner.

Yikes. It really doesn’t matter OP. No matter what you wear, they aren’t going to like you (for him).

Lol, thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?

I don't know - he'll probably decide the morning of. He comes from preppy, classy people. I come from dirtbag people. So this is no big deal to him while it's a huge stress to me. One time, he got invited to the opera last minute and went. He literally had like three hours notice, and just whipped up an outfit. I wouldn't even know what a person wears to an opera.

How old are you? Previously married? What is your style?

I'm 26. Definitely never married. I was told I have a Gilmore Girls style but I don't really think I have one. I wear jeans and sweaters with either flats or Converse to work. Pretty much the same jeans on weekends with a tshirt or sweatshirt.

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?

It's just my mother, and we consider Olive Garden fancy and I'd wear whatever I was wearing that day - joggers and a hoodie/tshirt or jeans. We're more diner people, but we don't actually go to dinner. We went out with a group of friends the day I graduated from HS - I think that was the last time we went to dinner.

Yikes. It really doesn’t matter OP. No matter what you wear, they aren’t going to like you (for him).

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Anonymous wrote:What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?

I don't know - he'll probably decide the morning of. He comes from preppy, classy people. I come from dirtbag people. So this is no big deal to him while it's a huge stress to me. One time, he got invited to the opera last minute and went. He literally had like three hours notice, and just whipped up an outfit. I wouldn't even know what a person wears to an opera.

How old are you? Previously married? What is your style?

You really want to go short huh? The Zara and Other Stories are probably ok—with tights and conservative boots (ie not stilettos or combat boots). But I would probably feel more comfortable closer to knee-length - just easier to sit down etc. Without worrying your skirt is riding up.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

Yes! As long as the boots don't make it too sexy. Love that dress.

^ I mean I think either of those dresses could work so long as they aren't too short/sexy with the boots. I love the & Other Stories dress, think the Zara one would also be fine.