I look back at all my teen heartbreaks with fondness. I met some great guys that I dated and some I truly loved. One I dated from 16-20. All of them taught me a lot about relationships, love, loyalty, and what my core values were to better my boundaries in future relationships. Sure there were tears but wiping them and moving on is empowering. And honestly most of the guys I dated in my 20’s weren’t as exciting. Teen love is sweet and special.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Not the PP but that’s not how it works. A 19yr old girl that has never dated or kissed anyone is going to be around a lot of college boys that have had years of being players.

My daughter is 14 and it would be crazy to go another 5 years not dating, kissing, having relationships etc… Each one helps figure out what you are looking for. I would be really nervous with my daughter being that innocent going to college. But that’s me

I’m ok with my 14 year old not kissing. Good Lord.

The pp didn’t say that. She said she can’t imagine their daughter going another 5 years like some of you parents force. And a freshman in high school kissing or dating is not an issue. There are middle schoolers having babies. A freshman kissing a crush or a boy she is dating is nothing to drop your jaw about.

Anonymous wrote:Why are people who don’t allow dating fir their teens even posting here??

OP's kid is already dating. That ship has left the port. She wants to know how she should support her. Why not answer the question instead of coming hear to brag about your excellent teen raising skills.

You realize their teens are just doing everything behind their back. After school clubs are make-out sessions and kids sext and send pics and ft each other. That is the type of relationships the kids get into when parents are that controlling.

^ or whatever songs she wants/likes.

Journaling

Doing her hobbies

Get out of the house, even if it's just a walk or spend time with friends.

Make playlists maybe one with heartbreak songs and one with upbeat girl power songs.

Why are people who don’t allow dating fir their teens even posting here??

OP's kid is already dating. That ship has left the port. She wants to know how she should support her. Why not answer the question instead of coming hear to brag about your excellent teen raising skills.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Not the PP but that’s not how it works. A 19yr old girl that has never dated or kissed anyone is going to be around a lot of college boys that have had years of being players.

My daughter is 14 and it would be crazy to go another 5 years not dating, kissing, having relationships etc… Each one helps figure out what you are looking for. I would be really nervous with my daughter being that innocent going to college. But that’s me

I’m ok with my 14 year old not kissing. Good Lord.

Anonymous wrote:Just remember when you had your first heartbreak. Some were easy and some were harder. It felt like the end of the world but hey, you got out of it (i hope). There is always light at the end of the tunnel and i don't mean heaven.

We all had teen heartbreaks because it’s perfectly normally to have teen relationships.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Not the PP but that’s not how it works. A 19yr old girl that has never dated or kissed anyone is going to be around a lot of college boys that have had years of being players.

My daughter is 14 and it would be crazy to go another 5 years not dating, kissing, having relationships etc… Each one helps figure out what you are looking for. I would be really nervous with my daughter being that innocent going to college. But that’s me

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Having a child who went through a hard breakup after sev years tog., I completely disagree with this. You can't shelter your kids to the point that they don't have normal life experiences at normal times in their lives.

I think we disagree on when it’s a normal time then.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Having a child who went through a hard breakup after sev years tog., I completely disagree with this. You can't shelter your kids to the point that they don't have normal life experiences at normal times in their lives.

Just remember when you had your first heartbreak. Some were easy and some were harder. It felt like the end of the world but hey, you got out of it (i hope). There is always light at the end of the tunnel and i don't mean heaven.

Allow to wallow a few days. Lots of hugs and comfort. Remind her that there are something like 8 BILLION people in the world and he is only one of them.

No Social Media stalking, driving by house, walking by locker intentionally, etc. Clean break. And the best revenge is to live her best life.

Each day it gets a little easier.

Anonymous wrote:Someone missed the point

14yr old boys are different than experienced 18-20yr old college kids.

And her family would have been there instead of living in a dorm.

and that holds for girls, too. so your friend would have very likely been even more vulnerable had she started dating at 14. you could have just as well argued that she needed to wait a few more years still (not saying she did - it's just impossible to know).

Also - think about all of the great music about heartbreak - just about every song our kids listen to, and it’s been like that forever. It reflects how universal the experience is, just part of being human. They’re nowhere near alone. That’s why I love PP’s Spotify list. Music wa a huge part of my teen healing.