You do not want to be a nurse.

Anonymous wrote:Don't go into nursing, it's so much more exhausting than working from home. Give yourself a break, reevaluate in half year, the credits that you earned won't disappear.

Not to mention the schedule will be grueling especially as a new nurse. OP hasn’t really thought this out. I don’t get people who try to make a career change when their new career will be a lateral move (at best) in terms of pay and a worse situation re: flexibility.

If you’re not paying for a full-time care, you need to. Especially if it’s affecting your work or the perception of you at work. This stuff matters. The rest of us bite the bullet and pay for a full-time care so we can be effective at our jobs and our kids are older than yours.

Don't go into nursing, it's so much more exhausting than working from home. Give yourself a break, reevaluate in half year, the credits that you earned won't disappear.

why dont youjust use your social work degree? quick google search shows hundreds of social work jobs in DMW area. Some positions just as lucrative as nursing

Tangential, but if your kid makes noise during a meeting again, pretend you are talking to a slacking caregiver. "Betsy, remember I told you Jason had to stay downstairs while you're watching him." It's not against the rules to have a child at home. Don't pretend they didn't hear it (they did) be proactive in managing it.

You make more money than I do. Why do you want to go into nursing? Are you tired of your field?

You need a 5 day 8hr schedule. This is not sustainable, work from 7-3 or 4 and you won’t have to pay for extra childcare. Also, 8 hr schedule is easier on you from stress management perspective.

Drop the school for now.

OP I dont know why the nursing is your main option right now. Incomes arent THAT much better for nurses. You work 4 days per week 11 hours with Fridays off.
I assume that 7-6 covers an hour spread of pickup/dropoff/etc so you really are only working 10 hours so you are working 4 10s

You make 110k WAH. Most people want 30-40% increase minimum to take on the in-person commitment and nursing is laborious. It isnt sitting at a desk, the shifts are long, there are no breaks, and there is shift differential, but night shift slowly kills most people.

So unless you can make 150-170 per year working same or less hours than its moot. You also need to build in retirement and health insurance costs since your husband is not providing those (I assume).

Youre drowning and looking for something else besides the obvious. Tread water, float, and use what you have to survive. Stop adding stuff.

I would withdraw from Chemistry for now.

Don't have a second kid until things become a lot better for you.

you need to get your son into a different class. 9-3 isn't working, you need daycare that runs until 6pm. What are you going to do with him all summer?

Why are your hours so long? You need to push it back to 8 hours a day

Let's all say it together "full-time childcare". I will never understand working parents who put their kids in a 9-12 or 9-3 program and then complain that it doesn't work for their schedules/they can't find an afternoon nanny/blah blah. FULL-TIME CHILDCARE. It's much easier to find for preschool-aged kids, too.

Anonymous wrote:I think the main issue is that you don't have childcare for the hours you work. If you are going to work full days, you need to have childcare for those days and times. Get an afterschool sitter or send your son to aftercare. That's what working parents have to do. If you don't want to do that, then you have to scale back at work.

I agree with this, and otherwise you are always going to feel like youre falling behind because you can't be everyone to everything.

I think the main issue is that you don't have childcare for the hours you work. If you are going to work full days, you need to have childcare for those days and times. Get an afterschool sitter or send your son to aftercare. That's what working parents have to do. If you don't want to do that, then you have to scale back at work.

Anonymous wrote:So what if your son was heard during a work meeting? People who work from home have kids. Sometimes we see or hear them. No big deal. This is life, post-Covid for a LOT of people.

Apparently it is a big deal at OP's work.

You need to simplify your life. Right now, that means dropping the class, which is the only thing that makes sense.

Longer term, enroll your son in full time daycare, get more childcare help, change your schedule to 5 8 hr days, etc. But definitely think hard before adding anything to your plate.