Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because aint no way i am driving to the doctor 2.5 hours away for my adult child that has strep. What are you going to do that the doctors cant do? Let that boy thrive. He is at the doctors and given medicine…. Problem is being solved. I wish i raised my three boys to call me about some BS.

Most people wouldn't, but Dcum attracts a unique crowd of hysterical posters.

I'm not a hovering mother, but this is a young adult in the ER being treated for an apparent throat infection that has caused swelling in the throat such that he has difficulty breathing. They are treating him for cardiac symptoms. He will likely be there for many hours. He or someone called his mother to tell her about it, suggesting that he or someone thinks this is worthy of her attention. His roommates, also sick according to OP and who have been up all night, will want to go home to bed. But sure, let's think about this as nothing more than a trip to the doc for a sore throat lol.

Where did she say he's having trouble breathing? I think you were reading a post from a DP.

Also, saying he's being treated for "cardiac symptoms" is a gross overstatement. He's getting fluids for dehydration, which should decrease his heart rate.

From page 1 of this thread, OP writes:

He woke up around 1am and his throat was so inflamed, he couldn't swallow. Roommates just took him to ER. The ER doc didn’t bother doing another swab since he was very sure it was a severe case of strep. So he’s still there hooked up. Plus meds to lower heart rate.

Sorry, I did misread swallow for breathing, but inability to swallow can also be a medical emergency (symptom of epiglottitis).

Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

+1.

I’m not a hoverer, but if this is his first encounter with er and hospitalization I would probably go just in case he has to start making decisions about testing and treatment that goes beyond his experience. I’m assuming he is still on your insurance but if he is two hours away he may be out of network- that can add up quickly or result in necessary care being denied. Use it as a teaching moment on how to advocate for his health needs. And every kid, no matter how old, probably wants his mom when he’s sick. I’m 53 and my mom has been dead for several years, but when I recently had pneumonia, I just wanted her to take care of me.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Right. He will remember. And if you go, he's going to be much less likely to tell you things in the future. I guarantee it.

The son did not say "DO NO COME MOM". he felt bad about her driving down that's all. Unless I am misreading it. If he said "absolutely do not come mom, you're being annoying", then yes I'd stay home.

Strep can turn into scarlet fever. I had a bad case at his age and the ER doctor wanted to admit me but I didn’t have insurance at the time.

Our heart rate goes up when we’re sick.

I would do the drive. Anyone in the hospital needs an advocate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is an worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

Exactly!

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

My husband and I stay with each other in the ER as advocates. It's not a roommate's responsibility to hang around.

Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Right. He will remember. And if you go, he's going to be much less likely to tell you things in the future. I guarantee it.

Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is an worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because aint no way i am driving to the doctor 2.5 hours away for my adult child that has strep. What are you going to do that the doctors cant do? Let that boy thrive. He is at the doctors and given medicine…. Problem is being solved. I wish i raised my three boys to call me about some BS.

Most people wouldn't, but Dcum attracts a unique crowd of hysterical posters.

I'm not a hovering mother, but this is a young adult in the ER being treated for an apparent throat infection that has caused swelling in the throat such that he has difficulty breathing. They are treating him for cardiac symptoms. He will likely be there for many hours. He or someone called his mother to tell her about it, suggesting that he or someone thinks this is worthy of her attention. His roommates, also sick according to OP and who have been up all night, will want to go home to bed. But sure, let's think about this as nothing more than a trip to the doc for a sore throat lol.

Where did she say he's having trouble breathing? I think you were reading a post from a DP.

Also, saying he's being treated for "cardiac symptoms" is a gross overstatement. He's getting fluids for dehydration, which should decrease his heart rate.

Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

He has his roommates with him who can advocate for him.

Jesus, let the roommates (who are also sick?) go home. Seriously?

+10000 those kids do NOT want to be there. They don’t feel great either and they probably have homework and studying to do. Trust me. My dd went to the er once with a friend and the poor girl had to sit there all day with her. My dd felt so bad. It’s not the friends job.

You don't need someone in the ER with you.

Many posters in this thread seem to have lived awfully sheltered lives.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because aint no way i am driving to the doctor 2.5 hours away for my adult child that has strep. What are you going to do that the doctors cant do? Let that boy thrive. He is at the doctors and given medicine…. Problem is being solved. I wish i raised my three boys to call me about some BS.

Most people wouldn't, but Dcum attracts a unique crowd of hysterical posters.

I'm not a hovering mother, but this is a young adult in the ER being treated for an apparent throat infection that has caused swelling in the throat such that he has difficulty breathing. They are treating him for cardiac symptoms. He will likely be there for many hours. He or someone called his mother to tell her about it, suggesting that he or someone thinks this is worthy of her attention. His roommates, also sick according to OP and who have been up all night, will want to go home to bed. But sure, let's think about this as nothing more than a trip to the doc for a sore throat lol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the age, every person in the ER who is sick needs a patient advocate. When you are sick and exhausted you just aren’t in the best state of mind to navigate the system. Mistakes happen all the time even with an excellent medical team - they are just overwhelmed.

He has his roommates with him who can advocate for him.

Jesus, let the roommates (who are also sick?) go home. Seriously?

+10000 those kids do NOT want to be there. They don’t feel great either and they probably have homework and studying to do. Trust me. My dd went to the er once with a friend and the poor girl had to sit there all day with her. My dd felt so bad. It’s not the friends job.

Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because aint no way i am driving to the doctor 2.5 hours away for my adult child that has strep. What are you going to do that the doctors cant do? Let that boy thrive. He is at the doctors and given medicine…. Problem is being solved. I wish i raised my three boys to call me about some BS.

Most people wouldn't, but Dcum attracts a unique crowd of hysterical posters.