Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:25     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Goodness the men on this thread are so pouty.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:24     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:To be fair, in a happy family, a good man also sacrifices a lot.


No, men are sh*t and 50% of the population knows that for a fact.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:23     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
It is not about being emotional or emotive

It is not about making money.

It’s about treating each other well, working as a team, and looking out for each other. All whilst accomplishing your family’s goals and values you set.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:22     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?


Married women die sooner than married men and single men or single women, there is a reason for this!
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:21     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
If you're spouse is unhappy all of the time, it will be hard to have a happy life.

Also:
You're only as happy as your least happy child.

Trite cliches but have some truth in there
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:14     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
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Anonymous wrote:Women emote more.

That’s the bottom line.

I’m sorry it’s not PC to say it. Women’s monthly cycle also deeply affects behavior. A lot of this quote is based on biological truth.

Men are on the whole more emotionally consistent, less prone to grudges, and speak less or do not as frequently vent their feelings verbally.

This forum is dominated by women, so I’m sure I’ll get tons of blowback, but this is a hill I’ll die on.

Society allows women more leeway for unreasonable behavior without accountability.

it’s also super hip right now to endlessly bash men. You wonder why Gen Z men are somehow turning to the right. It’s because anything they do and say is “toxic masculinity” or they’re supposed to sort of show deference from women as they’re denigrated. They’re supposed to eat sht and like it.


Isn't changing their political affiliation because of a woman's opinion kind of...unreasonable behavior?


I mean there’s tons of reasons it’s happening. It’s targeted algorithms on YouTube. It’s men falling behind women academically. It’s this incredible rise of women and men are having a hard time dealing with it.

But also it’s just hip to bag on men these days. And they are getting tired of it.

Anyway, I do agree “happy wife, happy life” primarily because the happiness in our household depends on it. Whereas I can have a pleasant demeanor 90% of the time, while splitting domestic duties 50%, she can’t say the same. It’s annoying, but that’s life. I still think men are just more chill and don’t try to sht all over their partners moods as much. So sue me.


Yeah, men are having a hard time dealing with the "rise" of women (meaning they are becoming more equal), and so they are changing their political affiliation. Which is not a *reasonable* reaction. It's an emotional one.


Yeah, some are like that.

Other boys are just fed up having their every action, however benign, scrutinized as part of “toxic masculinity”. I think this entire generation is so easily offended, that men are just checking out from exhaustion.


Another emotional reaction.


Yeah, and society lets you say that about men.

Imagine if a man publicly said that about a woman in 2024? You’d have an army of “me too” grievance counselors on the scene in 5 minutes and that man would be publicly shamed on tik tok, nationally.


So we agree. Both men and women are emotional.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:10     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
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Anonymous wrote:What I have found to be weird is that when the man cheats he is asked to leave the house. When the woman cheat let’s see not so clear cut. Can anyone explain what that’s the case?


Start a new thread, grumpy dude


He is correct though. Women are quick to tell the cheating hubby to pack up and leave.


I'm MAJORLY anti-cheating no matter the gender. Kick the he/him, she/her, they/them to the curb!!! Betrayal is so traumatic.


💯
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:09     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:What I have found to be weird is that when the man cheats he is asked to leave the house. When the woman cheat let’s see not so clear cut. Can anyone explain what that’s the case?


A cheating man has spent the family's resources (time, energy, probably money) elsewhere. Why keep him around?
A cheating woman still has groceries to buy/put up/cook, kids to raise, housework to do, and if her man had been reliably responsible for those things, she wouldn't have cheated.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:07     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:Women emote more.

That’s the bottom line.

I’m sorry it’s not PC to say it. Women’s monthly cycle also deeply affects behavior. A lot of this quote is based on biological truth.

Men are on the whole more emotionally consistent, less prone to grudges, and speak less or do not as frequently vent their feelings verbally.

This forum is dominated by women, so I’m sure I’ll get tons of blowback, but this is a hill I’ll die on.

Society allows women more leeway for unreasonable behavior without accountability.

it’s also super hip right now to endlessly bash men. You wonder why Gen Z men are somehow turning to the right. It’s because anything they do and say is “toxic masculinity” or they’re supposed to sort of show deference from women as they’re denigrated. They’re supposed to eat sht and like it.


Careful there.... a lot of folks in this board paid too dollar for their misandrist education. They'll fight tooth and nail against anything that challenges that worldview
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:05     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:04     Subject: Re:Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.


This is as far from the fruth as is possible. Society doesn't prioritize men. Men from an early age learn that society treats them as disposable and if they want to be valued they need to produce. The ones that produce get a chance to form families where they are expected to produce and provide. The ones that don't produce.. well.... those are invisible to both women and society at large.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 12:01     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Running a family is like running a company.

Operations, forecasting, HR, strategy, scheduling & planning, finance, healthcare, training & education, taxes, etc.

If you make the working wife the CEO, COO and CFO and all you do is wire your paycheck and pay your kids in the heads a few times a week…..

Happy wife, happy life.

Look inward boys!
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 11:59     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
My husband has no issues with me fully controlling everything.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 11:58     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
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Anonymous wrote:I haven't heard this phrase used by anyone under 50


I’m over 50 and don’t hear it used much either. I find it very misogynistic. I am not depending on someone else for my happiness.


Are you a man?

The expression is that everyone in the family is happy if mama is happy. Generally, it’s because women experience more frequent emotional variance. If she is happy, everyone else can be at peace and be happy. If not, everyone else knows it.


No it isn’t.

The saying is basic. You want to marry my daughter? The one thing to do is make sure she’s happy.
What makes her happy? A good life partner who’s respectful and caring.
Who runs most of life? Used to be women, needs to be both husband and wife. Is that true today? In some marriages but not the majority.

If the person who drives >90% of the households and family’s functioning is unhappy, and their unhappy about something big & basic (absentee husband or father, abuse, conman no income, addict spouse, zero understanding or listening or emotional support), the whole family is in big trouble.

Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 11:56     Subject: Happy wife, happy life
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women emote more.

That’s the bottom line.

I’m sorry it’s not PC to say it. Women’s monthly cycle also deeply affects behavior. A lot of this quote is based on biological truth.

Men are on the whole more emotionally consistent, less prone to grudges, and speak less or do not as frequently vent their feelings verbally.

This forum is dominated by women, so I’m sure I’ll get tons of blowback, but this is a hill I’ll die on.

Society allows women more leeway for unreasonable behavior without accountability.

it’s also super hip right now to endlessly bash men. You wonder why Gen Z men are somehow turning to the right. It’s because anything they do and say is “toxic masculinity” or they’re supposed to sort of show deference from women as they’re denigrated. They’re supposed to eat sht and like it.


Isn't changing their political affiliation because of a woman's opinion kind of...unreasonable behavior?


I mean there’s tons of reasons it’s happening. It’s targeted algorithms on YouTube. It’s men falling behind women academically. It’s this incredible rise of women and men are having a hard time dealing with it.

But also it’s just hip to bag on men these days. And they are getting tired of it.

Anyway, I do agree “happy wife, happy life” primarily because the happiness in our household depends on it. Whereas I can have a pleasant demeanor 90% of the time, while splitting domestic duties 50%, she can’t say the same. It’s annoying, but that’s life. I still think men are just more chill and don’t try to sht all over their partners moods as much. So sue me.


Yeah, men are having a hard time dealing with the "rise" of women (meaning they are becoming more equal), and so they are changing their political affiliation. Which is not a *reasonable* reaction. It's an emotional one.


Yeah, some are like that.

Other boys are just fed up having their every action, however benign, scrutinized as part of “toxic masculinity”. I think this entire generation is so easily offended, that men are just checking out from exhaustion.


Another emotional reaction.


Yeah, and society lets you say that about men.

Imagine if a man publicly said that about a woman in 2024? You’d have an army of “me too” grievance counselors on the scene in 5 minutes and that man would be publicly shamed on tik tok, nationally.