Anonymous wrote:A lot of people's friends having parties for them here. I like my friends but no one has ever tried to have a surprise party for me and it's hard to imagine anyone putting in that effort. Do I or my friends just suck?
I think it’s usually more about the friends than about the birthday person herself. Maybe that’s just based on a single anecdote, though — my friends threw me a surprise party for my 21st, and trust me when I say *nothing* about me says “surprise party.” I was touched, but I still think it was more about the group sitting around and suddenly thinking, “hey, a surprise party would be cool…”