Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:21     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9 year old daughter is 54” and 62 pounds. She is feeling really down on herself because all of her friends are so much bigger than her. Her own sister (19 months younger) is only 2” shorter and 4 pounds lighter than her. Her brother is 3 years old and 45” and 45 pounds.

What can I say to help her? She actually eats the best out of my 3 kids. I just think genetics aren’t on her side. She takes after the women on DHs side and they are all very short. DH is 5’10” and I am 5’7”. The other two kids take after my side of the family height wise and will most likely be much taller than oldest child.


You SUCK OP and you put this in your kids head and blame your DH for providing you with short lady sperm. You really, really, suck.


Op here - what is your problem?!?


You’re a height fetishist
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:21     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9 year old daughter is 54” and 62 pounds. She is feeling really down on herself because all of her friends are so much bigger than her. Her own sister (19 months younger) is only 2” shorter and 4 pounds lighter than her. Her brother is 3 years old and 45” and 45 pounds.

What can I say to help her? She actually eats the best out of my 3 kids. I just think genetics aren’t on her side. She takes after the women on DHs side and they are all very short. DH is 5’10” and I am 5’7”. The other two kids take after my side of the family height wise and will most likely be much taller than oldest child.


You SUCK OP and you put this in your kids head and blame your DH for providing you with short lady sperm. You really, really, suck.


Op here - what is your problem?!?


You’re a total dick. No one is buying that you haven’t suggested that it’s a giant tragedy that your 9 year old is in the 50th percentiles.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:21     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?


This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.


Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.


She mentioned in passing that she’s smaller for her age relative to her siblings, which is an objective fact. You’re the one who is ascribing a negative implication to it.

Many/most young girls would prefer to be of average height for their age (which she is) rather than abnormally tall.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:19     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:9 year old daughter is 54” and 62 pounds. She is feeling really down on herself because all of her friends are so much bigger than her. Her own sister (19 months younger) is only 2” shorter and 4 pounds lighter than her. Her brother is 3 years old and 45” and 45 pounds.

What can I say to help her? She actually eats the best out of my 3 kids. I just think genetics aren’t on her side. She takes after the women on DHs side and they are all very short. DH is 5’10” and I am 5’7”. The other two kids take after my side of the family height wise and will most likely be much taller than oldest child.


You SUCK OP and you put this in your kids head and blame your DH for providing you with short lady sperm. You really, really, suck.


Op here - what is your problem?!?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:14     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?


This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.


Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:13     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:9 year old daughter is 54” and 62 pounds. She is feeling really down on herself because all of her friends are so much bigger than her. Her own sister (19 months younger) is only 2” shorter and 4 pounds lighter than her. Her brother is 3 years old and 45” and 45 pounds.

What can I say to help her? She actually eats the best out of my 3 kids. I just think genetics aren’t on her side. She takes after the women on DHs side and they are all very short. DH is 5’10” and I am 5’7”. The other two kids take after my side of the family height wise and will most likely be much taller than oldest child.


You SUCK OP and you put this in your kids head and blame your DH for providing you with short lady sperm. You really, really, suck.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 18:09     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?


This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 17:59     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll take petite over being fat any day!



Troof


Yes, of course you would. But we aren't talking about a middle aged woman with a fear of being fat. We are talking about a 9 yearold who is conscientious about her height. You can always lose weight. You can't change how tall you are. OP needs to teach her daughter to love the body she has.


High heels. Flatforms. Platforms. Chunky soles. Stilletos. It's socially acceptable, fun and easy to change your height if you want to go taller.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:49     Subject: Re:9 year old daughter is petite
I think most children (especially girls) would rather be of average weight/height like your daughter rather than enormous for their age like your son.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:46     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
My daughter is petite. There is literally nothing you can do about it other than teach her to be secure in her own body.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:44     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Your child is not petite, she’s average.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:33     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:Just a counterpoint that it's tough for kids this age to be outside of the normal range in general. My healthy and happy 10 y/o DD is around 59" now, and has always been at the tip top of the growth charts and a head taller than all of the girls (and most of the boys). Short or tall, kids on the ends of the ranges will get some comments about their height, and the best thing you can do as a parent is to speak positively about it and build their confidence and sense of self. My DD has some friends that are on the shorter side of the charts and look like peanuts standing next to my child. But they all embrace their differences and can joke about it. Sometimes mine says she wishes she was shorter "like everyone else," but knows that there is no "like everyone else" because everyone is unique and still growing and changing.


But OP’s DD is average or above average… she is not short or thin!
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:25     Subject: Re:9 year old daughter is petite
Your daughter is not petite!!!! She is slightly above the 50th percentile for both weight and height for a 9 year old girl according to cdc statistics. It sounds like you have a skewed perspective of reality that you are pushing on her.

My 10 year old is in fact small for her age (49 inches and 48 pounds) and also has a 7 year old sister who (like your older daughter) is around the 50% percentile and now close to her height but she’s never shown any signs of jealously and recognizes there are also advantages to being smaller.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:23     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
At her 9 year old appointment my DD was 52.5 inches and 60.8 lbs. she was 50% in both. She is very much average compared to her friends and classmates. She is lean and has long legs and arms and is thinner than some of the classmates, but in general she is average. At 10 she is 54.75 inches (55%) and 67 lbs (35% is this right?).

Again, she is pretty average and at this age some girls have already started developing and are (much) taller, but then they will stop growing earlier.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2024 15:18     Subject: 9 year old daughter is petite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who cares? I love being petite. It’s part of me. I’ll never be tall and graceful but small and cute? Yes. Why would she be upset about being short? Lots of successful women are short.

You love it now but did you always feel like that?


Yes