I know plenty of men who did this in their single days, but i only know one that does a set restaurant/order for every day of the week and he is autistic and has never been in a relationship. So, my mind would jump there and think the man is neurodiverse, which creates a challenging relationship dynamic and then another whole host of issues if/when children were involved.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if he's ordering all at once to save the doordash fees. I wouldn't do this because the food won't be fresh by the end of the week. But I've had weeks where I did a lot of takeout because I was super busy or just too drained to cook. It gets expensive.

+1

Anonymous wrote:This would be my dream guy! I hate cooking and prefer to order food. DH prefers that we cook. Im a terrible cook, so DH does most of the cooking. Then he expects me to do the dishes. Those that he creates by cooking. It’s such a hassle. I’d take a chic fil a salad over homemade tacos any day of the week. Homemade food mostly sucks.

Well, yeah, do you expect him to cook AND do all the dishes? He's also probably the only thing between you and an extra 30 pounds.

This would be my dream guy! I hate cooking and prefer to order food. DH prefers that we cook. Im a terrible cook, so DH does most of the cooking. Then he expects me to do the dishes. Those that he creates by cooking. It’s such a hassle. I’d take a chic fil a salad over homemade tacos any day of the week. Homemade food mostly sucks.

This would not be a dealbreaker for me, but I would make sure he’s open and flexible. My DH ate mostly convenience foods and take out when we dated. He still has no interest in learning to cook, but I enjoy cooking. We get takeout or eat out 2-3 times per week.

In my perfect marriage fantasy, DH and I would be cooking together regularly, but he pulls his weight in many other ways.

Anonymous wrote:It is a little extreme, but yes, people do this nowadays.

I agree on both

I hate all the waste of takeout

I wish people would be happy with frozen meals & whatever was available

Trader Joe’s nourished me for 5 years

er... I, a woman, got take out most of the time. It's not worth cooking for one most of the time. Produce items go bad.

I can see ordering additional Thai or Chinese or Indian to have for the next day's lunch or freeze for later (like, to have butter chicken that you like on hand for a weeknight when you make your own rice and warm up naan).

But this is definitely odd.

Seems rigid to the point of on the spectrum, to me. Are there other signs? If so, that's not a huge deal.

My DH didn’t cook much at all when we got together. I don’t mind cooking and he is capable if he needs to. So in our house either I cook or I tell him he is in charge of a meal and he either orders or fixes something simple or heats up leftovers. We have no issues with this. He also takes on more cleaning than I do. It’s a simple chore that he doesn’t like. I don’t like laundry so he does it.

That's a shitload of calories.

If he can could but would rather do this, I wouldn't care, assuming that he does this schedule because it works for him, and he wouldn't freak out if his partner wanted to order different food on a different schedule.

Is your friend considering him as a potential lifetime partner and father? A guy who can't share meal prep is a problem, although maybe your friend loves to cook and wouldn't want to share that responsibility. I would also care about whether this is the one thing he really wants to avoid, because it's much less of a problem if he became the one responsible for all home maintenance and housekeeping, childcare, etc. In that case, sure, I'll make dinner while you figure out summer camps.

How old is he?

Honestly it's ordering it all at once that grosses me out the most TBH.

Anonymous wrote:This is not uncommon even amongst women.

seriously.

I lived in NYC for a while. People legit used their ovens to store shoes (that would be a meme these days, if it is not). I agree that the biggest red flag is around rigidity, but lots of people do strict planning and taco tuesday and whatever...so why not?
As long as he is within his means...it is a longtime busy single-person behavior.

I personally don't want to date someone who cant/wont cook, and it also comes off incredibly lazy to me. I also dont want to date someone lazy.

So I would probably avoid. Nothing inherently wrong, but just doesnt jive with my lifestyle.

I know a guy like this. He now has a ten year old child and cannot prepare a hot meal for her. Like I don't even think he could boil an egg. He's a nice guy generally but I give him major side eye, as well as his wife for enabling this. But she's hardly any better. Their kid thinks food comes in cardboard boxes from an Asian man on an e-bike.