Anonymous wrote:Grown adults expect their spouses to pack for them? What?!

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Anonymous wrote:And my wife did nothing.

About three weeks ago, she asked what I wanted to do and I said lets go glamping in a cabin out in the Shennadoah. She said which one, I said I don't know - you pick. She didn't as of a week ago, so I reserved one.

WhenI got up today, nothing had been done. No bags had been packed, no breakfast had been cooked, no groceries packed for the weekend, nothing. Around 11 she asked, again, what I wanted to do. I said I thought we were going out to the valley. She said Ok, just checking. Now its 1230 and i'm sitting in the den on the internet while she on the phone with her sister in law.

Am I suposed to have planned my own birthday trip? Was I supposed to buy and pack everything? Was this a trip for her or for me?

I tempted to pack for myself and queitly leave.

What would you do here?

Why are you feeling sorry for yourself?

Anonymous wrote:And my wife did nothing.

About three weeks ago, she asked what I wanted to do and I said lets go glamping in a cabin out in the Shennadoah. She said which one, I said I don't know - you pick. She didn't as of a week ago, so I reserved one.

WhenI got up today, nothing had been done. No bags had been packed, no breakfast had been cooked, no groceries packed for the weekend, nothing. Around 11 she asked, again, what I wanted to do. I said I thought we were going out to the valley. She said Ok, just checking. Now its 1230 and i'm sitting in the den on the internet while she on the phone with her sister in law.

Am I suposed to have planned my own birthday trip? Was I supposed to buy and pack everything? Was this a trip for her or for me?

I tempted to pack for myself and queitly leave.

What would you do here?

Anonymous wrote:You want to go glamping in Shenandoah in January brrrrrrr

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my wife did nothing.

About three weeks ago, she asked what I wanted to do and I said lets go glamping in a cabin out in the Shennadoah. She said which one, I said I don't know - you pick. She didn't as of a week ago, so I reserved one.

WhenI got up today, nothing had been done. No bags had been packed, no breakfast had been cooked, no groceries packed for the weekend, nothing. Around 11 she asked, again, what I wanted to do. I said I thought we were going out to the valley. She said Ok, just checking. Now its 1230 and i'm sitting in the den on the internet while she on the phone with her sister in law.

Am I suposed to have planned my own birthday trip? Was I supposed to buy and pack everything? Was this a trip for her or for me?

I tempted to pack for myself and queitly leave.

What would you do here?

Welcome to the club! My POS SAHM does nothing for me - ever. My birthday she only buys a cake but that's more for our kid than me. No present. No card. Same for Father's Day. On Christmas you know what she got me? New sheets for our bed. Yes, that's right. She also got me a desk lamp even though I have two already. And that was it. My kid got over 20 gifts and I bought her 10 gifts. I got two.

To top it off if I don't do something nice for her birthday, Valentines Day, Mothers Day, Anniversary, and Christmas I'm a horrible human. One year I got her $200 flowers sent to the house, a custom $80 cake, and a card and gift and she shit on me saying I "didn't put enough thought into it". This year I've already told her I'm not getting her any gifts, she already spends our bank account like we're millionaires. I'll get her a cake and that's it.

You gave such disdain and disrespect for your wife, that it is scary.
Really, get therapy or get a divorce. I fear for her welfare.

I cannot believe that a grown man is jealous about the fact that his child got more gifts than him. Unbelievable!

I'm not jealous of my kid. I love my kid. She's the only reason I'm staying married. I would have filed for divorce five years ago if it wasn'tt for my kid. But, my parents and my wife's parents begged me not to. So, I agreed and stayed to raise her. My wife is not a great parent. SAHM who barely does anything. iPhone screen time averages 12+ hours per day (literally, I have screenshots for when I file). Yes, I am bitter because she's a hypocrite on a regular basis. Marrying her was the worse decision of my life. But, somehow we have a beautiful great kid and now at age 11 prefers me over her mother most of the time. That's telling.

I am a grown man. I'm an adult. My wife isn't and it wears a husband down just like OP's wife. You women who act like men are trash, yet you are the ones who treat men like trash but expect to be treated as queens.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my wife did nothing.

About three weeks ago, she asked what I wanted to do and I said lets go glamping in a cabin out in the Shennadoah. She said which one, I said I don't know - you pick. She didn't as of a week ago, so I reserved one.

WhenI got up today, nothing had been done. No bags had been packed, no breakfast had been cooked, no groceries packed for the weekend, nothing. Around 11 she asked, again, what I wanted to do. I said I thought we were going out to the valley. She said Ok, just checking. Now its 1230 and i'm sitting in the den on the internet while she on the phone with her sister in law.

Am I suposed to have planned my own birthday trip? Was I supposed to buy and pack everything? Was this a trip for her or for me?

I tempted to pack for myself and queitly leave.

What would you do here?

Welcome to the club! My POS SAHM does nothing for me - ever. My birthday she only buys a cake but that's more for our kid than me. No present. No card. Same for Father's Day. On Christmas you know what she got me? New sheets for our bed. Yes, that's right. She also got me a desk lamp even though I have two already. And that was it. My kid got over 20 gifts and I bought her 10 gifts. I got two.

To top it off if I don't do something nice for her birthday, Valentines Day, Mothers Day, Anniversary, and Christmas I'm a horrible human. One year I got her $200 flowers sent to the house, a custom $80 cake, and a card and gift and she shit on me saying I "didn't put enough thought into it". This year I've already told her I'm not getting her any gifts, she already spends our bank account like we're millionaires. I'll get her a cake and that's it.

You gave such disdain and disrespect for your wife, that it is scary.
Really, get therapy or get a divorce. I fear for her welfare.

I cannot believe that a grown man is jealous about the fact that his child got more gifts than him. Unbelievable!

Anonymous wrote:OP here- where did my communication breakdown? That's the point I was making with "is it my responsibility to do my own birthday"

I don't think it is. And honestly, if I had known this was how I was going to spend the day, I would have done something on my own instead of wasted it waiting for my wife to do something she said she was going to do, but didn't.

Don't even get me started what would have happend had I done this for her birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:No straight man asks his wife to go glamping. Try harder.

What is glamping? I thought it was a typo but is is an under the radar activity of gay people?

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Anonymous wrote:No straight man asks his wife to go glamping. Try harder.

What is glamping? I thought it was a typo but is is an under the radar activity of gay people?

Anonymous wrote:No straight man asks his wife to go glamping. Try harder.