Anonymous
10/10/2024 19:14
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[google]Anonymous wrote:Could it be Aspergers?
My DH comes to talk to me just when I’m in the throne, trying to do my business quietly.
^correction: sitting on the throne
You view your role as being a queen with a throne? Jesus
She’s talking about him interrupting her when she’s on the toilet…
I love hiding in the toilet room, 6-8:30am and 7-8:30pm.
Me too, I’m in here right now! Relaxing
Anonymous
10/10/2024 19:04
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
This is a legit good question.
Do you make time for your husband, or are you just focused on children and your “me time?”
In other threads, women complain about their absentee husbands and want to divorce.
Men can’t win
A: You can win thou. Make some time for adult responsibilities. Stop expecting women to do your chores/childrearing, secretarial work, family planning, elder care, everyone’s care then ask that we be all energized and at the ready to skip on thru a goddamn daisy field whilst looking fresh for the plucking and psyched to feed your insecure sorry ass.
Do you make time for your husband, or are you just focused on children and your “me time?”
In other threads, women complain about their absentee husbands and want to divorce.
Men can’t win
A: You can win thou. Make some time for adult responsibilities. Stop expecting women to do your chores/childrearing, secretarial work, family planning, elder care, everyone’s care then ask that we be all energized and at the ready to skip on thru a goddamn daisy field whilst looking fresh for the plucking and psyched to feed your insecure sorry ass.
Anonymous
09/08/2024 05:56
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
We talk to each other when doing things all the time, that seems completely normal to me. If we had to wait until the other person was doing nothing, we wouldn't speak.
It isn't clear to me when you want him to speak or if generally you expect him to not speak to you at all? When are the times in the day that you are doing nothing where he is allowed to speak without irritating you?
If my husband told me that I am not to speak to him at all unless he is doing nothing and that I am to be silent in my own home unless I get the okay from him to speak, I would leave. I think it is pretty disrespectful to control someone else to the point, they aren't allowed to speak to you in their own home.
I just can't imagine that with such a busy life, there are many times where you are truly doing nothing and therefore he is allowed to talk to you.
Are you sure to never speak to him unless he is doing nothing? Do you teach your kids that they are not to speak to you or him or each other unless the person is doing nothing?
I would find that an extremely rigid and silent and controlling way to live life.
It isn't clear to me when you want him to speak or if generally you expect him to not speak to you at all? When are the times in the day that you are doing nothing where he is allowed to speak without irritating you?
If my husband told me that I am not to speak to him at all unless he is doing nothing and that I am to be silent in my own home unless I get the okay from him to speak, I would leave. I think it is pretty disrespectful to control someone else to the point, they aren't allowed to speak to you in their own home.
I just can't imagine that with such a busy life, there are many times where you are truly doing nothing and therefore he is allowed to talk to you.
Are you sure to never speak to him unless he is doing nothing? Do you teach your kids that they are not to speak to you or him or each other unless the person is doing nothing?
I would find that an extremely rigid and silent and controlling way to live life.
Anonymous
09/08/2024 05:27
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I identify with you, op.
The issue is my dh doesn’t want to connect. He wants to talk about himself. His work issues, his problems his concerns his stress.
If I don’t stop and say “well now I’m going to talk about something going on with me!” He would never ask.
I leave the house to go for walks if I want to listen to something. I lock my home office door.
Or I started going out of town for 48 hours solo.
I can’t change him. I can only change myself and my approach.
I was going to write something similar. The things he wants to say at me are always some variation of 1) too much work 2) not enough work 3) other people get paid more than him. He doesn’t do anything besides work and hang out with the kids so there’s not much to talk about. Plus he doesn’t have any friends left and he wants me to take the place of all his lapsed friendships. I am honestly at a point where I just do whatever and he will have to deal. I have asked him to go to therapy again many times and he won’t so I am not going to make myself crazy because he wants to use me as a coping mechanism for his own imbalanced life.
Pp here with chills reading this. I’m the op of the “new me” thread. I started taking mini trips solo to spark joy for myself and frankly get away from his crazy. Coping mechanism for his imbalanced life- I understand this more than you know.
Thing is why should women be the ones to leave the house? We are behaving and trying to relax/ get things. It’s the men who are annoying, making the mess, talking over the house, being noisy so they should damn well go out. Don’t understand men who spend spo much time at home annoying women. Just bloody go out - you can got to the bar, gym, see your mates ffs
Anonymous
09/08/2024 05:24
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[google]Anonymous wrote:Could it be Aspergers?
My DH comes to talk to me just when I’m in the throne, trying to do my business quietly.
^correction: sitting on the throne
You view your role as being a queen with a throne? Jesus
She’s talking about him interrupting her when she’s on the toilet…
I love hiding in the toilet room, 6-8:30am and 7-8:30pm.
Are you me? I swear i didn’t write this comment!! This is what i have to do. As the kids dad literally wont stop talking and moving around the house. I can never relax or get things done. He takes over all the space with his noise and chaos. He then thinks i am the bully and nasty one for wanting my space and peace! I cant’t stand him and neither can other people. He is hyper and hypes the kids up. When he is not here the kids and myself = calm and relaxed. Irony is the manchild father see it and actually thinks i am the chaotic useless parent. F**k him
Anonymous
09/08/2024 05:21
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:My dad is like this with my mom.
My boyfriend was like this. I had to move out.
Well done you. I guess you had no kids with him? Would have been way harder to move out otherwise.
Anonymous
09/08/2024 05:20
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there any time you aren’t doing something? It seems like you just don’t want your husband to talk to you?
This is a legit good question.
Do you make time for your husband, or are you just focused on children and your “me time?”
In other threads, women complain about their absentee husbands and want to divorce.
Men can’t win.
I am guessing you’re a MAN. She ltierally said her husband is needy and talks at her. So the issue lies with him noti her . He is a selfish needy man. Get help
Anonymous
07/08/2024 09:11
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
My dad is like this with my mom.
My boyfriend was like this. I had to move out.
My boyfriend was like this. I had to move out.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 08:57
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I identify with you, op.
The issue is my dh doesn’t want to connect. He wants to talk about himself. His work issues, his problems his concerns his stress.
If I don’t stop and say “well now I’m going to talk about something going on with me!” He would never ask.
I leave the house to go for walks if I want to listen to something. I lock my home office door.
Or I started going out of town for 48 hours solo.
I can’t change him. I can only change myself and my approach.
I was going to write something similar. The things he wants to say at me are always some variation of 1) too much work 2) not enough work 3) other people get paid more than him. He doesn’t do anything besides work and hang out with the kids so there’s not much to talk about. Plus he doesn’t have any friends left and he wants me to take the place of all his lapsed friendships. I am honestly at a point where I just do whatever and he will have to deal. I have asked him to go to therapy again many times and he won’t so I am not going to make myself crazy because he wants to use me as a coping mechanism for his own imbalanced life.
Pp here with chills reading this. I’m the op of the “new me” thread. I started taking mini trips solo to spark joy for myself and frankly get away from his crazy. Coping mechanism for his imbalanced life- I understand this more than you know.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 08:19
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[google]Anonymous wrote:Could it be Aspergers?
My DH comes to talk to me just when I’m in the throne, trying to do my business quietly.
^correction: sitting on the throne
You view your role as being a queen with a throne? Jesus
She’s talking about him interrupting her when she’s on the toilet…
I love hiding in the toilet room, 6-8:30am and 7-8:30pm.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 07:34
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a working mom with two little kids, one of whom has special needs. I love my DH dearly but I am having this recurring issue where he will not allow me to have alone time, basically ever. No matter what I am trying to do, whether it is tending to the kids (and trying to listen to them, talk to them, etc), working from home, washing dishes, attempting to listen to a podcast, reading a book, he is terrible at noticing that I am doing something else and letting me do it. Example is when I am working from home, he will talk in the room and just start talking at me about whatever topic floats into his head. Or I finally sit down after getting the kids to bed, open my book, and he starts talking.
It is driving me nuts. He does not take well to me kindly saying, hey, I am in the middle of something - can we talk later?
My work days and time with my kids I am "on" pretty much all the time, and I need more quiet and time to relax and unwind without focusing on whatever he wants to talk about. I am pretty good about making time for him but this feels like an immature and frankly kind of selfish behavior. In the meantime, if he has a TV show he wants to watch, he makes a big production about "hey this is my TV night" and goes and watches it. It has not always been like this and I am honestly not sure where this comes from. His friends kind of suck so I think he lacks people to talk to maybe?
AITA for being annoyed by this? Any tips for dealing with it?
The solution is divorce. You’ll be free to do what you love. Don’t let him ruin your life. You deserve better.
So many lame sock puppet troll posts too.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 07:33
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is there any time you aren’t doing something? It seems like you just don’t want your husband to talk to you?
This is a legit good question.
Do you make time for your husband, or are you just focused on children and your “me time?”
In other threads, women complain about their absentee husbands and want to divorce.
Men can’t win.
Whole post doesn’t make sense.
Why isn’t the other spouse involved with any of the meals or kid or tidying up stuff every day?
When is the couple talking about life and things? Hopefully they model that over dinner or when doing stuff in the kitchen or with the kids. And then after 9pm together as a team a few times a week.
The oP post is conflating her supposed Me Time with her neglect /ignoring of her supposed spouse.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 07:29
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Anonymous wrote:I am a working mom with two little kids, one of whom has special needs. I love my DH dearly but I am having this recurring issue where he will not allow me to have alone time, basically ever. No matter what I am trying to do, whether it is tending to the kids (and trying to listen to them, talk to them, etc), working from home, washing dishes, attempting to listen to a podcast, reading a book, he is terrible at noticing that I am doing something else and letting me do it. Example is when I am working from home, he will talk in the room and just start talking at me about whatever topic floats into his head. Or I finally sit down after getting the kids to bed, open my book, and he starts talking.
It is driving me nuts. He does not take well to me kindly saying, hey, I am in the middle of something - can we talk later?
My work days and time with my kids I am "on" pretty much all the time, and I need more quiet and time to relax and unwind without focusing on whatever he wants to talk about. I am pretty good about making time for him but this feels like an immature and frankly kind of selfish behavior. In the meantime, if he has a TV show he wants to watch, he makes a big production about "hey this is my TV night" and goes and watches it. It has not always been like this and I am honestly not sure where this comes from. His friends kind of suck so I think he lacks people to talk to maybe?
AITA for being annoyed by this? Any tips for dealing with it?
This reads like a flipped Troll post.
Anonymous
07/08/2024 07:03
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Do this below . He understands this. Call it TV Night. You may need to label it for him , to start
“ (When he has ) a TV show he wants to watch, he makes a big production about "hey this is my TV night”
“ (When he has ) a TV show he wants to watch, he makes a big production about "hey this is my TV night”
Anonymous
07/08/2024 02:54
Subject: Husband interrupts whatever I am doing
Communicate. Tell him to shut the F up and leave you the hell alone. You've been married long enough where you can be direct. If he gets his feelings hurt, too bad.