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Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs that say the invite isn't supposed to come from the bride. That's not a reason to be offended. If you don't want to go, don't, but not because of who invited you.

Since you are hoping for a ring, probably best to go, unless finals are literally the next day.

Finals are the same day and people are misreading my post or maybe I didn’t give enough info. My MIL didn’t plan the shower, she didn’t even want to tell me when it was but my MIL slipped up and told me so then I got an invite. I understand how bridal showers work im saying im never invited to anything unless my MIL invites me

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there any possibility, OP, that this young woman is either very shy around you, or a little socially awkward, and where you perceive rudeness, it's not intentional, but poor social skills?

I'm in my 40s, and now I can talk to anyone, but in my teens and 20s, I had really bad social anxiety. It was very hard talking to certain people, especially if they were outgoing and loud.

I just want to make sure you're not burning a bridge when it's not warranted.

No she talks to everyone not socially awkward at all even if the person is new. I’ve gone up to her at social events and where we are sitting more secluded from people to talk to her and I’ll make conversation and she will literally not say anything to me like if she never even heard me at all until I walk away. Like it’s so bad that when we are all together and hug each other because we just got there she will hug everyone I will go to hug her and she walks away and doesn’t even say hi. She’s outgoing and loud except for with me I’ve tried to think maybe that was the case but after so many times I don’t think so.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs that say the invite isn't supposed to come from the bride. That's not a reason to be offended. If you don't want to go, don't, but not because of who invited you.

Since you are hoping for a ring, probably best to go, unless finals are literally the next day.

Finals are the same day and people are misreading my post or maybe I didn’t give enough info. My MIL didn’t plan the shower, she didn’t even want to tell me when it was but my MIL slipped up and told me so then I got an invite. I understand how bridal showers work im saying im never invited to anything unless my MIL invites me

Then don't effing go. YOu don't want to. Every post pointing out something you disagree with is met with pushback and excuses. So don't go.

I think you're being childish. And once you're married and have kids . . . you'll probably regret isolating from your DH's family and it will do nothing but cause problems. I am a HUGE one for boundaries and limits, and yes even cutting off or limiting time, where necessary. Sorry, you've not met that threshold imo. Good luck getting through life being so sensitive. YOu have to bear some rudeness sometime, even from family, and find a way to deal with it.

I don’t understand why you are being so rude about it? I was just answering something you said to clarify.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not sure what you're looking for here except for everyone to tell you you're completely justified in not going.

Also, if you're in college (and even if you're not), please learn the difference between too, two, and to.

Anonymous wrote:She's not your sister in law, don't feel obligated.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs that say the invite isn't supposed to come from the bride. That's not a reason to be offended. If you don't want to go, don't, but not because of who invited you.

Since you are hoping for a ring, probably best to go, unless finals are literally the next day.

Finals are the same day and people are misreading my post or maybe I didn’t give enough info. My MIL didn’t plan the shower, she didn’t even want to tell me when it was but my MIL slipped up and told me so then I got an invite. I understand how bridal showers work im saying im never invited to anything unless my MIL invites me

Then don't effing go. YOu don't want to. Every post pointing out something you disagree with is met with pushback and excuses. So don't go.

I think you're being childish. And once you're married and have kids . . . you'll probably regret isolating from your DH's family and it will do nothing but cause problems. I am a HUGE one for boundaries and limits, and yes even cutting off or limiting time, where necessary. Sorry, you've not met that threshold imo. Good luck getting through life being so sensitive. YOu have to bear some rudeness sometime, even from family, and find a way to deal with it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there any possibility, OP, that this young woman is either very shy around you, or a little socially awkward, and where you perceive rudeness, it's not intentional, but poor social skills?

I'm in my 40s, and now I can talk to anyone, but in my teens and 20s, I had really bad social anxiety. It was very hard talking to certain people, especially if they were outgoing and loud.

I just want to make sure you're not burning a bridge when it's not warranted.

No she talks to everyone not socially awkward at all even if the person is new. I’ve gone up to her at social events and where we are sitting more secluded from people to talk to her and I’ll make conversation and she will literally not say anything to me like if she never even heard me at all until I walk away. Like it’s so bad that when we are all together and hug each other because we just got there she will hug everyone I will go to hug her and she walks away and doesn’t even say hi. She’s outgoing and loud except for with me I’ve tried to think maybe that was the case but after so many times I don’t think so. I would prefer if that’s the case, I usually can be good at getting people out of their shell. But she has been that way since the day we met. It got so bad my SO family noticed and randomly told me she has jealousy issues pretty bad and to ignore her. But I felt like ignoring her or just letting it go was a bad idea, but I just continued to be nice to her and her family. It’s just draining sometimes.

Anonymous wrote:Is there any possibility, OP, that this young woman is either very shy around you, or a little socially awkward, and where you perceive rudeness, it's not intentional, but poor social skills?

I'm in my 40s, and now I can talk to anyone, but in my teens and 20s, I had really bad social anxiety. It was very hard talking to certain people, especially if they were outgoing and loud.

I just want to make sure you're not burning a bridge when it's not warranted.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs that say the invite isn't supposed to come from the bride. That's not a reason to be offended. If you don't want to go, don't, but not because of who invited you.

Since you are hoping for a ring, probably best to go, unless finals are literally the next day.

Finals are the same day and people are misreading my post or maybe I didn’t give enough info. My MIL didn’t plan the shower, she didn’t even want to tell me when it was but my MIL slipped up and told me so then I got an invite. I understand how bridal showers work im saying im never invited to anything unless my MIL invites me

Anonymous wrote:Op, something is very "off" that you are pretending you are married (Sister-Inlaw)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs that say the invite isn't supposed to come from the bride. That's not a reason to be offended. If you don't want to go, don't, but not because of who invited you.

Since you are hoping for a ring, probably best to go, unless finals are literally the next day.

Finals are the same day and people are misreading my post or maybe I didn’t give enough info. My MIL didn’t plan the shower, she didn’t even want to tell me when it was but my MIL slipped up and told me so then I got an invite. I understand how bridal showers work im saying im never invited to anything unless my MIL invites me

It sounds like you are holding way too many grudges and just want to come up with excuses why you can’t go. If you have finals that day won’t you be finished studying? Most people seem to think you should go at least to make an appearance. You have jumped on several people for suggesting you go and not sharing in your excuses. Do whatever you want but don’t expect people to agree with you. And don’t blame it on finals, just say I don’t want to go and reap the consequences.