Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 01:49     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
The expectation that moms have a great career on top of actually being a mom to their kids. It’s wonderful for the ones who *want* to do it—the superwomen and the wealthy who can afford all the help to facilitate—but the expectation that therefore we all should or are lazy or bad parents…ugh.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2023 00:49     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Needing to engage your kids every second of every day or you're a bad mom. Like I want to able to tell my kids to go do something else while I watch tv and not get crucified by the mommy police. Our grandmothers had it made.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2023 23:37     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Keeping your home clutter free and decorated w the latest home fashion trend.

DH and I worked full time while raising our 2 DCs. The house was tidy but not clutter free or model home like. My own mother and MIL would comment passively aggressively about the toys on the floor (during the toddler years), jackets hanging on chairs backs, or throw blankets not folded and draped neatly on couches. It drove me crazy. We do laundry, vaccume, dust, clean the bathrooms every week. Those darn toys are fine to be left on the floor. We are not talking about toys that covered the entire living room floor.


I would find this super annoying.

If your Mother + MIL have issues with your homemaking skills, then they can either a.) stop visiting your home or b.) pick up some of their own grandchildren’s stuff if it truly bothers them where they feel it necessary to rudely comment. 😤
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2023 20:53     Subject: Re:What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Expecting moms to work should be removed.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2023 20:30     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll start:
making holidays special for entire families.



Correct. I dropped the rope on this. I have all boys. My future DILS can thank me for not setting expectations.


I dunno; I’d worry that this just means your sons won’t associate holidays as important / priorities in your family, and will feel no need to spend them with you


DP. And they would be correct, and that’s ok. I have a very good relationship with my mom (my dad passed away), and we spend time together, but almost never on holidays. My mom worked in a hospital, so a holiday would often be just another work day for her, and fun things happened at other times.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2023 18:24     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Kids riding the bus and buying school lunch.

The school system offers these services, use them. Walking is good too.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2023 16:41     Subject: What one societal expectation, if removed, would make life easier for moms?
Anonymous wrote:Going back to work when your baby is 8-14 weeks old, so essentially no maternity leave, and hitting the ground running at the same 45-55+ hours a week job you’ve always had. It should be far more common and feasible to work part time or, like, 35-40 hours a week but not more, at professional careers after having kids.


This! And weight and keeping the house tidy (not clean, but picked up).