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Anonymous wrote:This didn’t happen. There’s no way the hostess would care this much. Whats up with these farcical threads? You must think we’re idiots.

This story is fake. The facts are too out of the norm. I operate two catering companies. We have never - ever - catered an event and only served one beer. It doesn't happen because the host and catering company knows guests have various tastes and it's common practice to serve at the minimum one light beer if not 2-3 options. It's even common these days to serve nonalcoholic beer. We've received many requests for nonalcoholic beer in the last two years. These are mainly for corporate and business events.

No one is hosting a massive party and only serving Stella. That does not occur. Been in the catering business for over 15 years in DC.

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The hostess is way more out of line than your husband, OP.

I say this as a super uptight, upper middle class sort of person, who would never want to see a beer at such an event.

The role of the host is to make guests feel welcome. If there is a guest who breaks a social rule and brings unwanted food or drink for his own consumption, it's the host's duty to make reasonable accommodations. Yes, the beer added a vulgar note to an otherwise elegant event. But the accommodation was easy to make, and the host should have smiled and thought of it as an "eccentricity" on the part of one of the guests.

Because the upper classes are never crass peasants with low tastes. They're just eccentric

The fact that the hostess became upset and is now hounding you is beyond the pale, and shows how insecure she is about her social position. No REAL upper class person, or gracious host, would let this bother them.

The correct course of action is to reply by mail on your monogrammed cardstock, expressing your regret that she is upset. It's not an apology. It's an empathetic acknowledgement of her fragility.

Anonymous wrote:My response to this depends entirely on whether the actual host was offended. If the person who is your husband's long-time friend, and the person who earned the money to make this lifestyle happens, is actually offended, then I'd offer an apology.

But it sounds like maybe the old friend found it funny, or at least tolerable, and his wife is inflexible.

Anonymous wrote:This didn’t happen. There’s no way the hostess would care this much. Whats up with these farcical threads? You must think we’re idiots.

Anonymous wrote:If I was the hostess, I would have produced a massive jug of puffed cheese balls and had one of the catering staff stand beside the cooler offering them to the beer drinkers.

Anonymous wrote:If this story is real
1) Your DH and childhood friend are hysterical. They did it to thumb their nose at the fru-fru gathering bc they know that
2) The hostess has a pole up her ass and would lose her sh**
3) The host(old childhood friend) doesn’t give a F**k (I notice you don’t mention him at all) because before the money, they played in ballparks and climbed fences together
4)You need to take the pole out of your own ass, this is about childhood buddies and antics, it’s not about you. You’ll still be invited next year don’t worry your pretty head OP.

Anonymous wrote:
The hostess is way more out of line than your husband, OP.

I say this as a super uptight, upper middle class sort of person, who would never want to see a beer at such an event.

The role of the host is to make guests feel welcome. If there is a guest who breaks a social rule and brings unwanted food or drink for his own consumption, it's the host's duty to make reasonable accommodations. Yes, the beer added a vulgar note to an otherwise elegant event. But the accommodation was easy to make, and the host should have smiled and thought of it as an "eccentricity" on the part of one of the guests.

Because the upper classes are never crass peasants with low tastes. They're just eccentric

The fact that the hostess became upset and is now hounding you is beyond the pale, and shows how insecure she is about her social position. No REAL upper class person, or gracious host, would let this bother them.

The correct course of action is to reply by mail on your monogrammed cardstock, expressing your regret that she is upset. It's not an apology. It's an empathetic acknowledgement of her fragility.

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! You and jerk husband will not be invited to future parties. He can laugh that off in his man cave.

Anonymous wrote:Your DH and the hostess were both wrong. You don’t take your own food and drink someone else’s event when it’s not a potluck. The hostess should have ignored the crass behavior and quietly removed you and the other friend from the invite list going forward if she’s that put out. However a gracious hostess would just have Bud in bottles at the bar next year and let you know in advance to leave the cooler at home.