Anonymous wrote:I would tell her to be less absolute. She’s 16, that’s like 2 years from now. She can be firm that she doesn’t want to do anything anytime soon without making a statement that could change.

2 years without any sexual action (not just sex but you said nothing I assume past kissing?)is a long time to wait at 16-17 - it’s ok to not be ready but I do think it sounds like your daughter might not be ready to have a boyfriend, which is also ok.

Ew you’re creepy. Why are creeps allowed to comment on the private lives of 16 year olds? You sound like a pedophile

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Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

Yep.

HS romances never last much past graduation anyway.

So what? That’s part of growing up and becoming a mature person.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve known too many teenage girls who found themselves pregnant, and the boy who swore he loved her and would never leave her suddenly vanished.

At 16, don’t risk it. The consequences are too great for a few moments of pleasure.

Be firm and break up now if he doesn’t agree with a non sexual relationship. It will hurt, but a lot less than potentially being a teen mom.

wow where did you grow up? i never knew anyone.

NP but I grew up in the Midwest in a fancy suburb that sends lots of kids to the kind of schools that everyone on here obsesses over. Girls I knew who got pregnant or had scares were on the field hockey team, on the swim team, in Model UN and on student council. All took a ton of AP classes and no one would have guessed what was going on. I remember a male classmate in AP Calc being relieved because his girlfriend had a miscarriage and so their pregnancy scare was over. This was in the days before cheap texting so he was telling his friend behind me via typed notes on a TI-82 calculator that I had to pass back and forth between them!

Girls I knew of who got pregnant and actually kept the babies? One girl on drill team and a bunch of other girls from the “bad” neighborhood. My guess is they were the only ones without rich parents or older sisters to help them out.

Being smart or from a “nice” school isn’t magical protection against pregnancy. OP’s DD is making an intelligent choice.

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Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

Oh, FFS. We are talking about a CHILD!

+1

The underlying assumption in many posts is that a girls virginity is valuable by itself and she shouldn’t compromise her purity, values or morals by having sex too early. Somehow that argument is never made for the boy.

Sorry, but we’re not living in the 1950s anymore. Plenty of teenagers start their sex life in high school and end up as well functioning adults.

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

Oh, FFS. We are talking about a CHILD!

Tell her to tell him to enjoy masturbation and pornography.
If she's conveying that that's gross but also won't have sex, it's doomed.

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Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

Yep.

HS romances never last much past graduation anyway.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, she might. But that will tell her all she needs to know about him. She needs to stay true to her values and her comfort level.

It could also be HE isn't ready for it.

Or, her attitude tells the boy all he needs to know about her. Next.

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

Yep.

Wow are 16 yr olds having sex out there?! I thought people waited till they were in college.

I would tell her to be less absolute. She’s 16, that’s like 2 years from now. She can be firm that she doesn’t want to do anything anytime soon without making a statement that could change.

2 years without any sexual action (not just sex but you said nothing I assume past kissing?)is a long time to wait at 16-17 - it’s ok to not be ready but I do think it sounds like your daughter might not be ready to have a boyfriend, which is also ok.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve known too many teenage girls who found themselves pregnant, and the boy who swore he loved her and would never leave her suddenly vanished.

At 16, don’t risk it. The consequences are too great for a few moments of pleasure.

Be firm and break up now if he doesn’t agree with a non sexual relationship. It will hurt, but a lot less than potentially being a teen mom.

wow where did you grow up? i never knew anyone.

Not PP same here. Girls had abortions when they got ghosted by the guy. Grew up in Chevy Chase.

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Anonymous wrote:Teen girl 16 wants to tell her boyfriend (also 16) she’s not up for sex (of any kind) while she’s in high school. She’s worried she’s going to lose him and she’s not sure how to approach it.

I want to offer her helpful advice, but I’m not sure what to say.

Tell her lots of us regret sleeping with our HS boyfriends.

PREACH!!!!!

Anonymous wrote:why is she not up for sex of any kind? not saying she should do it for the boyfriend. however, i also had a friend who was very attractive but kept avoiding sex and ended up unmarried.

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And plenty of girls who put out all over the place are divorced and chasing baby daddy for child support.