Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:44     Subject: sex partners
Anonymous wrote:I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.


+1. Except it wasn’t so much a coercive older boyfriend as it was a coercive adult illegal immigrant who worked at my first summer job. It’s just my opinion of course, but I think there is almost always some trauma lurking underneath there.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:43     Subject: sex partners
PP who mentioned values earlier. I’m having a hard time understanding why so many people associate having many partners with being physically unclean or repulsive. That’s just nonsense. The only thing you can learn from this is something about what people value. I’m an only-in-committed-relationships person so my body count is low. Someone with a high number just hasn’t demonstrated the same emphasis on a committed monogamous relationship. Not saying one is better or worse than the other, just different. And neither is unclean or repulsive.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:35     Subject: sex partners
Anonymous wrote:I had over 300 sex partners of both men and women from the time I started, including my college years before meeting my husband.

I loved the feeling. I was not molested or damaged in any way.


Couple questions: why did you feel you needed experience it with a new man so often ? You were not satisfied/finding what you need sexually, or the variety was getting you off?
And how did you find time to see so many guys ? Went to bars/constantly scheduled several dates online ?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:31     Subject: sex partners
Anonymous wrote:I agree with the others that there may be a mental disorder. It doesn’t seem like it will end well unless you just want to have fun

So women who like sex have mental disorder?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:27     Subject: sex partners
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:22     Subject: Re:sex partners
It’s so sad that we are in 2023 and men (and women) continue to ‘slut shame’ women for having sex.

Puritanical roots are strong.

Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:18     Subject: sex partners
Would you want a pair of shoes worn by 60 other people?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 17:08     Subject: sex partners
I had over 300 sex partners of both men and women from the time I started, including my college years before meeting my husband.

I loved the feeling. I was not molested or damaged in any way.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 16:56     Subject: sex partners
I had around 25 opposite sex partners and a number of same sex dalliances by the time I was in my 30's...so sure, why not.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 15:33     Subject: sex partners
I'd be more concerned if she was raised in one of those anti-sex religions. But, everyone has different concerns when it comes to choosing a partner.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 15:09     Subject: sex partners
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes absolutely you have found a sex-positive woman ... which is (sadly) quite rare.


Yea, it's totally exciting to expose yourself to random guys' genital liquids. Women should embrace this.


Don't you have choir practice to attend?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 14:51     Subject: sex partners
Or how selective is she? Yes, she could go to frat parties and be banged by every Chad, Brad, Thad, Chip, or Tripp put there. But do you really want someone who would do it with just about anyone?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 14:43     Subject: Re:sex partners
I guess I'd be more concerned with if she's ever cheated on anyone.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 14:05     Subject: Re:sex partners
Anonymous wrote:Practice makes perfect! I could use more practice.


And you can't practice with the same person why?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 14:04     Subject: Re:sex partners
Anonymous wrote:With 60 partners I’d be concerned that any guy she introduced me to had slept with her. I know two of my wife’s exBFs and I’m sure when they see her, naked thoughts come to mind, especially given their wives haven’t aged well and mine looks great.


This reminds me of a NY Times article about marriage therapy before a crisis where the husband then found out that the wife invited about five guys she slept with to the wedding. That's just in poor taste and you're right, her "friends" are going to be guys like this.