Anonymous
11/22/2023 09:25
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Make Indian friends.
Anonymous
11/22/2023 09:17
Subject: Re:Bday snub - what to do now
Have you always been overinvolved and petty? Time to grow up.
Anonymous
11/22/2023 07:14
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:Op - I just want to validate you for a second. Dcum can be really harsh about these things and I have found responses on here to be really really brutal about this stuff
That was totally upsetting. And rude and mean and hurtful to a child and you are his mom and I would also be triggered in a million ways. Not least of all like - why do I have to go out of my way to make your kids birthday party successful when you could not give af about my kid. I totally get it. 10000000000000000%
That being said id jusf drop your kid off and let him go. Leave it to him to decide a gift. The kid probably had no idea of last years situation and they could have a nice friendship. Let your dh drop off and pick up. Check out. Be mama bear. You love your kid and I get it. Hugs
+1 Team OP.
Anonymous
11/21/2023 23:53
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:I actually think no show no reply is more polite then accepting an invitation and then not showing up.
Agree, no show/no reply kid shouldn't have been counted as an attendee. Sure, the parents who said "yes" then didn't bring their son are rude (on the few instances this happened over the years for all of the parties DS was invited to, I always reached out to the mom directly to say our plans had to change and apologize).
OP - let your kid go to the party. He's excited. Get over last year.
Anonymous
11/21/2023 23:26
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Op - I just want to validate you for a second. Dcum can be really harsh about these things and I have found responses on here to be really really brutal about this stuff
That was totally upsetting. And rude and mean and hurtful to a child and you are his mom and I would also be triggered in a million ways. Not least of all like - why do I have to go out of my way to make your kids birthday party successful when you could not give af about my kid. I totally get it. 10000000000000000%
That being said id jusf drop your kid off and let him go. Leave it to him to decide a gift. The kid probably had no idea of last years situation and they could have a nice friendship. Let your dh drop off and pick up. Check out. Be mama bear. You love your kid and I get it. Hugs
That was totally upsetting. And rude and mean and hurtful to a child and you are his mom and I would also be triggered in a million ways. Not least of all like - why do I have to go out of my way to make your kids birthday party successful when you could not give af about my kid. I totally get it. 10000000000000000%
That being said id jusf drop your kid off and let him go. Leave it to him to decide a gift. The kid probably had no idea of last years situation and they could have a nice friendship. Let your dh drop off and pick up. Check out. Be mama bear. You love your kid and I get it. Hugs
Anonymous
11/21/2023 10:55
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Anonymous wrote:Pp here. There are 2 boys who happen to be good friends who have flaked and not come to my kid’s party for 3 years. I don’t care for the moms and they are not in my kids’ immediate close friend circle. I still invite them because my son likes them and includes them in the guest list.
DP
We invite the entire class every year. Some kids (or their parents) have no manners around invitations. I just accept that they are rude and continue to act according to my values, which is to invite everyone. When they invite my kid, if the kid wants to go, we get a thoughtful gift and go.
OP you sound petty and childish.
Anonymous
11/21/2023 10:51
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
You're an adult. Act like one, otherwise your kid has no hope of having social skills. Ignore their rudness. Accept the invite. Buy a nice gift. Teach your son to be a gracious guest and thank the hosts. It's not that hard. You can only control yourself and your manners.
Anonymous
11/19/2023 22:07
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
The other parents have given zero thought to you and your kid and omg, you have. Not just a minute or two but an entire year…and you still continue to think about what they did.
That is soooo very sad. All that mental energy expended on people that are not even worth it (according to you). How do people live like this? I guess maybe u only have one child, you have this time and mental energy to expend?
That is soooo very sad. All that mental energy expended on people that are not even worth it (according to you). How do people live like this? I guess maybe u only have one child, you have this time and mental energy to expend?
Anonymous
11/19/2023 20:20
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
I don't think if you snubbed this upcoming party that the parents are going to relate it to their own snub of your party all the way from last year.
It's too far removed at this point.
And you are using your DS as a pawn in a chess game that's all in your head.
Take the high road and get over it.
Are you tit for tat about everything in real life?
It's too far removed at this point.
And you are using your DS as a pawn in a chess game that's all in your head.
Take the high road and get over it.
Are you tit for tat about everything in real life?
Anonymous
11/19/2023 20:15
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Pp here. There are 2 boys who happen to be good friends who have flaked and not come to my kid’s party for 3 years. I don’t care for the moms and they are not in my kids’ immediate close friend circle. I still invite them because my son likes them and includes them in the guest list.
Anonymous
11/19/2023 20:14
Subject: Bday snub - what to do now
Having two boys ages 12 and 14 with parties involving laser tag guns and paintball games, I can tell you that some parents are against guns.
I have had friends punish their kids by not allowing them to attend parties. Some kids don’t want to do the activity or would rather do something else. I do think the two boys getting together were rude but could there be something more to it? They played soccer or basketball before or church or scouts?
Do you attend private school? In public, there are many many parents who don’t respond to communication. You comment about family being very rich makes me think private and a big blow off. I wonder how far away you are geographically.
I have had friends punish their kids by not allowing them to attend parties. Some kids don’t want to do the activity or would rather do something else. I do think the two boys getting together were rude but could there be something more to it? They played soccer or basketball before or church or scouts?
Do you attend private school? In public, there are many many parents who don’t respond to communication. You comment about family being very rich makes me think private and a big blow off. I wonder how far away you are geographically.