The office is a great place for meeting friends - especially if you’re from out of town. Have you tried that, OP?

In my 20s I did Thursday happy hour with work friends mixed with my friends ever Thursday, lunch with work friends five days a week. We went in ski trips, vacations, went to each others weddings. My department had 40 of us all pretty much between 24-29 and 90 percent single. It was a blast.

Now older I cringe at stuff like this.

Anonymous wrote:Working from home and living alone is feelin’ a lot like 2020. Everyday feels the same, no physical contact, and way too much thinking. Anyone have tips on getting out of this rut?

I thought living alone was going to be so much fun, because in every tv show, you moved out in your 20s even because living alone is so much fun.......

A friend and I worked out of our homes for around 12 years way prior to covid when no one else was doing this.
My friend was doing graphic design out of his home. He really struggled with being solitary. He would go to the grocery store where the "artistic crowd" shopped on his lunch break and get his family's groceries. He would talk to random people in the parking lot and inside. He usually would run into friends when shopping.

Host evening get togethers with friends at your place.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughters are in their twenties. Oldest goes to the office frequently. They have good snacks and they have a gym and she likes to buy nice clothes and show them off at the office. Lots of young people work there and they have frequent social events and go out for drinks. Youngest goes in several days a week as well. I think she might be dating her boss but she also likes wearing cute outfits and she likes her colleagues. I met my husband at work. I used to dress up cute for work as well.

You are somehow cheapening professional women by making it about displaying cute dressing, happy hours and hunting husbands.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Yeah but how many hours a day are you at work vs how many hours are you hanging out with friends in the evening after work?

When I was in my 20’s, I would hate to have no in person socializing throughout my workday, and only get to see people in the evening for a couple of hours (likely just a few times a week because going out every night would be a bit excessive!)

I have always preferred to spend time with actual friends not people I’m forced to work with. You choose your friends not your coworkers.

Yeah but how many hours a day are you at work vs how many hours are you hanging out with friends in the evening after work?

When I was in my 20’s, I would hate to have no in person socializing throughout my workday, and only get to see people in the evening for a couple of hours (likely just a few times a week because going out every night would be a bit excessive!)

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Anonymous wrote:Amidst the snark, there is some good advice here for OP. I’ll just add that it’s ok if remote work isn’t for you. Some people act like it’s the perfect work environment for everyone. For some of us, going to the office is better for our physical and mental health and that’s ok.

I work at a 6000 employees company with about 75% of the employees are under 30 years old. The company recently did a survey regarding Return To Office (RTO) and 99% of the 30 years old and under voted NOT to return to office PERMANENTLY.  40% of the remaining 25% want to RTO two days a week.  The young crowd does not want to be in the office.

Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?

Signed,

An introverted gen Xer who could never wfh in my 20’s!

Who are you people that have no friends? Didn’t you socialize with actual friends most nights when you were young? You only got your socialization from talking to people at your job?

What, Who said that? I socialized with people at work during the day and then went out with my friends at night.

You did. You wrote “Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?”

If you went out with friends every night then you weren’t alone all day. Your “in person” socializing was with actual friends not coworkers. Same as the people responding to PPs survey.

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Anonymous wrote:Amidst the snark, there is some good advice here for OP. I’ll just add that it’s ok if remote work isn’t for you. Some people act like it’s the perfect work environment for everyone. For some of us, going to the office is better for our physical and mental health and that’s ok.

I work at a 6000 employees company with about 75% of the employees are under 30 years old. The company recently did a survey regarding Return To Office (RTO) and 99% of the 30 years old and under voted NOT to return to office PERMANENTLY.  40% of the remaining 25% want to RTO two days a week.  The young crowd does not want to be in the office.

Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?

Signed,

An introverted gen Xer who could never wfh in my 20’s!

Who are you people that have no friends? Didn’t you socialize with actual friends most nights when you were young? You only got your socialization from talking to people at your job?

What, Who said that? I socialized with people at work during the day and then went out with my friends at night.

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Anonymous wrote:Working from home and living alone is feelin’ a lot like 2020. Everyday feels the same, no physical contact, and way too much thinking. Anyone have tips on getting out of this rut?

I thought living alone was going to be so much fun, because in every tv show, you moved out in your 20s even because living alone is so much fun.......

Get a job you have to go into the office for there are plenty!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amidst the snark, there is some good advice here for OP. I’ll just add that it’s ok if remote work isn’t for you. Some people act like it’s the perfect work environment for everyone. For some of us, going to the office is better for our physical and mental health and that’s ok.

I work at a 6000 employees company with about 75% of the employees are under 30 years old. The company recently did a survey regarding Return To Office (RTO) and 99% of the 30 years old and under voted NOT to return to office PERMANENTLY.  40% of the remaining 25% want to RTO two days a week.  The young crowd does not want to be in the office.

Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?

Signed,

An introverted gen Xer who could never wfh in my 20’s!

Who are you people that have no friends? Didn’t you socialize with actual friends most nights when you were young? You only got your socialization from talking to people at your job?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amidst the snark, there is some good advice here for OP. I’ll just add that it’s ok if remote work isn’t for you. Some people act like it’s the perfect work environment for everyone. For some of us, going to the office is better for our physical and mental health and that’s ok.

I work at a 6000 employees company with about 75% of the employees are under 30 years old. The company recently did a survey regarding Return To Office (RTO) and 99% of the 30 years old and under voted NOT to return to office PERMANENTLY.  40% of the remaining 25% want to RTO two days a week.  The young crowd does not want to be in the office.

Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?

Signed,

An introverted gen Xer who could never wfh in my 20’s!

PP here.

The company subsidizes gym costs for folks who don't want to be in the office even though the office has a brand new gym. Young people in the office have plenty of things to do, they hang out with other people in the company to do things outside of work without being in the office through the company internal apps on the phone. There are activities such as hiking, sports, getting together after hours, etc... all available on the company intranet for young people to join.

The company even tried to get people to return to the office by enticing folks to have $6 Starbucks coffee every morning, $20 lunch and if people stay late in the evening at the office for work, another $30 for dinner, per day. Even with all that, less than 1% of young people signed up for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Amidst the snark, there is some good advice here for OP. I’ll just add that it’s ok if remote work isn’t for you. Some people act like it’s the perfect work environment for everyone. For some of us, going to the office is better for our physical and mental health and that’s ok.

I work at a 6000 employees company with about 75% of the employees are under 30 years old. The company recently did a survey regarding Return To Office (RTO) and 99% of the 30 years old and under voted NOT to return to office PERMANENTLY.  40% of the remaining 25% want to RTO two days a week.  The young crowd does not want to be in the office.

Don’t they get lonely being by themselves all day and having no in person socializing?

Signed,

An introverted gen Xer who could never wfh in my 20’s!

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Anonymous wrote:Go out in the evenings. How is this difficult?

Let me guess. You’re a mom who works remotely and love it because you can slack off.

DP
Lemme guess you're a judgemental a$$hole who has a chip on their shoulder about WFH MOMS (not dads, because you're a sexist woman who is jealous).

There is another possibility. May be both of you are being rude to two major groups of women, SAHM ones and WFH?

Anonymous wrote:My daughters are in their twenties. Oldest goes to the office frequently. They have good snacks and they have a gym and she likes to buy nice clothes and show them off at the office. Lots of young people work there and they have frequent social events and go out for drinks. Youngest goes in several days a week as well. I think she might be dating her boss but she also likes wearing cute outfits and she likes her colleagues. I met my husband at work. I used to dress up cute for work as well.

You are somehow cheapening professional women by making it about displaying cute dressing, happy hours and hunting husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:Working from home and living alone is feelin’ a lot like 2020. Everyday feels the same, no physical contact, and way too much thinking. Anyone have tips on getting out of this rut?

I thought living alone was going to be so much fun, because in every tv show, you moved out in your 20s even because living alone is so much fun.......

I am a 26 years old software engineer and I've never been back to the office after March 2020. WFH is the best thing for young people. I wake up at 6am to go to the gym and be back home at 8am to have breakfast, and start the work day at 8:30am. Took an hour break during lunch to play pickleball with friends and have lunch after that. Play tennis or 9 holes golf with friends at 5pm and go out for a drink and dinner after that. If I have to work in the office, I would not be able to go to the gym, play PB/tennis, and hang out with friends on weekdays. No way I am going back to the office.

That’s because you’re capable of making friends unlike the OP. And there was a person who posted here a few months ago (maybe the same OP) that was freaking out that working from home was limiting her dating options. 😳

Different people operate in different ways. One size doesn't fit all but it sure can be altered to suit individuals.