Anonymous wrote:I have felt this way sometimes. I think it harks back to fashions in the 90s that I never ever felt like I could pull off. Cute tees. A “cute tee” on me was sexy at age 15. Sad or happy about that I don’t know.

I just wish I could to participate a little. But I recognize it was catalogs and stores feeding this to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

Agree. I was the pp talking about 90s fashion.

I still feel this way. Like what I was given naturally is TOO much for everybody. But it’s my body. As though small breasts don’t call attention directly or get in anybody’s way. They fit any top or dress. They fit any swimsuit.

I could see getting a reduction for myself to aid my posture, though.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is BS. No one actually wishes they were flat chested. You might say that because *some* models/actresses are built that way and it can make certain clothes (like a very narrow range of clothes) look good on them that won't look good on others. But we're talking like this narrow range of styles that people associate with Audrey Hepburn. Certain high necklines (though not all). That's it. There are also styles that only look good on someone with a large chest. If you are looking for inspiration, look at photos of Kim K, Salma Hayek, Christina Hendricks. These women are all considered beautiful and sexy.

Flat-chested girls get teased and harassed for it, just like girls who develop early and have large chests do. They struggle with buying clothes and with things fitting as they are "supposed" to. They are often told that their bodies are incorrect or not sufficiently feminine. You'd just be trading one extreme for another.

If your problem is having a hard-to-fit body or only being able to wear a narrow range of clothing, you should envy women with B and C cups and a classic bust-waist-hip ratio. Also being average to slightly above average height (5'4" to 5'6") means it is easy to buy pants and that skirts/dresses will hit you at the intended point.

NP. I wish I was flat chested and have every day since I was 13.

Then cut 'em off. What's stopping you?

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

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Anonymous wrote:And many skinny, flat-chested women envy your curves.

Acceptance your body for what it is and simply letting go of the idea that it should (or could) be different can be extremely liberating. I guarantee you there are clothes that will look great on your body but terrible on a skinny, flat-chested woman.

You will never be skinny and flat-chested. You just won't. Let it go. That body type is not inherently better than yours.

No reason this is true. I am happily skinny and flat chested. I have known no other way.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Ask your husband. He loves my large naturals that still sit just right!

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Ask your husband. He loves my large naturals that still sit just right!

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is BS. No one actually wishes they were flat chested. You might say that because *some* models/actresses are built that way and it can make certain clothes (like a very narrow range of clothes) look good on them that won't look good on others. But we're talking like this narrow range of styles that people associate with Audrey Hepburn. Certain high necklines (though not all). That's it. There are also styles that only look good on someone with a large chest. If you are looking for inspiration, look at photos of Kim K, Salma Hayek, Christina Hendricks. These women are all considered beautiful and sexy.

Flat-chested girls get teased and harassed for it, just like girls who develop early and have large chests do. They struggle with buying clothes and with things fitting as they are "supposed" to. They are often told that their bodies are incorrect or not sufficiently feminine. You'd just be trading one extreme for another.

If your problem is having a hard-to-fit body or only being able to wear a narrow range of clothing, you should envy women with B and C cups and a classic bust-waist-hip ratio. Also being average to slightly above average height (5'4" to 5'6") means it is easy to buy pants and that skirts/dresses will hit you at the intended point.

NP. I wish I was flat chested and have every day since I was 13.