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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

There are plenty of LGBTQ Catholics.

OP said it is just because the schools are close to her house. Do not pick a school that a community built to support their own beliefs and go in and try to reap the benefits while not holding yourself to their rules. That is so disrespectful.

+1 million. Imagine catholics going to some woke secular school and trying to tell them being gay is bad. They would get shredded to pieces.

..are...are you being serious here? oh boy the lack of awareness in this comment

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just posing these questions for research on specific schools. Not trying to skirt any rules or reap benefits without respecting the Faith. We are a Catholic family with an LGBTQ (immediate) family member and we don't want our child to be exposed to homophobic rhetoric or practices. Public school isn't working and the tuition at liberal privates is too much. I'd like to believe there are a few schools, even just one or two, (like McNamara!) that are welcoming to the gay community.

They are mutually exclusive. Either pay for a school where your family will actually be respected, or stay in public.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just posing these questions for research on specific schools. Not trying to skirt any rules or reap benefits without respecting the Faith. We are a Catholic family with an LGBTQ (immediate) family member and we don't want our child to be exposed to homophobic rhetoric or practices. Public school isn't working and the tuition at liberal privates is too much. I'd like to believe there are a few schools, even just one or two, (like McNamara!) that are welcoming to the gay community.

I’m sympathetic to you because everything here, including education, is too dang expensive, but that doesn’t mean that your child is entitled to go to a Catholic school or that they should water down their beliefs to appeal to you. I’m Catholic and certainly struggle with certain teachings. But it drives me absolutely crazy when non-Catholics want to have their cake and eat it too. Please don’t be openly disdainful of the Church and then elbow your way into a space created for its members.

How is applying to a school and being accepted "elbowing your way" into a space? Who is arguing they are "entitled" to anything? Who is being "openly disdainful" of the Church?

The OP respectfully asked a question and wasn't rude to anyone. They are simply seeking information. There are plenty of "disdainful" people in this thread but it's not the OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just posing these questions for research on specific schools. Not trying to skirt any rules or reap benefits without respecting the Faith. We are a Catholic family with an LGBTQ (immediate) family member and we don't want our child to be exposed to homophobic rhetoric or practices. Public school isn't working and the tuition at liberal privates is too much. I'd like to believe there are a few schools, even just one or two, (like McNamara!) that are welcoming to the gay community.

Then don't send your kid to Catholic school. It is impossible that they won't have homophobic rhetoric or practices.

But also your kid is old enough to decide which rhetoric they want to buy into and which they don't. I attended Catholic school K -12 and by high school I just openly told people that I was ok with abortion if asked. I didn't attend right to life marches, etc. and I didn't look down or argue with anyone who felt different than me. They were entitled to their beliefs and practices just as I felt entitled to mine. I had zero issues ever.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

There are plenty of LGBTQ Catholics.

OP said it is just because the schools are close to her house. Do not pick a school that a community built to support their own beliefs and go in and try to reap the benefits while not holding yourself to their rules. That is so disrespectful.

+1 million. Imagine catholics going to some woke secular school and trying to tell them being gay is bad. They would get shredded to pieces.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

+ six million

NP. I agree with you on this point. We are not Catholic and do not send our children to Catholic schools for the reasons you state. We send out kids to secular private schools.

That said, Catholic schools are considerably less expensive than most of the secular alternatives. Some folks who want to avoid public school see Catholic school as an affordable alternative. So, Catholic schools will continue to attract non-Catholics.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

+1 They feel entitled to affinity groups and safe spaces but won’t give us the same respect.

Anonymous wrote:Do they exist? If so, how? “Under the table” with student-run clubs that aren’t acknowledged by the school, or out in the open with teachers and administration supporting decisions like having same-sex dates at prom? Somewhere in the middle? And which schools?

DC is looking at both all-girls and co-ed in the DC/MoCo area.

Seriously, OP? Go to a woke co-ed school, please.

OP, these are Catholic schools.

I think you need to be looking at secular private schools or public schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Catholics don’t support LGBTQ+. Why would you even consider this for a kid who identifies as such? Ridiculous.

The pope says, ok sure be “gay” if you must. But you’d better be chaste! Any sexual act is a sin. double whammy if you’re gay.

The Catholic Church is a hypocritical mess. Always has been; always will be.

This is the most accurate comment I've seen regarding the Church. Catholicism is not anti-gay, Catholicism is against any sex act that isn't procreative and unitive. This technically includes sex out of marriage, sex on birth control, and gay sex.

For what it's worth, OP, I was raised in Catholic school with multiple family members that were LGBTQ. It never caused any issues as my parents took the opportunity to discuss what I learned in school and how the teachings of the Church fit with how we lived our lives and our beliefs. One can be Catholic and not subscribe to every teaching of the Church. Yes, I know there are a lot of people who would disagree with that, but that's their choice just as my belief structure is my choice.

Why do you lie about easily verifiable facts?

Priests are unmarried and celibate, but gay men cannot be priests.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_clergy_in_the_Catholic_Church

I'm not sure where the lie you see is? While I don't agree with the practice, nor do I agree with priests being celibate and unmarried, from an institutional perspective, it makes sense that the leaders of the Church cannot identify with a subsection that aligns with what they see as immoral acts.

"The Catechism distinguishes between homosexual acts and homosexual tendencies. Regarding acts, it teaches that Sacred Scripture presents them as grave sins. The Tradition has constantly considered them as intrinsically immoral and contrary to the natural law. Consequently, under no circumstance can they be approved. ... In the light of such teaching, this Dicastery, in accord with the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments, believes it necessary to state clearly that the Church, while profoundly respecting the persons in question, cannot admit to the seminary or to holy orders those who practise homosexuality, present deep-seated homosexual tendencies or support the so-called "gay culture"."

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Anonymous wrote:Do they exist? If so, how? “Under the table” with student-run clubs that aren’t acknowledged by the school, or out in the open with teachers and administration supporting decisions like having same-sex dates at prom? Somewhere in the middle? And which schools?

DC is looking at both all-girls and co-ed in the DC/MoCo area.

My dh teaches in a Catholic school and unfortunately I do not believe any Catholic school is going to be tolerant of LQBTQ+ I would either just go to a public or find a non religious high school. You have to decide which is more important..single education? Religion? high education rating?

Accepting of LGBTQ+? But, I don't think you are going to find it all in a Catholic school. If this was my child I would avoid all Catholic schools like the plague.

Tolerant, absolutely. Forcing all their peers to participate in performative inclusion activities, heck to the no.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of Catholic hate from people with little experience.

American Catholics are very split on the Church's stance on many social issues, including LGBTQ. Your child may face some homophobia from more conservative Catholic students and teachers but will also get quite a bit of support from those who believe that the Church should evolve. That debate is happening even within the Synod happening in Rome.

I'd start by getting a sense as to whether the HS near you has a reputation of being more liberal or conservative. I.e. social justice-type Catholic or a more traditional or conservative take. Find families who go there and talk to them. Everyone must take religion, and the flavor of it will really depend on the teacher and what they want to focus on.

There will be little you can do to push back if you aren't happy, though.

Np It isn't hate if you are stating the truth. Why do you assume we have no experience? If you child is LGTBQ+ do not send them to a Catholic school. Being gay or trans is against what they teach.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

+ six million

Anonymous wrote:Do they exist? If so, how? “Under the table” with student-run clubs that aren’t acknowledged by the school, or out in the open with teachers and administration supporting decisions like having same-sex dates at prom? Somewhere in the middle? And which schools?

DC is looking at both all-girls and co-ed in the DC/MoCo area.

My dh teaches in a Catholic school and unfortunately I do not believe any Catholic school is going to be tolerant of LQBTQ+ I would either just go to a public or find a non religious high school. You have to decide which is more important..single education? Religion? high education rating?

Accepting of LGBTQ+? But, I don't think you are going to find it all in a Catholic school. If this was my child I would avoid all Catholic schools like the plague.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

There are plenty of LGBTQ Catholics.

OP said it is just because the schools are close to her house. Do not pick a school that a community built to support their own beliefs and go in and try to reap the benefits while not holding yourself to their rules. That is so disrespectful.

+1