Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed by the amount of posters here saying to hand out loose, unwrapped chocolates to trick or treaters

Obviously,you either let kid choose one piece of candy or you wrap in colored Satan wrap.

I think we need context too. If they are lovely people who are kind and considerate then I might do a thank you, but no photo and if they inquire about it, just say you donated it, but appreciated that they thought of her. Gently remind about candy, but also say how much you appreciate that she has such wonderful grandparents.

If they have memory issues and genuinely might have forgotten the boundary, let it go.

If they are chronic boundary violators and tend to be passive aggressive then no need to text thank you. If they inquire same thing let them know the boundary.

Anonymous wrote:From DH to his parents- Thanks for the Halloween candy. It wasn’t something Larla could eat, but I took it to work and shared it. Here’s a picture of her in her costume. . .

Disagree. Let it go. You don’t have to give her the candy but you don’t have to be rude to the grandparents, either. Send the thank you and let everyone get what they want.

Honestly I really wouldn’t go into explaining your gift preferences and or try to make them understand exactly how you like to do things at home.

Send them a nice thank you text and leave it at that.

From DH to his parents- Thanks for the Halloween candy. It wasn’t something Larla could eat, but I took it to work and shared it. Here’s a picture of her in her costume. . .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to be gracious and thank them for the gift and then use that as an opportunity to mention again that you don't allow candy. You can say we took a few pieces out for her as a "special treat" and then shared your beautiful gift with our neighborhood trick or treaters who were most appreciative.

That is a mixed message. It's like giving in to an unwanted kiss and then giggling and saying "don't kiss me again."

Not really. You have to thank them for the gift. And then you say: "Now you know we don't give Lil Cutie candy, so please refrain from gifts like this in the future." You can say you kept a few pieces just to be polite. Or don't - you can say you shared it but you absolutely need to thank the grandparents for the gesture.

Anonymous wrote:Do you plan on never giving her candy or is this temporary because she's two?

This.

Do you plan on never giving her candy or is this temporary because she's two?

I would not risk offending family members over something like this! They had nothing but kind intentions.

“Eric and I are excited about the gift you sent for Olivia. Vosges is our favorite! 😉”

“Thank you so much for the candy. Emma is excited to share it with her friends and neighbors on Halloween!”

Anonymous wrote:You need to be gracious and thank them for the gift and then use that as an opportunity to mention again that you don't allow candy. You can say we took a few pieces out for her as a "special treat" and then shared your beautiful gift with our neighborhood trick or treaters who were most appreciative.

That is a mixed message. It's like giving in to an unwanted kiss and then giggling and saying "don't kiss me again."

Say thank you. Eat one piece of candy. Then bring the rest to work.

I wouldn't take a picture, but just reply "thanks for the cute gift" and move on.

Then donate the candy if you don't want it.

I’m amazed by the amount of posters here saying to hand out loose, unwrapped chocolates to trick or treaters