Why are you even married?

Why doesn't OP's husband get to use the bathroom in his bedroom? Did OP seize it?

You are savages regardless, for not having a bidet.

Anonymous wrote:Count his underwear and count again in a few weeks, then call the plumber. I know a guy who destroyed his family’s plumbing because he would use his boxers whenever he ended up in this situation.

He is divorced now, fwiw.

You both lose.

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Anonymous wrote:I get where you're coming from and why you did it, but not allowing someone the dignity to clean themselves and making them get up and walk around vulnerable and soiled is just...idk. It feels wrong and almost cruel.

I'd be fed up if I were you too though, just not sure what I'd do about it.

Oh please. It’s hardly the Trail of Tears.

I’m just saying I would feel like my spouse intentionally humiliated me to punish me and I would not like it. I would understand their frustration with me, but it would make me question their respect and love for me.

What are you even babbling on about? Her husband is an adult with full cognitive faculties. He’s perfectly capable of getting his own toilet paper. Yet he doesn’t and makes everyone else stop what they’re doing to go fetch some TP. If this was the first time it had happened, then sure, go get the paper. But he’s refused to take care of this. Again and again.

Poor planning on his part does not constitute an emergency on OP’s part.

He’s in his own home in a space he’s chosen not to maintain. At what point does he have to take responsibility for himself?

#TeamOP

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get where you're coming from and why you did it, but not allowing someone the dignity to clean themselves and making them get up and walk around vulnerable and soiled is just...idk. It feels wrong and almost cruel.

I'd be fed up if I were you too though, just not sure what I'd do about it.

Oh please. It’s hardly the Trail of Tears.

I’m just saying I would feel like my spouse intentionally humiliated me to punish me and I would not like it. I would understand their frustration with me, but it would make me question their respect and love for me.

Because it's very loving and respectful to treat someone as your toilet paper gofer. Way to keep the romance alive!

OP here - thank you!
The point is we had had the same conversation a zillion times. I warned him that I was going to stop getting his tp after the millionth time getting it. He was warned and yet he still pulled the same crap. Where’s the love and respect in that?

I mean. Are there things that he does for you because for some reason they are a blind spot?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get where you're coming from and why you did it, but not allowing someone the dignity to clean themselves and making them get up and walk around vulnerable and soiled is just...idk. It feels wrong and almost cruel.

I'd be fed up if I were you too though, just not sure what I'd do about it.

Oh please. It’s hardly the Trail of Tears.

I’m just saying I would feel like my spouse intentionally humiliated me to punish me and I would not like it. I would understand their frustration with me, but it would make me question their respect and love for me.

Because it's very loving and respectful to treat someone as your toilet paper gofer. Way to keep the romance alive!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get where you're coming from and why you did it, but not allowing someone the dignity to clean themselves and making them get up and walk around vulnerable and soiled is just...idk. It feels wrong and almost cruel.

I'd be fed up if I were you too though, just not sure what I'd do about it.

Oh please. It’s hardly the Trail of Tears.

I’m just saying I would feel like my spouse intentionally humiliated me to punish me and I would not like it. I would understand their frustration with me, but it would make me question their respect and love for me.

Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Or your husband is a child and you are his mommy. If that works for you, great. But I’d rather be married to a man who can take care of his own BASIC hygiene without my assistance.

I’d buy some awful Scott brand 1 ply and only deliver that when he asks.

There would be some fluffy Charmin available too, but that’s self service.

Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Ok then. The relationship guru has spoken.

Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

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Anonymous wrote:So he had to go upstairs without wiping, dripping who knows what filth along the way, creating an unhealthy situation for your family. Congratulations?

?!?
He had his underwear and pants on. What kind of poops do you have?!?