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Anonymous wrote:I guess I still don’t understand what you are doing that is so weird.

Lots of women don’t like mainstream girly things. Lots prefer the company of men. I just don’t think of this as weird at all.

Can you give specifics?

What?

Really? Can you let me know how many boys weekends you know about that invite the one girl like me?

I’m sure the wives would love that.

What is it you wanna do on boys’ weekends? Those vary too you know. Some might want to drink beer and play golf. Others are into stuff like chess. Still others might be into hiking and white weather rafting.

Oh and there are women who do all these things too.

I have no idea why you think you are unusual. Find your people. I don’t do manicures or wine and cheese gossip. I love to climb. So I made a whole group of friends of all ages and sexes at the climbing gym.

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Anonymous wrote:I am weird but I do not present that way initially based on general appearance (I guess I am "pretty" and dress well, for example). But once people get to know me, I experience the same thing of people shying away from me. It is very lonely.

This, in some ways I think it would be better if I didn't look so normal because I think I tend to attract people who are conformist (I think I look pleasant and non-threatening) and this is the sort of person who is most scared off when you turn out to be unusual in any way.

What's funny is that I think often people who look overtly weird or different are often actually pretty middle of the road. I've had this experience, too, where I've made friends with people who come off as very nonconformist in their appearance but then they'll be like, "I think you're weird." If you've never been rejected by someone with purple hair and facial piercings who is an aerial yoga instructor or a tattoo artist for being "too different," well then, you're lucky.

Yeah, the people who are so immature that they need to show the world they're rebels aren't the ones to look to for kindness. These fringe groups can be brutal.

You’re not good at critical thinking.

No, there is something to this. I have encountered fringe groups of people who are all "weird" thinking I've met kindred spirits, only to be rejected for not being "one of them." I think sometimes people who define themselves by how they are "not like other people" are often much more exclusionary than people who are pretty conformist generally but make an effort to have an open mind.

Just because some a-hole you met had purple hair, it doesn’t mean every person who looks unusual to you is an a-hole. Critical thinking 👍

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I still don’t understand what you are doing that is so weird.

Lots of women don’t like mainstream girly things. Lots prefer the company of men. I just don’t think of this as weird at all.

Can you give specifics?

What?

Really? Can you let me know how many boys weekends you know about that invite the one girl like me?

I’m sure the wives would love that.

Anonymous wrote:I'm actually teaching my kids the opposite. It's important to form connections with people, and fitting in is part of that. Good manners are ways to make other people feel comfortable. Societal norms are how we avoid anarchy. Flouting this is not a good thing.

If you have a disability such as autism, then people should make allowances for that. There are also resources to help you. You could join groups for people with autism and form connections.

Bucking society at large is generally some form of disability/mental illness. You can also do some odd things privately, as long as there's no moral or legal issue at hand. You don't need to broadcast every part of your life. But if you're running into frequent problems, then you need professional help. You'll likely be much happier once you get your diagnosis and get help for how to manage it.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Isolation is terrible. I hope it gets better for you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I still don’t understand what you are doing that is so weird.

Lots of women don’t like mainstream girly things. Lots prefer the company of men. I just don’t think of this as weird at all.

Can you give specifics?

What?

Really? Can you let me know how many boys weekends you know about that invite the one girl like me?

I’m sure the wives would love that.

My guy friends don’t do boy weekends, but we regularly get together for drinks. No wives, just us.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I still don’t understand what you are doing that is so weird.

Lots of women don’t like mainstream girly things. Lots prefer the company of men. I just don’t think of this as weird at all.

Can you give specifics?

What?

Really? Can you let me know how many boys weekends you know about that invite the one girl like me?

I’m sure the wives would love that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm weird in the sense that I'm a woman but I don't really enjoy hanging out with women. I don't like what women like and I don't enjoy womenish things.

I also sadly found out in my 20's that hanging with the "boys" was not socially acceptable. So I'm sort of stuck hanging out with women and I can't really relate to most of them.

I've always felt this way that I really just didn't like or relate to girls.

What do women like?

“We won’t be watching college game day, playing pickup basketball, going golfing watching college football, talking about our fantasy leagues, eating wings and nachos and then watching football all day Sunday.”

My husband will do none of the above.

“We will being doing crafts, getting our nails done, shopping, eating lots of cheese, dressing up in dresses and going to a dinner that will cost at least a $100”

I will only consider the crafts and the cheese. My husband will buy all the cheese.

A woman.