Anonymous wrote:At our school it is the popular/cool girls who are into volleyball and coincidentally they are the mean girls.

You must have a small school or popularity associated with height. At ours, 5'9 or below isn't making the team

I think it varies by school and there's nothing inherently "mean girl" about volleyball.

My daughter would say volleyball girls are nice, field hockey girls are mean.

Volleyball is not really a sport at DD's public. The team exists but no one knows anything about it. The mean girls who aren't really mean but just popular girls are on soccer.

My child plays JV on a high school team. Last year and the previous year, the varsity squad developed a “mean” culture. This was brought to the attention of the AD and other admin. New varsity coach this year who has established different expectations for behavior and, with the departure of last year’s seniors, the team vibe is much improved.

Parents and a school can do something to address this sort of team dynamic. Kids need to know mean behavior will not be tolerated.

My DD is in her 3rd year playing volleyball at a large NOVA public school. Volleyball here seems to be popular with three groups--the wealthier girls who can afford club, the girls from immigrant families who culturally play a lot of volleyball, and the athletic girls who want to play a fall sport. It is a nice mix. DD is one of the athletic, multi-sport girls and loves her team. It is so much fun.

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you ask your daughter who made the comment what she meant? What was the point of rolling your eyes when you are actually curious about the comment?

+1, and my interpretation is that she is not talking about a general stereotype of volleyball players but the reputations of the girls who play volleyball at the school your kids attend.

It really does suck if your younger daughter is great at volleyball and likes it, but the team has a toxic culture. I'd definitely want more information to find out if there is any truth to it. Maybe it was just one cohort who was around at the same time as your older DD, and now it's better. Or maybe the culture sucks, but there are things you can do to insulate your younger DD from it if she continues to play.

Why didn’t you ask your daughter who made the comment what she meant? What was the point of rolling your eyes when you are actually curious about the comment?

At our school it is the popular/cool girls who are into volleyball and coincidentally they are the mean girls.

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T my big three it was lacrosse and field hockey. They all loved wearing their short purple skirts to school on game day. Like cheerleaders.

How does that make them mean?

Any grouping of girls has meal girl potential, especially if it is centered around competition

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is great at it. I feel silly even typing this out, but my older daughter was saying that "everyone knows" that the girls who play volleyball are "mean girls." I mostly rolled my eyes but a friend in another area said it's the same in their area. Is that really true?

It kind of is, not to say that all the girls on a team are mean girls, but just that mean girls gravitate toward it, much like cheer. Look at the outfits for volleyball and cheer compared to other girls' sports (except swim) and you will see why it attracts a certain type. Other girls' sports do not have such sexualized outfits. Most of what makes a "mean girl" mean is a desire to fight over the attention of boys.

Are you serious with saying volleyball uniforms are sexualized because of the shorts? Give me a break. So what about cross country and track and field? Are those uniforms sexualized, too? Not everything is, you know. Sometimes a uniform is just a uniform and shorts are short because they are easier to move in.

FWIW the girls I know playing volleyball are not mean girls. Please understand that there are at least some mean girls in every sport.

Basketball and soccer have more movement than volleyball and their uniforms are not the slightest bit sexual. Vb uniforms are way too tight and revealing for minors. If you wore a vb uniform to play bb, you would be sent to the locker room to change. Vb as a sport has a distinct culture around it and it is reflected in the uniform.

Tell me more about the distinct culture that is reflected in the uniforms. WTAF..stop sexualizing everything!

+1 so tired of it

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Anonymous wrote:Which team are the a-hole boys in? And are wrestling uniforms sexualized? Sounds like some of you on this thread are the mean girls.

Lacrosse but it depends on the school

+1 million, doesn’t depend on school, is universal

ok this is my stereotype too. rich bro-types.
maybe girls sports have come along far enough that there's now the same stereotype for girls with some sports.

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Anonymous wrote:What a sexist thread.

Calling bullies out isn’t sexist.

OP here. I am female, and for the record, I was a D1 athlete.

But no one enters middle and high school sports at a very high level. That comes later -- or doesn't. And along the way, there are social elements that are factors in the development of the kids I am raising.

So I am curious who is attracted to the sport. We'll move before my kids start high school most likely and frankly, I don't need to nurture a sport that is known to be mean girl sport all else equal.

Also, I know very little about volleyball, but I do think there may be a truism for whatever reason that certain sports attract on certain personality types, and that sports can also have an impact on who you are

Anonymous wrote:Funny, we literally had this discussion at our dinner table tonight about this. - DC private hs

And?