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Anonymous wrote:I was just talking to a friend of mine last night who has all boys. She hadn’t encountered this whole phenomenon until her boys started dating. She was surprised at how mean the girl was, and even more surprised that the mom seemed to condone and encourage it.

I have two daughters and haven’t encountered it. I think this is only an issue if you have a daughter that wants to be in the cool kid crowd and isn’t interested in friendships with any other kids

Only? Not my experience. Girls will be mean and bully other girls even when those girls just want the mean girls to go away and leave them alone. Nice victim blaming.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.

This isnt our experience at a dc public school with affluent and diverse families. It is getting better in high school, but elementary and middle school were mean girl hell. And I agree that the moms are often surprisingly nice and clueless that their daughters are total dicks.

PP here, then my guess is that some of the parents aren’t as affluent as they’d like to seem. If Mom and Dad are struggling to keep up with the Jones’ they’re going to argue and fight about money. Kids pick up on those types of stresses. People who seem rich can be living huge paycheck to huge paycheck. I’ll bet you can find very mean girl behavior at the ritziest NYC private schools. No, what I’m talking about is the situations where everyone is truly, really financially well off and comfortable. When you’re parents are financially at ease, there’s a different atmosphere at home which leads to a better attitude outside of it.

Speaking as someone who has been referred to as adding “diversity” to an environment, I don’t think it helps with bullying. It only makes people like you less when you are different from how they are. I fail to see why people think it would aid in stopping mean girl behavior.

Being really, really, truly financially secure is the only thing I’ve seen that works.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.

This isnt our experience at a dc public school with affluent and diverse families. It is getting better in high school, but elementary and middle school were mean girl hell. And I agree that the moms are often surprisingly nice and clueless that their daughters are total dicks.

PP here, then my guess is that some of the parents aren’t as affluent as they’d like to seem. If Mom and Dad are struggling to keep up with the Jones’ they’re going to argue and fight about money. Kids pick up on those types of stresses. People who seem rich can be living huge paycheck to huge paycheck. I’ll bet you can find very mean girl behavior at the ritziest NYC private schools. No, what I’m talking about is the situations where everyone is truly, really financially well off and comfortable. When you’re parents are financially at ease, there’s a different atmosphere at home which leads to a better attitude outside of it.

Speaking as someone who has been referred to as adding “diversity” to an environment, I don’t think it helps with bullying. It only makes people like you less when you are different from how they are. I fail to see why people think it would aid in stopping mean girl behavior.

Being really, really, truly financially secure is the only thing I’ve seen that works.

WTF? Your uninformed take on it is the financially secure don’t produce mean children. Stupidest thing I have ever heard.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.

This isnt our experience at a dc public school with affluent and diverse families. It is getting better in high school, but elementary and middle school were mean girl hell. And I agree that the moms are often surprisingly nice and clueless that their daughters are total dicks.

PP here, then my guess is that some of the parents aren’t as affluent as they’d like to seem. If Mom and Dad are struggling to keep up with the Jones’ they’re going to argue and fight about money. Kids pick up on those types of stresses. People who seem rich can be living huge paycheck to huge paycheck. I’ll bet you can find very mean girl behavior at the ritziest NYC private schools. No, what I’m talking about is the situations where everyone is truly, really financially well off and comfortable. When you’re parents are financially at ease, there’s a different atmosphere at home which leads to a better attitude outside of it.

Speaking as someone who has been referred to as adding “diversity” to an environment, I don’t think it helps with bullying. It only makes people like you less when you are different from how they are. I fail to see why people think it would aid in stopping mean girl behavior.

Being really, really, truly financially secure is the only thing I’ve seen that works.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.

This isnt our experience at a dc public school with affluent and diverse families. It is getting better in high school, but elementary and middle school were mean girl hell. And I agree that the moms are often surprisingly nice and clueless that their daughters are total dicks.

PP here, then my guess is that some of the parents aren’t as affluent as they’d like to seem. If Mom and Dad are struggling to keep up with the Jones’ they’re going to argue and fight about money. Kids pick up on those types of stresses. People who seem rich can be living huge paycheck to huge paycheck. I’ll bet you can find very mean girl behavior at the ritziest NYC private schools. No, what I’m talking about is the situations where everyone is truly, really financially well off and comfortable. When you’re parents are financially at ease, there’s a different atmosphere at home which leads to a better attitude outside of it.

Speaking as someone who has been referred to as adding “diversity” to an environment, I don’t think it helps with bullying. It only makes people like you less when you are different from how they are. I fail to see why people think it would aid in stopping mean girl behavior.

Being really, really, truly financially secure is the only thing I’ve seen that works.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.

This isnt our experience at a dc public school with affluent and diverse families. It is getting better in high school, but elementary and middle school were mean girl hell. And I agree that the moms are often surprisingly nice and clueless that their daughters are total dicks.

Anonymous wrote:One of the mean girls in my daughter’s class has a very nice mom. I don’t know how her daughter got to be so nasty. Her mom is either doesn’t notice or is “too nice” to know how to handle her own kid.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been surprised there’s no mean girl dynamic in DC’s class. I think it may because we have a very diverse student body in a highly educated area, so this helps.

This is a strange, because mean girl behavior has nothing to do with race or education. Mean girls are everywhere. You’re daughter is either unaware of them or is the mean girl.

There are bad people everywhere, but in my experience, mean girl behavior is less common in wealthier, homogeneous areas. By homogeneous I’m not talking about racial or ethnic commonality, I’m talking about financial homogeneity.

When everyone can afford to have the same things, there’s less jealousy and less overt meanness and exclusion. I’ve seen it over and over again, very rich people, no matter what their disposition, are outwardly polite.