Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 23:08     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so stupid to be precious about names. No one is going to “take” your name and even if they did - who cares. The world is obviously big enough for 7 million Jennifers. We told everyone the names we chose for our three kids.


I don't care about the "taking" of names I just don't want to hear your opinion on it.


IME, people will give opinions after the baby is born as well. Like my sister, who questioned my baby's name after coming home from the hospital (even though we never kept it a secret beforehand) then refused to share the name of her baby born a year later, which was the most popular name in the world at the time. Honestly, I don't care what people do but no one cares about your baby's name nearly as much as you do. Its like asking if its a boy or girl--no one really cares, its just something you ask to be nice.

Well, if no one cares, then it's fine not to share! Glad we're all in agreement.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 22:26     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
I think the “excluded” MIL brigade found this thread.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 22:15     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal to not share baby names you are thinking of or name you have decided on? Why?


They think the name is a precious commodity someone else might steal
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 22:13     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so stupid to be precious about names. No one is going to “take” your name and even if they did - who cares. The world is obviously big enough for 7 million Jennifers. We told everyone the names we chose for our three kids.


I don't care about the "taking" of names I just don't want to hear your opinion on it.


IME, people will give opinions after the baby is born as well. Like my sister, who questioned my baby's name after coming home from the hospital (even though we never kept it a secret beforehand) then refused to share the name of her baby born a year later, which was the most popular name in the world at the time. Honestly, I don't care what people do but no one cares about your baby's name nearly as much as you do. Its like asking if its a boy or girl--no one really cares, its just something you ask to be nice.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 22:12     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We shared our proposed middle names with the (adult) children of the person we were naming in honor of, in case they felt strongly about one or the other of her names being used.

Other than that we really didn’t have her first name decided until we met her and were sure it fit, and it seemed rude to tell other people her name before she even got to hear it…


The fit thing is bizarre to me…and rude? Girl please.


You do you, we thought it was ultimately going to be her name and more important to her than anyone else who wanted to weigh in about it.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 19:08     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:It’s so stupid to be precious about names. No one is going to “take” your name and even if they did - who cares. The world is obviously big enough for 7 million Jennifers. We told everyone the names we chose for our three kids.


I don't care about the "taking" of names I just don't want to hear your opinion on it.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 19:08     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am in the don't share camp. It's one of those things that nothing good can come from it. IMO.

My brother made me tell me parents my firstborn's name. They had no reaction, which I did not like. I wish I hadn't told any of them.

Then, my brother and his wife have their kids- and never reveal their names to any of us. Annnnd that basically tells you how I feel about them.


What a messed up and immature reaction. You say yourself it was a mistake then you’re mad he learned a lesson from your experience?


dp I guess because it was the brother who encouraged her? That was her first mistake to tell him!
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 19:05     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, we didn't share and told everyone we hadn't decided.
1) we have high drama family and didn't need the stress
2) the pregnancy was high risk and we held our breath through the whole of it. Didn't want to share.

Best decision we ever made.


Wow, seriously? Weird.


How so? I didn't share names and neither did my siblings. My sister faked me out and asked for suggestions and then I felt foolish for giving her some.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 19:02     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We shared our proposed middle names with the (adult) children of the person we were naming in honor of, in case they felt strongly about one or the other of her names being used.

Other than that we really didn’t have her first name decided until we met her and were sure it fit, and it seemed rude to tell other people her name before she even got to hear it…


The fit thing is bizarre to me…and rude? Girl please.


The fit thing is real. Sometimes the name you pick doesn't work with the baby and you need to go to Plan B.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 18:49     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:We shared our proposed middle names with the (adult) children of the person we were naming in honor of, in case they felt strongly about one or the other of her names being used.

Other than that we really didn’t have her first name decided until we met her and were sure it fit, and it seemed rude to tell other people her name before she even got to hear it…


The fit thing is bizarre to me…and rude? Girl please.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 18:48     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
It’s so stupid to be precious about names. No one is going to “take” your name and even if they did - who cares. The world is obviously big enough for 7 million Jennifers. We told everyone the names we chose for our three kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 17:01     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
We shared our proposed middle names with the (adult) children of the person we were naming in honor of, in case they felt strongly about one or the other of her names being used.

Other than that we really didn’t have her first name decided until we met her and were sure it fit, and it seemed rude to tell other people her name before she even got to hear it…
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 12:50     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
Anonymous wrote:This is pretty normal among our family and friends. We didn’t share the name for our two kids — didn’t want anyone’s opinion on it. A lot easier for folks to give a negative opinion/comment before the baby is actually here!


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 12:17     Subject: Couples who don’t share baby name
I know some people think it's bad luck to share.

We shared after we had firmly decided, though not on social media/any written correspondence like baby shower invites. For whatever reason, feels right to us to wait to do that until he is born. (I am 37 weeks now.) We did the same thing with our first.

People's opinions don't bother me. The only negative reaction we got was from my MIL who was mad that we used my dad's name as the middle. Her deal, not ours. And she would have thrown the same hissy fit if she found out later.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2023 11:14     Subject: Re: Couples who don’t share baby name
We didn’t share because we weren’t 100% sure of the name but had a list. There’s was one name I was 90% confident would be her name but changed it while in labor and only at that point felt 100% certain it would be her name and it was. When I shared with people some of the names on the list, they would offer an opinion which I found annoying so I stopped telling people.