Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:59
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Bizarre people on this thread!
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:57
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband is less attuned to this than I am. Less upbringing and more about being a man. They are simple, simple beings.
I keep a basket in the pantry now... which functions as a "No DH" food basket. School specific snacks for DS go in there. I no longer have to get mad at DH and look around for non-existent school snacks 2 days after stocking up on granola bars.
If I buy ice cream bars, DH knows they are FOR ME unless I offer him one, because I might only eat one or two a week, but look for them the next week. He buys his own ice cream now lol. But I'm also nice and always think of things I can buy just for him. I put his foods up on a high shelf so he can grab whenever. His family eats a lot whenever they walk through the kitchen and through the day, so he is used to grazing, eating granola bars or chips before and after dinner.
His family sounds fat.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:57
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Efficiency is valued in our household. A waste of everyone's time to be messaging about what's in the refrigerator and who should eat it!
I would find the effort put into this most annoying.
Yes, plus I'm out to lunch and have to deal with DH texting me about eating leftover pizza while I'm eating at a restaurant? No thanks! Just eat it! Having to constantly walk on eggshells around the people you live with is very tiresome.
We have six children. Yeah, no thanks on the texts. It would be constant and so annoying.
Leftovers are fair game, unless someone has labeled them. In my large family, it’s “no name, fair game” for food.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:56
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:My husband is less attuned to this than I am. Less upbringing and more about being a man. They are simple, simple beings.
I keep a basket in the pantry now... which functions as a "No DH" food basket. School specific snacks for DS go in there. I no longer have to get mad at DH and look around for non-existent school snacks 2 days after stocking up on granola bars.
If I buy ice cream bars, DH knows they are FOR ME unless I offer him one, because I might only eat one or two a week, but look for them the next week. He buys his own ice cream now lol. But I'm also nice and always think of things I can buy just for him. I put his foods up on a high shelf so he can grab whenever. His family eats a lot whenever they walk through the kitchen and through the day, so he is used to grazing, eating granola bars or chips before and after dinner.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:56
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
I don’t think this is an only child thing per se, but I understand - and I happen to be an only child. I didn’t grow up with a formal dibs system, but from the time I was a teenager my relationship with my parents was more like roommates than parent/child. Similar to my later communal living situations, there were some things that were considered “house” goods and some things that were assumed to belong to specific people. With my parents it was probably 80% communal and 20% individual while later with friends in my 20s it was more like 20/80.
Even now in my house with 2 elementary age kids, there are certain foods or consumable goods that are purchased with a specific individual in mind. One child eats Brie cheese. One child loves dried mango. Other people can eat the Brie, but no one would ever eat all of it without asking the kid who packs it in his lunch. I love dried mango, but my kids love it more and I prioritize making sure we have plenty before I snack on it. No one calls dibs, but everyone is aware of what other family members prioritize and try to be thoughtful.
Even now in my house with 2 elementary age kids, there are certain foods or consumable goods that are purchased with a specific individual in mind. One child eats Brie cheese. One child loves dried mango. Other people can eat the Brie, but no one would ever eat all of it without asking the kid who packs it in his lunch. I love dried mango, but my kids love it more and I prioritize making sure we have plenty before I snack on it. No one calls dibs, but everyone is aware of what other family members prioritize and try to be thoughtful.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:53
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
Courteous, maybe. But overkill. Team DH here.
The only thing killed would be my husband if he touches my pizza. And he knows it.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:51
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Efficiency is valued in our household. A waste of everyone's time to be messaging about what's in the refrigerator and who should eat it!
I would find the effort put into this most annoying.
Yes, plus I'm out to lunch and have to deal with DH texting me about eating leftover pizza while I'm eating at a restaurant? No thanks! Just eat it! Having to constantly walk on eggshells around the people you live with is very tiresome.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:50
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
My husband is less attuned to this than I am. Less upbringing and more about being a man. They are simple, simple beings.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:49
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Efficiency is valued in our household. A waste of everyone's time to be messaging about what's in the refrigerator and who should eat it!
I would find the effort put into this most annoying.
I would find the effort put into this most annoying.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:49
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
Courteous, maybe. But overkill. Team DH here.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:48
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
That's fine. It works for us. I like pizza more than him, so sometimes in fact he cedes his leftover slice to me! I don't ask for it, he just offers it.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:47
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
Hit send too soon - I love pizza, but there will be other pizzas!
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:47
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
Hit send too soon - I love pizza, but there will be other pizzas!
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:46
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.
See, I think it would be courteous of him to ask (and I'd think the same if you had eaten more of the pizza the first time around as it's always courteous to ask before finishing the last of something), but I can't imagine saying no!
Anonymous
09/21/2023 15:38
Subject: “First come, first serve” household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of this could be solved by making more food for meals so there's plenty for everybody to get their fill at mealtime + leftovers that can be first come/first serve.
In our house, family-style takeout (pizza, Chinese) is fair game. We order plenty of food for whoever is home at mealtime and then any leftovers are first come/first serve. It's not like, there are 4 of us and 16 slices of pizza so each person gets 4 slices to eat now or later. Nope, eat however much you want now, and the rest is fair game.
If there are leftovers of individually-ordered items (like we all go out to dinner and DD brings home half her pasta dish) it belongs to the person who ordered it.
Totally different in my house. If my husband eats 3 slices of pizza and I eat 2, then I have 2 slices coming to me and he has 1. He would never eat my leftover pizza. He knows it will not end well for him.
This mentality is so strange. People eat different amounts. You expect the same exact portion for each person.
I will say, though, that since my DH and I were not raised by wolves, we always ask each other if they wanted more of something before we finish it. when a household gets big it's not always feasible to check with everyone, and it should be considered fair game unless you yourself set aside a porch with your name on it.
People eat different amounts at one time, but given enough time, I can eat the same amount of pizza as my husband. Why should he get more of that cheesy, tomatoey goodness just because he has a bigger stomach? I can have my two leftover slices for lunch, he can have his one leftover slice and a side salad for lunch.
DP with a question: Say it's the day after your pizza dinner and those 3 leftover slices are in the fridge. It's lunchtime and you are out of the house grabbing lunch with a friend. He's home and hungry. Can he eat the leftovers or does he still have to save 2 of them for you?
He would ask me and I would answer depending on what I was feeling like.