Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:57     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
I agree it's mostly pointless, OP, but I go anyway if I am available and my teen still wants me to go. Also, I am just kind of curious to meet the teachers, though I know my meeting them doesn't really accomplish anything. No judgement if you don't go!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:30     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you go. It's called being a parent.


Anything to make yourself feel superior.


You sound lazy.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:20     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
it is kind of fun. It made me realize that my kid was getting 15,000 steps a day just walking between classes.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:13     Subject: Re:Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
*going
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:12     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of helicopters! You aren’t needed in your kid’s relationships with their teachers. You don’t need to see what the teacher is wearing and your opinion on whether or not the teacher is nice (like you can even tell in 10 minutes) isn’t of any value. Your kids can handle middle school without you seeing the desks.


You can absolutely tell who the jerks are.

But there's no reason for you to be triggered by the fact that other parents are hoping.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:12     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


+2
Yep.
It shows you take school seriously; you know, the whole leading by example thing?

Plus, don't you want a snapshot of your kid's day at school? It helps put things into context op.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:07     Subject: Re:Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
You go, and you dress nicely.

These teachers are teaching your kid, they're staying late, and you show up for them. Should they sit in front of an empty (or 2-3 parents) classroom that night?

You also go for your kid who asked you to see her work.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:05     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


Me. I don’t need to see any of that. How does that make you a better parent, seeing where they spend their day and knowing what their teachers look like?


So if your spouse invites you to work happy hours so you can put faces to names, you're like no, not interested!

These are the people your child deals with. And the op's child wants the parent to go.

Sorry... it's embarrassing and sad when the kids are talking about their parents attending the night before and you know your parents just didn't give a s*** to come. Your disinterest in your child's life speaks volumes.


I know how you meant this but this is true. I don’t want to grab a drink with my husband and his colleagues, ever. They have work happy hours at my job too and no one ever brings a spouse. They could come but why would they want to? That sounds worse than BTSN because you have to make small talk.


I just don't think this is about what you feel like doing. If your spouse wanted you to go, I think you should. If OP's child wants her to go, I think she should.

If your top priority is living your best life and doing what you want when you want, go with God, I guess.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 08:03     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


Me. I don’t need to see any of that. How does that make you a better parent, seeing where they spend their day and knowing what their teachers look like?


So if your spouse invites you to work happy hours so you can put faces to names, you're like no, not interested!

These are the people your child deals with. And the op's child wants the parent to go.

Sorry... it's embarrassing and sad when the kids are talking about their parents attending the night before and you know your parents just didn't give a s*** to come. Your disinterest in your child's life speaks volumes.


You don’t invite your spouse to happy hour to put faces to names. It’s not a 10 minute meet and greet. You go to happy hour to hang out, drink, and get to know their colleagues. Not remotely the same thing.



ok but in the OP's case her child wants her to go to this school event
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 06:37     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
This is not an Open House, OP. It’s Back to School Night. And yes, you should suck it up and go.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 06:35     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


Me. I don’t need to see any of that. How does that make you a better parent, seeing where they spend their day and knowing what their teachers look like?


So if your spouse invites you to work happy hours so you can put faces to names, you're like no, not interested!

These are the people your child deals with. And the op's child wants the parent to go.

Sorry... it's embarrassing and sad when the kids are talking about their parents attending the night before and you know your parents just didn't give a s*** to come. Your disinterest in your child's life speaks volumes.


Middle school kids do not talk about who’s parents attended the open house.

To their teachers they do!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 06:32     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Why are all of the open houses on 9/7??

I had the opposite problem of having kids at different schools with conflicting open houses — forcing me to choose kids/schools!!

I’m super disappointed that I couldn’t make it to both!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 06:15     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


Me. I don’t need to see any of that. How does that make you a better parent, seeing where they spend their day and knowing what their teachers look like?


So if your spouse invites you to work happy hours so you can put faces to names, you're like no, not interested!

These are the people your child deals with. And the op's child wants the parent to go.

Sorry... it's embarrassing and sad when the kids are talking about their parents attending the night before and you know your parents just didn't give a s*** to come. Your disinterest in your child's life speaks volumes.


I know how you meant this but this is true. I don’t want to grab a drink with my husband and his colleagues, ever. They have work happy hours at my job too and no one ever brings a spouse. They could come but why would they want to? That sounds worse than BTSN because you have to make small talk.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 21:17     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


+1

WTH. I'd be embarrassed not to have this knowledge of the school, which other parents have.

"Wow didn't you think Ms. Lee seemed really nice? Idk but Larla says she's strict. What did you think? I'm glad she said not to stress about the fall project because Larla was worried."

"oh idk I really didn't feel like going to the open house. The parking is so annoying! Ya know??"

X six classes

Like, why have kids


Such an important requirement to parent - going to BTS night. Nailed it PP!
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2023 21:15     Subject: Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is baffling. Who doesn't want to see the classrooms, put a face to the names of the teachers, see the places you child spends their day?? Not to mention the lesson you teach your child. They'll care about school as much as you do.


Me. I don’t need to see any of that. How does that make you a better parent, seeing where they spend their day and knowing what their teachers look like?


So if your spouse invites you to work happy hours so you can put faces to names, you're like no, not interested!

These are the people your child deals with. And the op's child wants the parent to go.

Sorry... it's embarrassing and sad when the kids are talking about their parents attending the night before and you know your parents just didn't give a s*** to come. Your disinterest in your child's life speaks volumes.


You don’t invite your spouse to happy hour to put faces to names. It’s not a 10 minute meet and greet. You go to happy hour to hang out, drink, and get to know their colleagues. Not remotely the same thing.