Anonymous wrote:I have bad memories of a sleepover at a friend’s house whose father was a real creeper. I was totally unsettled and my friend made us go through his playboy stash and look at photos of naked women. This was a respectable family in the community too. I was 8 years old and never wanted to go back. My kids now have zero interest in sleepovers and I’m totally fine with that. If they really wanted to go, I would consider, but only with people we know very well.

Yuck- I had a similar experience, but with a movie (not the dad, but the kids). I felt so icky. I let my daughter go to a couple in elementary school, but I knew the parents. My now HS child doesn't want to invite anyone here for one though. I think she's embarrassed about our house. She calls in "dingy," but it really isn't- just old.

Europeans don’t do sleep overs

Asians don’t do sleep overs

Black people don’t do sleep overs

Latinos don’t do sleepovers

This is a very “new world” whites thing

Anonymous wrote:The no sleepover families are just hiding their strange families. Don’t want their kids spilling the beans when left out of their grasp.

I agree. When righteous families say they don’t allow them, we know why lol

Anonymous wrote:In the world of anti social introverts that stare at screens, you are making it worse OP

Sleepovers are fun, relaxing, and give a long period of time in over-scheduled world for kids to get to know each other.

I have so many core sleepover memories and my two daughters love them too

Being an introvert is not a disease. Let them do their thing, like they let you idiots free to be.

Anonymous wrote:The no sleepover families are just hiding their strange families. Don’t want their kids spilling the beans when left out of their grasp.

Yeah, right. That’s not the first thing that comes to mind. You’re strange.

The no sleepover families are just hiding their strange families. Don’t want their kids spilling the beans when left out of their grasp.

Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

That's because a party is large and hard to reschedule, but a sleepover is usually a very small gathering, and so hosts typically try to accommodate the guests by changing the date. This is meant to be a nice gesture, so that your Larla feels included rather than left out of a small gathering with close friends. Why do you interpret it as outrage or pushiness? If you simply said to me, "Sorry, but Larla is not allowed to do sleepovers at her age." I would be totally fine about it, and I would not bother you again with a sleepover invite.

I guess I grew up in a normal neighborhood with normal families. Loved having sleepovers and going to them.

But I wouldn’t sleep over random houses. These were cousins, neighbors, and school friends whose houses I have already been in many times. If something felt off, I just wouldn’t go there anymore and say no to a sleepover

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

A strict “no sleepovers” policy is too often borne out of a parent’s transphobic prejudice.

I think it’s former sexual assault or childhood abuse.

+1

Some moms, if they only hvae one gender of DC, get irrational - but I think it is because they were sexually abused or sexually assaulted, at some point, and don't want to come out and say it. Which is fine, but don't make assumptions about other houses.

I also find that first generation (my parents) do not approve of sleepovers, in general.

I am in the nope camp and was not abused. I witnessed inter-family creepiness bordering on incest/abuse during a sleepover.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a fun and unique rite of passage. Why the mock outrage on your part?

And: obviously, if you say no to a party they aren’t going to try to reschedule the party for everyone. But if it’s a one on one invite (for a sleepover) it’s natural to ask about alternate dates

I went through this rite of passage and am skipping with my own kids. The things I witnessed... Nope Nope Nopetty Nope Nope Nope!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

A strict “no sleepovers” policy is too often borne out of a parent’s transphobic prejudice.

I think it’s former sexual assault or childhood abuse.

+1

Some moms, if they only hvae one gender of DC, get irrational - but I think it is because they were sexually abused or sexually assaulted, at some point, and don't want to come out and say it. Which is fine, but don't make assumptions about other houses.

I also find that first generation (my parents) do not approve of sleepovers, in general.

Anonymous wrote:No one sleeps well.

They overeat processed chips, ice cream and dessert.

Watch stupid movies and pull pranks

No one functions the next day well.

Who has time for that? Does your kid usually have nothing to do or go to on weekends?

This is exactly why they are needed. Step away from your insane schedules and let kids be KIDS!!!

So what if they need a day or so to recover. Is that literally the end of the world? Give me a break

Anonymous wrote:In the world of anti social introverts that stare at screens, you are making it worse OP

Sleepovers are fun, relaxing, and give a long period of time in over-scheduled world for kids to get to know each other.

I have so many core sleepover memories and my two daughters love them too

This.

In the world of anti social introverts that stare at screens, you are making it worse OP

Sleepovers are fun, relaxing, and give a long period of time in over-scheduled world for kids to get to know each other.

I have so many core sleepover memories and my two daughters love them too

Vote fun memories

You are a H E L I C O P T E R and just trying to rationalize