Anonymous wrote:My wife visited her mother halfway across the country for a week every month. She was extremely hard of hearing and legally blind. She died at 95 in assisted living in the late spring of 2020 after they closed off the facility to visitors because of Covid.

She still misses her every day.

You’re a shrew, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I do find the volume on the TV to be a huge, huge challenge. I suffer from misophonia so loud sounds - not all - are really hard for me. I try to turn down the volume when they are not looking. I don't watch many screens, but when I do, I try to keep the volume down to train myself for this age.

Or you could get earplugs or Banz or whatever. They probably have age related hearing loss, which does not always necessitate hearing aids, which can be their own unique challenge. Why are you changing their environment to suit you instead of understanding it’s their environment and you should adapt for your short term stay?

I'm not the OP, so work on your reading comprehension if you want to go in blast mode.

I do try to turn it down because they want to talk with me while the TV is in some astronomically high volume range. I just went through this with ILs and found it hard to have critical conversations with them when the TV is dominating the air. MiL initiates these topics then keeps on saying "what, what."

NP. Have them put on subtitles and leave the volume at a normal level. That’s what my parents do.

Anonymous wrote:My wife visited her mother halfway across the country for a week every month. She was extremely hard of hearing and legally blind. She died at 95 in assisted living in the late spring of 2020 after they closed off the facility to visitors because of Covid.

She still misses her every day.

You’re a shrew, OP.

Anonymous wrote:LOL. No.
First couple of days, I get the lay of the land. Then I take over. Cleaning, sorting, organizing, downsizing, house repair or upkeep, checking supplies.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re an adult, aren’t you? 8am is not 6 am. What time do you need to sleep in until? I’m hardly old but by 8 am I’ve had a long chat with my best friend, and done a good chunk of the housework for the day.

Suuurrreeee . . .

NP. I agree with PP. What are you doing with your life that you aren’t fully awake and functional by 8:00?

NP nothing good happens before 8am. I trained my kids from about 3 years old to be as quiet as a mouse in the morning. They color, play silently and then we party when parents wake up.

Besides, it's a Saturday morning. I get waking up for work or school, but why do adults need to wake up on Saturdays?!

You sleep late when you’re hosting a houseguest like OP’s parents are?

Anonymous wrote:8am is a perfectly acceptable time to be up and starting the day. Get ear plugs.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I used to feel that way. My other was sanctimoniously loud early in the morning. It was annoying.

Now my parents are so disabled they need twenty four seven care. We have caregivers listening to random videos on their iPhone and talking loudly to their friends. My parents cannot get out of bed without hoyer lifts. They cannot place phone calls.

So, what you describe is not so bad to me anymore. I recommend you stay at an Airbnb or hotel and try to appreciate that your parents are still able to do things like call people and make breakfast. Hopefully your parents will not degrade to the point my parents have. Hopefully they will die quickly without a long period of disability. But if they wind up like mine, you will look back at your younger self and realize how petty your complaints are.

But yes, old people’s homes are often uncomfortable. Old mattresses, early morning wake ups, etc. Stay elsewhere if you find you don’t sleep well because that will make you irritable and lead to the trip being less nice.

Anonymous wrote:Did you start the thread about old people at bad restaurants as well?

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Anonymous wrote:You’re an adult, aren’t you? 8am is not 6 am. What time do you need to sleep in until? I’m hardly old but by 8 am I’ve had a long chat with my best friend, and done a good chunk of the housework for the day.

Suuurrreeee . . .

NP. I agree with PP. What are you doing with your life that you aren’t fully awake and functional by 8:00?

NP nothing good happens before 8am. I trained my kids from about 3 years old to be as quiet as a mouse in the morning. They color, play silently and then we party when parents wake up.

Besides, it's a Saturday morning. I get waking up for work or school, but why do adults need to wake up on Saturdays?!

You sleep late when you’re hosting a houseguest like OP’s parents are?

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Anonymous wrote:You’re an adult, aren’t you? 8am is not 6 am. What time do you need to sleep in until? I’m hardly old but by 8 am I’ve had a long chat with my best friend, and done a good chunk of the housework for the day.

Suuurrreeee . . .

NP. I agree with PP. What are you doing with your life that you aren’t fully awake and functional by 8:00?

NP nothing good happens before 8am. I trained my kids from about 3 years old to be as quiet as a mouse in the morning. They color, play silently and then we party when parents wake up.

Besides, it's a Saturday morning. I get waking up for work or school, but why do adults need to wake up on Saturdays?!