Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:51     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:There have been so many horrible stories about lost mail and not getting RSVPs back. This is likely a half step to avoid that.

You've used a phone before, I'm sure you can figure it out and instruct your parents on how to take a picture with theirs.


In our family a couple had online rsvp's only. A couple of elderly people (80's and 90's) didn't have cell phones and had never used a computer. One got someone to reply for her. The other phoned the couple and said "I'm coming to your wedding. I didn't know how else to tell you."
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:49     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. I am a millennial and I would be peeved.



Why?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:45     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
I have no issues with a QR code but the bride and groom better be prepared to get a bunch of questions/complaints from boomer relatives.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:38     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Our wedding was in 2018. We sent out save-the-date postcards and emails with our wedding website URL. On both the postcard and the ema we directed guests to go to our wedding website to RSVP.

It was an unmitigated disaster. People didn’t read directions carefully on the postcard (other than marking the date on their calendar). Old people don’t do stuff on websites. We pinged so many people a month out and the typical response was “oh I’m coming, I was just waiting to get an RSVP card” or “Crap I totally forgot to register on the website - will be there!”

So yeah, you need to send a physical RSVP card. People get busy and forgot. Lots of old people are tech adverse.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:26     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:Millennials enforcing outdated wedding etiquette is so boring. Who cares? The whole wedding industry is absurd.


This!!

It's amazing how some of these things live on and on and cause such outrage while the rest of the world moves on.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:24     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is a thing.
It is a shame - because I love reading all of the handwritten note cards from friends and family RSVPing to our wedding.
We pull them out (with our wedding album) and look at them. It is fun for our kids as well.

It clearly is a dated way - and was not as efficient. But there is a value to it as well.



You go back and read if someone checked the chicken or beef box? That's insane. Who the heck is writing keepsake notes on RSVP cards?


I also would like to know the answer.

[NP]
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:23     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Ridiculous. I am a millennial and I would be peeved.

Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 15:19     Subject: Re:Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
I think its fine but I would also include the website address and/or an email address for those who aren't as tech-savvy.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 14:12     Subject: Re:Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
I just got a handwritten invitation in the mail to a dog's second birthday party. It's adorable and I put it on the fridge.
Funny the way life works.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 14:05     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:It is a thing.
It is a shame - because I love reading all of the handwritten note cards from friends and family RSVPing to our wedding.
We pull them out (with our wedding album) and look at them. It is fun for our kids as well.

It clearly is a dated way - and was not as efficient. But there is a value to it as well.



You go back and read if someone checked the chicken or beef box? That's insane. Who the heck is writing keepsake notes on RSVP cards?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2023 14:04     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
N*GASP* not a QR code. How dare they not spend extra money on sending me an invitation. Nothing is more annoying than to send a self addressed stamped envelope and people still not RSVP'ing. QR code is perfect and it's not hard grandma. You literally just open your camera and follow the instructions.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2023 21:28     Subject: Wedding RSVP - QR Code Only
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"I much prefer an RSVP card."

Why?


Still waiting for a response to this. I'll open it up to anyone besides OP - what is preferable about an RSVP card?


I'm not OP
I'm really against the "necessity" of smart phones in general. I started a thread about it a couple years ago. There were a few things I had recently experienced that led me to write the thread.
One was that I was taking one of my kids to their college orientation in a city several states away. We live in the far out suburbs with no real practical bus service, so I had hoped that while we were in the city we could use the bus system a couple times, just so he would know how to use it if needed. I was annoyed that the city's bus system involves downloading an app--you can't just walk on the bus and hand the driver exact change. And even with the app-it's not like he could just download and pay for both of us--each customer has to download their own app!
Another thing is just getting in to any sporting even now requires downloading an app. My other kid's high school only allows admission via an app. A 14 year old freshman that wants to go to the football game with his friends can't just bring a $10 and buy a ticket and some snacks at the concession stand--he has to download an app and pay via the app.

I see comments here and other places about kids/teens being on smartphones too much and how parents shouldn't allow their kids to have smart phones, etc. but it's literally getting to the point where you can't function in society without one. It's ridiculous--and QR codes at restaurants (I refuse, and ask for a regular menu!) and now wedding RSVPs? No. I'm not doing it.


At least on public buses/trains, the apps don't usually work anyway so the driver will just let you get on for free.