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Anonymous wrote:NP. I had a friend who said she only looked at private schools because "I want him to go to school with normal kids."

Is inclusion just disregarded as important? How will your friends kids react by seeing "disabled" kids?

Honest question - aside from family members, how many "disabled" adults do you interact with during your day-to-day? Especially at work. Inclusion in public school does not equal inclusion in the workplace or social settings.

Moreover, how many disabled adults with significant behavioral disabilities? I only see them on the subway, and my reaction is to move away.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not wrong. As a society we have decided that kids with disabilities are more important than anyone else. I’m not disagreeing with that. But you have to realize that mainstreaming means that teachers attention won’t be on how to make the smartest kids smarter. No, it’s how to get the slowest kids to grade level.

I truly wish they did more tracking and also allowed kids to move fluidly through tracks. It would give teachers more uniform classes to work with. Kindergarten wouldn’t be some kids who are reading small chapter books and others who know no letters and don’t speak English.

I don't know that the bolded statement is true. I think it's similar to a parent trying to figure out who is more important, their special needs child who requires so much time, attention, money, patience, resources, etc. or their other children. How do you figure that out?

Anonymous wrote:I am physically disabled person from birth. In the 80s when my mother went to register me for kindergarten at our neighborhood school, they refused to agree to put me in a mainstream classroom and wanted to warehouse me in a separate building with all "disabled kids" as in physical, mental, developmental, behavioral, all together aka special ed.

You know who would gladly take me: the three private schools in my town. So maybe OP privates are more inclusive than your preconceived mind thinks. Spend a lot of time with disabled people?

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing her work as a social worker is impacting her feelings. My job gives allows me to see behind the curtain of a certain industry and it has definitely made me more cynical.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a rich white lady with a profoundly disabled kid. While your SIL sounds like a jerk in how she said it, much of what she said is true. IDEA has never been fully funded. Schools don’t have the money to truly support kids with disabilities. And behavioral issues are particularly tough when the kid actually has the academic ability to perform in a mainstream class (this is where least restrictive environment gets tricky).

And people who preach inclusion are often focused on some ABC Family Movie of the Week version of disabilities they watched in the 80s. My 14 year old wears diapers, has no functional communication, and drools onto her bib all day. She is a baby cognitively. No, I don’t want her pushed into a mainstream environment in any way, shape or form. And, I actually do support inclusion for many kids —
But without appropriate funding, we have to realize it is a mess.

It is a tough place for everyone to be. The reality is that even though I’m rich, I will never have enough money to pay for the 24-7 care my daughter needs. She will end up in a Medicaid funded intermediate care facility (assuming republicans don’t fit Medicaid). It is a mess.

I’m confused, you are rich, but you can’t afford 24x7 care for your daughter? Is it because you just don’t want to spend your money on that kind of care because it will no longer allow you to be rich?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a rich white lady with a profoundly disabled kid. While your SIL sounds like a jerk in how she said it, much of what she said is true. IDEA has never been fully funded. Schools don’t have the money to truly support kids with disabilities. And behavioral issues are particularly tough when the kid actually has the academic ability to perform in a mainstream class (this is where least restrictive environment gets tricky).

And people who preach inclusion are often focused on some ABC Family Movie of the Week version of disabilities they watched in the 80s. My 14 year old wears diapers, has no functional communication, and drools onto her bib all day. She is a baby cognitively. No, I don’t want her pushed into a mainstream environment in any way, shape or form. And, I actually do support inclusion for many kids —
But without appropriate funding, we have to realize it is a mess.

It is a tough place for everyone to be. The reality is that even though I’m rich, I will never have enough money to pay for the 24-7 care my daughter needs. She will end up in a Medicaid funded intermediate care facility (assuming republicans don’t fit Medicaid). It is a mess.

I’m confused, you are rich, but you can’t afford 24x7 care for your daughter? Is it because you just don’t want to spend your money on that kind of care because it will no longer allow you to be rich?

Anonymous wrote:I’m a rich white lady with a profoundly disabled kid. While your SIL sounds like a jerk in how she said it, much of what she said is true. IDEA has never been fully funded. Schools don’t have the money to truly support kids with disabilities. And behavioral issues are particularly tough when the kid actually has the academic ability to perform in a mainstream class (this is where least restrictive environment gets tricky).

And people who preach inclusion are often focused on some ABC Family Movie of the Week version of disabilities they watched in the 80s. My 14 year old wears diapers, has no functional communication, and drools onto her bib all day. She is a baby cognitively. No, I don’t want her pushed into a mainstream environment in any way, shape or form. And, I actually do support inclusion for many kids —
But without appropriate funding, we have to realize it is a mess.

It is a tough place for everyone to be. The reality is that even though I’m rich, I will never have enough money to pay for the 24-7 care my daughter needs. She will end up in a Medicaid funded intermediate care facility (assuming republicans don’t fit Medicaid). It is a mess.

Anonymous wrote:It’s naïve to think that private schools don’t get any special needs kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't believe this conversation happened but if it did, she has every right to that opinion.

Absolutely.

Not for kindergarten, but my ds was in a class with a spitting, chair throwing table flipper. The room was evacuated weekly, on average. Things were broken, other kids were scared. I would have avoided that if I could.

The kid eventually threw something at a display case and broke the glass. That got him expelled finally.

You are vile. This entire post was created just so azzhats like you can call kids with disabilities names.

Anonymous wrote:My SIL was a social worker and now is in a management position.

We had a casual family brunch last weekend. I asked her about which school she is sending her child to for kindergarten, and I mused that maybe our kids would be in the same class.

She gave me a look and said there was no way she would put her kid in public school, that she has a spot at a private school for kindergarten. I asked her why?

She basically said she is refusing to put her kid in the public school system because of the teacher shortage and lack of aides for kids with behavioral or developmental problems. She said that she felt too many parents rely on the school system to support, feed, and take care of children, especially children with disabilities or behavioral problems. She said she went to a poor, rural school herself and had a terrible time. That there were too many kids with behavioral problems who would "flip tables" and the classroom would need to be evacuated. She said (and get this) "At least private schools screen out kids with that kind of behavioral problem."

I told her she is being ridiculous, that disabled children matter too and inclusion is healthy. She looked at me and said she is putting her son in part-time kindergarten at a private school and has "no desire" to put him in public school. She basically went on this big rant that too many families are dependent on the school system to raise their kids and provide services, she said kids being out of parental care for 50+ hours/week in before/after school care is harmful and that most schools simply do not have the resources to support kids with severe disabilities. She is a social worker and is supposed to recognize and understand the hardships families go through and not judge, it felt like she was just judging anyone who needs extra support.

All 3 of my children will be going to public school. We live in a good school district and I was quite offended by her statement. I haven't told her this, but we are waiting on an assessment for my youngest child and he may need an IEP. I was shocked she would be so bigoted towards poor families and children with disabilities.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I had a friend who said she only looked at private schools because "I want him to go to school with normal kids."

Is inclusion just disregarded as important? How will your friends kids react by seeing "disabled" kids?

Honest question - aside from family members, how many "disabled" adults do you interact with during your day-to-day? Especially at work. Inclusion in public school does not equal inclusion in the workplace or social settings.